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Traditions in his family are weird, If I have to do that. I will do it myself!!!

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newmumy2022 · 18/08/2022 09:00

My partner's family tradition is weird.
Must have had earrings in my daughter's ears when she was three months old.
I was resistant. But if I really had to do it, I would do it myself.

Is there anyone in or around Liverpool who has done Baby ear piercings?
Any good places to recommend?
And what kind of earrings should I prepare?

I wonder if maybe this kind of mini earrings could fit?

https://www.trendollajewelry.com/collections/nap-earrings/products/trendolla-king-crown-earrings-ball-back-earrings-nap-earrings

Help!!!
FFFF!!!

OP posts:
Bunnyannesummers · 18/08/2022 12:29

No reputable piercer will pierce a baby’s ears. There’s a reason for this.

please do not go to Claire’s and risk mutilating your daughter.

get some stick on gems if they’re insistent

Change123today · 18/08/2022 12:32

We had the same family tradition…it ended with our line not one of the cousins have pierced their children babies ears. My Gran has never mentioned it.

You can say no?

Johnnysgirl · 18/08/2022 12:32

KermitlovesKeyLimePie · 18/08/2022 12:27

I'm gonna say it, it looks common as muck!

Yes, I think 99.9% of people would agree.

SunnySwirl · 18/08/2022 12:33

That’s awful!!! Say no thanks.

AryaStarkWolf · 18/08/2022 12:40

Bunnyannesummers · 18/08/2022 12:29

No reputable piercer will pierce a baby’s ears. There’s a reason for this.

please do not go to Claire’s and risk mutilating your daughter.

get some stick on gems if they’re insistent

I don't think stick on Gems are a good idea either, sounds like a choking hazard to me if they fall off or if the baby pulls them off

Mariposista · 18/08/2022 12:45

No way! A tiny baby is beautiful as she is,she doesn’t need decorating like a doll. Hate seeing babies with pierced ears.

bruffin · 18/08/2022 12:47

Im half cypriot and was born in the early 60s. Greek cypriot tradition to pierce babys ears when they are born. My DM refused for all of us. We were allowed when we could look after them ourselves. I was 13 when i had mine done.

SnoozyLucy7 · 18/08/2022 12:49

newmumy2022 · 18/08/2022 09:41

Thanks for sharing your experience. Can you tell me, in what way did you go about rejecting it?

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By just saying no? Are they going to bully you like this for the rest of their lives? It’s your child, please stand up to them.

Etak123 · 18/08/2022 12:50

Oh gosh no! Please don’t let harm come to your child xx

imisscashmere · 18/08/2022 12:53

Advocate for your child and say no.

My DH’s family is very traditional, including (especially!) his parents. But when it came time to pierce his sister’s ears, my MiL said no. You can too.

Buggersticks · 18/08/2022 12:56

Just say no. Your child's health & wellbeing come before anything. It looks awful on babies. Let her decide when she's old enough.

TrashPandas · 18/08/2022 13:02

newmumy2022 · 18/08/2022 10:23

I am crying and laughing!
But does anyone here have any recommendations for ear piercing places?
and children's earrings?

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If anybody does have recommendations, stay far away from them. Because reputable piercers do not put holes in a three-month-old baby.

Peoniesandcream · 18/08/2022 13:03

You might "really care about your partner " but you should care about your baby more.

Disbeliefisnotanargument · 18/08/2022 13:05

newmumy2022 · 18/08/2022 09:51

I appreciate all of you!!
but!!
I really care about my partner!
I am worried about losing!!!

@newmumy2022 aw OP, “I am worried about losing!!!” Are you worried about losing your partner over this??
Is everything else okay? Why would you think this?

Hadjab · 18/08/2022 13:16

Blushingm · 18/08/2022 09:20

It's actually illegal now

It really isn't...

Eunorition · 18/08/2022 13:18

You're not gonna get any support for punching holes in a baby because of traditions. As a parent, it's your job to say no to painful cosmetic procedures your daughter cannot consent to.

diddl · 18/08/2022 13:30

Greek cypriot tradition to pierce babys ears when they are born.

Do you know why?

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 18/08/2022 13:33

I am worried about losing !!!

I would've read this as worried about losing the arguement .
Not wanting to go against the DP family tradition , but at the same time wants to forcibly insert a piece of precious metal into her childs earlobe .(See the reality isn't as pretty as having her ears pierced )

OP wants to do this but doesn't want to back down and lose fce

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 18/08/2022 13:34

face

TrashPandas · 18/08/2022 13:36

Do you know why?

Nowadays it's mostly unthinking tradition - people do it because it's just what you do.

Initially part of it was because people used to believe babies didn't feel pain (really hard to imagine anyone truly believing that, but it used to be common 'knowledge'). Slightly more logically, some believe it's better to have it done when the baby won't remember the pain.

Polkadotpjs · 18/08/2022 13:39

Some traditions need ending and this is one

allyouneedismarmite · 18/08/2022 13:42

TrashPandas · 18/08/2022 13:36

Do you know why?

Nowadays it's mostly unthinking tradition - people do it because it's just what you do.

Initially part of it was because people used to believe babies didn't feel pain (really hard to imagine anyone truly believing that, but it used to be common 'knowledge'). Slightly more logically, some believe it's better to have it done when the baby won't remember the pain.

I’ve heard the remembering the pain argument before. I had my last piercing when I was 22. I’m in my 40s now and I don’t remember the pain either. 🤷‍♀️

DryDevonian · 18/08/2022 13:42

I think it’s like abuse doing that to a tiny poor little thing. Let her choose when she wants and stand up to your ruddy husband and his family. You should be your DD protector.

dworky · 18/08/2022 13:51

That's not a tradition, it's pure misogyny saying girls 'have' to do anything!
Why would any parent inflict unnecessary pain on their baby, anyway?

diddl · 18/08/2022 13:56

TrashPandas · 18/08/2022 13:36

Do you know why?

Nowadays it's mostly unthinking tradition - people do it because it's just what you do.

Initially part of it was because people used to believe babies didn't feel pain (really hard to imagine anyone truly believing that, but it used to be common 'knowledge'). Slightly more logically, some believe it's better to have it done when the baby won't remember the pain.

I suppose I was wondering how it ever came about though that all females must have pierced ears in certain cultures.

To the point that even now people are still doing it rather than letting their daughters decide.