Do men not want to date women in their late 30s?

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I am on a dating app - and I get one like a day. It has been years and years since I dated and I used to get so much more interest. Is it my age?

Stop saying body counts you absolute tool.

That's about who 'looks best' It's well known that 21 is seen as an ideal and is the age of the average beauty queen. It's not the same as who they want to date. I think most studies on dating sites show that men ideally want to date women around 15 years younger than them. How many of them manage that is a different matter.

And yes James thank god we have the freedom to never, ever have sex with men like you 🙌

The only people who refer to more than 8 sexual partners as "high body count" are men who can't get anyone to shag them.

@James492929 move along dear. Your bullshit misogyny isn't needed here.

Wow, and they say feminists hate men!

I've seen this on here a few times that men on OLD only want younger woman!

Well they can want all they like they're not going to get them!

Why would a 20 year old be interested in a 50 year old!!

I'm in my 50's and block anyone over 60 contacting me, why would I want to date a 70 year old?

Most single 50+ men on OLD have really let themselves go. It's so depressing.

Anyway I digress, I wouldn't mention wanting children on your profile. If you match then you can discuss those sort of things when you chat and before you meet.

I meant an amazing younger man online and went on a couple of dates before he mentioned he wanted kids. That was big NO from me, and that was that.

I'm having my two children with a mature, hard working, clever and devoted (to the children) man. We probably won't have a long term romantic future because

I'm guessing you are single @James492929

Just as a hint, its not your looks or you age or your job thats making you be single.

Its treating women like a piece of meat who are only there to 'raise your status' and be a mother.

Which is why I, a not very pretty, infertile woman who has slept with more people than her partner, have a very lovely partner. Because he's not an arsehole.

*^^ because we know now that we have different needs. But we love and respect each other and will co-parent as friends.

When I hit my late 30s I'm going to only date hot young things in their 20s. Then maybe I'll deign to have a relationship with men in their 30s or 40s when I hit my 40s.

I don’t think James speaks for all men 🙈
Go back to Reddit James.

Well yes both sexes tend to look their best in their early twenties doesn’t mean you would want to be in a relationship with someone that age though - utter cringe!

@LadyCampanulaTottington - was just about to say the same thing re: your graph and "James!"

I have a male friend in his mid 50s who would completely agree with your graph, and he wonders why I'd rather have a root canal than date again (but then I'm so beyond being even remotely attractive anyway as shock/horror, I'm in my 40s!)

Lots of negativity on here!

OP which dating sites do you use? Maybe trying another one would suit your needs better. you haven't said whether you have kids/ want kids/ are child free etc. maybe you could tell us a bit more about what you want from dating.

This. Vile.

Yep. Yuk.

Check out the YouTube video of the lady who "hacked" online dating. Very funny and informative

It's a Ted Talk

Re. the graph (not sure how many men were part of it) I'd agree a lot of people think early 20s are most attractive (don't us ladies sometimes make jokes about being 21 again?)

It doesn't say what age they would like their partner to be. Decent men will not want to be with a 21 year old when they're 50 as they won't have the same life experience and would be vulnerable to a degree.

I had a date with a professional man 5 years my junior. I have children and don't want any more, he still wanted to see me after I told him. With his very well paying job, good looks, lovely personality he could easily (and not creepily) be dating someone in their 20s but we hit it off and age wasn't an issue.

Unfortunately I think he thought I may have changed my mind on more children in the future so I didn't see him again and he was completely respectful. Point being, there are younger men than you looking to settle down. I think some people who have come out of long marriages or got together with a partner quite young will use OLD just to sleep about (for a certain amount of time anyway).

Not everyone though! Don't deviate from what you want in a partner but be less strict on age because a man 10 years younger may be more mature than one 10 years older (or vice verse).

You will be best upping your age parameters, and then filtering out blokes with kids if you aren’t open to stepkids (it’s completely fine not to be).

My late thirties now-husband had his age parameters set to more than ten years younger than himself, which I am. It was a massive red flag for me in the beginning, but there were enough green flags for me to take the risk (pleased I did, but it still a bit 😵‍💫 about this when I think about it too hard).

Men will men, as seen in the graph. The subset of men who are nice, in employment and generous with their time will still try and go for women a decade younger if they think they can.

My ex, who was 10 years older than me, left me for a woman 5 years younger than me.

It seems I can't win, thanks to my age.

How lovely.

I feel like I should just give up now.

This is the second thread I've been on today where loads of people have offered advice and the Op has resigned themselves to doing nothing (i.e. I'm doomed).

I don't get it. Come on here, ask for advice and maybe try and take some of it onboard?

Off to waste my time on something more worthy......

justhereforthisthread Your post was nice, thank you. But it's a very hard slog online dating. It's soul destroying in fact, especially after an awful break up. And I'm not interested in dating men 10 years older for various reasons. It's hard to feel positive. Sorry if that's not what you want to hear and you feel you have wasted your time.

Buy some sperm off internet

You've no time to (literally) fuck about