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How do I get lodger to leave

170 replies

Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 13:00

Lodger doesn’t have a written agreement. been here 1.6 years.

His behaviour has got worse recently and I’m sick of it. I’m not happy in my own home. So I asked him to leave.

There was an incident which I was waiting for.

i don’t think he realises he has to move.

so I’m going to follow up with a what’s app message.

any tips or anything? I don’t want to get into a dialogue.

OP posts:
Snoozer11 · 20/08/2022 19:54

Imagine being so sad that you're wildest fantasy is to buy a computer desk from IKEA whilst having a lodger who owns a motorcycle.

Original poster
Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 20:10

Snoozer11 · 20/08/2022 19:54

Imagine being so sad that you're wildest fantasy is to buy a computer desk from IKEA whilst having a lodger who owns a motorcycle.

Wasn’t from ikea.

I guess you aren’t a home owner

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Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 20:19

HikingforScenery · 20/08/2022 18:12

Give him 4weeks OP.

I agree you don’t sound like you’re compatible with a lodger situation but at least give him a chance to find a place to live

No, I’m not compatible with a man child who has never taken in our out any bin. Never empties the recycling. Everything surrounding him moving his bike is “do I have to”. He thought it was acceptable to hook his laptop to the main tv and play a shooting game all night. Shaves next to his bedroom mirror and the floor is full of hair. Has cooked maybe ten times, constantly orders take away and eats on the sofa. Wants me to go and speak to neighbours about them leaving a sofa on their front garden, if I ask him to do anything it’s a constant why etc.

oh I’ve also been told to “play nice” when I was struggling to get the guy to return about the ring camera, I asked him not to store his convers in an outside box and leave it in the shed and he made an issue about it, because again lazy. He will put his take away wrappers in the recycling bin including the bones etc.

lazy man child.

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Original poster
Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 20:23

Also….. wouldn’t do things like wipe the shower to stop the mould, which I can kinda understand but when I asked him to start putting the foot towels back up on the hooks it was “oh really”.

OP posts:
Snoozer11 · 20/08/2022 20:29

Is the neighbours with the sofa outside the halfway house in your deleted thread from yesterday?

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Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 20:40

Snoozer11 · 20/08/2022 20:29

Is the neighbours with the sofa outside the halfway house in your deleted thread from yesterday?

Nope. They are three doors down. Well of the road, says it reminds him of a council estate…. We live on a council estate

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Mummyoflittledragon · 20/08/2022 20:41

Yours isn’t the first disgruntled ll or tenant thread. If you look for another tenant, I can only suggest that you do it properly. Vet them, create a contract, agree ground rules and as you don’t like some of the guy’s behaviour, consider not allowing access to the living room... That is if the kitchen has a table to sit at and eat or you have a separate dining room. This way, you can be separate from your lodger.

I lodged many many years ago as a student. We lodgers only had access to the kitchen and bathroom. As for wiping down showers, I’m not sure you’ll find someone, who will definitely do that. But the person should be neat and tidy and leave a room as they found it. Cleaning is always a difficult one, I imagine. You say you could charge more, perhaps do so and get a cleaner?

BadNomad · 20/08/2022 20:53

For next time, it would be best if you have your terms and expectations put on paper. You do have some strong "house rules", so you really do need to make them clear before you bring someone in.

nickelbabe · 20/08/2022 21:01

Of these things, I am commenting whether you or he is being unreasonable.

who has never taken in our out any bin - I once had a lodger who wasn't bothered about the bin. I got angry about it. We compromised that she would put it out and I would bring it back. So yanbu.
Never empties the recycling. Yanbu, as above.
Everything surrounding him moving his bike is “do I have to”. Yanbu
He thought it was acceptable to hook his laptop to the main tv and play a shooting game all night. Yanbu
Shaves next to his bedroom mirror and the floor is full of hair. Yabu - his room, he can do what he likes
Has cooked maybe ten times, constantly orders take away and eats on the sofa. Yabu - who cares how he eats? As long as he cleans up after himself.
Wants me to go and speak to neighbours about them leaving a sofa on their front garden Yabu
if I ask him to do anything it’s a constant why etc. Yanbu

oh I’ve also been told to “play nice” when I was struggling to get the guy to return about the ring camera yanbu
I asked him not to store his convers in an outside box and leave it in the shed and he made an issue about it, because again lazy. Yabu - unless it's causing a burglary risk.
He will put his take away wrappers in the recycling bin including the bones etc. Yanbu. That's just disgusting.

Also….. wouldn’t do things like wipe the shower to stop the mould, which I can kinda understand definitely yanbu - basic cleanliness
but when I asked him to start putting the foot towels back up on the hooks it was “oh really”. I ddon't get what this one means.

Hth

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Poomamabear · 20/08/2022 21:27

nickelbabe · 20/08/2022 21:01

Of these things, I am commenting whether you or he is being unreasonable.

who has never taken in our out any bin - I once had a lodger who wasn't bothered about the bin. I got angry about it. We compromised that she would put it out and I would bring it back. So yanbu.
Never empties the recycling. Yanbu, as above.
Everything surrounding him moving his bike is “do I have to”. Yanbu
He thought it was acceptable to hook his laptop to the main tv and play a shooting game all night. Yanbu
Shaves next to his bedroom mirror and the floor is full of hair. Yabu - his room, he can do what he likes
Has cooked maybe ten times, constantly orders take away and eats on the sofa. Yabu - who cares how he eats? As long as he cleans up after himself.
Wants me to go and speak to neighbours about them leaving a sofa on their front garden Yabu
if I ask him to do anything it’s a constant why etc. Yanbu

oh I’ve also been told to “play nice” when I was struggling to get the guy to return about the ring camera yanbu
I asked him not to store his convers in an outside box and leave it in the shed and he made an issue about it, because again lazy. Yabu - unless it's causing a burglary risk.
He will put his take away wrappers in the recycling bin including the bones etc. Yanbu. That's just disgusting.

Also….. wouldn’t do things like wipe the shower to stop the mould, which I can kinda understand definitely yanbu - basic cleanliness
but when I asked him to start putting the foot towels back up on the hooks it was “oh really”. I ddon't get what this one means.

Hth

cusrious as to why I’m being unreasonable regarding the neighbours sofa? They had recently moved in and I generally didn’t care. The neighbours before were awful and I’m glad they left. he asked me three times “what are we going to do about the neighbours sofa” and each time I told him I don’t care and I’m not getting into any disputes with neighbours over something so petty. We have another neighbour which has a disgusting back garden full of rats. I defo got involved in that (and it was the sofa neighbour who asked me for advise).

The foot towels are what we use when we get out of the shower. They have a hook on the wall to hand them up, so they dry and also so that when you go to the bathroom you aren’t walking over them. He started to randomly leave them on the floor after six months.

If he wishes to keep his bike covers in storages boxes and sheds ive purchased, than I get a say on where it goes. Again I asked him to put it in the shed and he acted like Kevin from Kevin and Perry asking why he can’t keep it there. My house, my rules. And for the record it’s where I keep my hobby equipment. The shed is just as convenient as my storage box I keep my hobby equipment.

I’ve also got an air fryer and I was telling him how great it was and he should try it…. But he said “no than it’s an extra thing to clean” just shows how lazy he is.

Him spending lots of money on takeaways and not cooking is his concern however it just made him resent how lazy and disgusting he was by always eating on the sofa, never with a knife n fork etc…. Dirty fingers I’m sure.

OP posts:
Katieeb24 · 20/08/2022 23:13

But her situation wasn’t legit, and yours is not in legal writing. So I thought it would be somewhat similar her against him. You against him. I was just trying to give a point of view, if you was worried if legal action would be taken against you if you didn’t go about it the right way. But like I said I don’t know nothing🤣 I’m just trying to be helpful after one to many 🤦‍♀️😂

NotSure2324 · 20/08/2022 23:35

@Poomamabear

We have another neighbour which has a disgusting back garden full of rats. I defo got involved in that (and it was the sofa neighbour who asked me for advise).

You had a poster on your other thread (that got deleted) that spoke about a neighbour with a disgusting back garden full of rats. Strange coincidence.

Pixiedust1234 · 21/08/2022 00:02

I would text him a specific date and time he needs to leave. Follow up with a written letter under his door. Give him at least 2 weeks, prefably a month. The amount of posters making threads about how hard it is to find somewhere to rent must be a consideration unless your lodger is physically abusive, in which case call the police. It must be awful to have a fear of nowhere to sleep that night based on a whim of your LL wanting to kick you out immediately. Show a little compassion even if you don't like him.

fuckblippi · 21/08/2022 00:05

Why did the thread about the half way house get deleted?

ThinkingForEveryone · 21/08/2022 09:28

Jesus, what a shit show. Sounds worse than a plot in Eastenders 🙄

kittensinthekitchen · 21/08/2022 11:31

fuckblippi · 21/08/2022 00:05

Why did the thread about the half way house get deleted?

Suspicions about the OP, apparently.

Wonnle · 21/08/2022 12:37

NotSure2324 · 20/08/2022 23:35

@Poomamabear

We have another neighbour which has a disgusting back garden full of rats. I defo got involved in that (and it was the sofa neighbour who asked me for advise).

You had a poster on your other thread (that got deleted) that spoke about a neighbour with a disgusting back garden full of rats. Strange coincidence.

Do these rats only stay in that garden then ? Bet your garden has it's fair share of the long tailed critters as well .

Or do they lie on the sofa nibbling cheese ?

Wonnle · 21/08/2022 12:38

kittensinthekitchen · 21/08/2022 11:31

Suspicions about the OP, apparently.

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No shit Sherlock !

If you play that card half the treads on here would be deleted

mummymayhem18 · 21/08/2022 13:02

Cuckoo cuckoo comes to mind 🐦🤣. It's all a bit strange

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