I am on a dating app - and I get one like a day. It has been years and years since I dated and I used to get so much more interest. Is it my age?
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Do men not want to date women in their late 30s?
onlinedatingsucks · 21/07/2022 14:23
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Lookingoutside · 30/07/2022 15:21
It isn’t your age. All this talk of accumulating baggage and dwindling fertility is total fucking bollocks.
Search up Cindy Gallop on Instagram and Spotify.
Hrpuffnstuff1 · 30/07/2022 16:46
There's a marked difference between a career and a job. A career is a lifelong endeavor a part of your personal identity and a job is something you do solely for money. I run a business but it's still just a vehicle to earn money. No more no less.
I think it's very difficult to be wholly present in a full-time relationship-career and a family.
There are always trade-offs. It's a natural trilemma.
LaSevillana · 30/07/2022 14:48
Weird hill to die on...who cares? The point is that women, just like men, need to make money and pay the bills. That's why I hate the term 'career woman' so much. It implies there's an alternative to supporting yourself and keeping yourself alive. Imagine rocking up to a date as a 29-year-old woman and telling the man you've never worked and have been working on finding a husband? That he'll have to pay for everything because you don't have any money of your own? How well would that go down? So we're expected to find this magical balance of working hard and focusing on work and making good money but also not focusing too much on work? Building a career while also investing in a long-term relationship? Enjoying our twenties and doing travel and partying before it's time to have kids? All of this by 30ish, while paying extortionate levels of rent and trying to figure out who we are?
When I think of the climate of outright misogyny and sexism I grew up in, I actually feel a little bit sick. Men aren't called 'career men' for trying to find decent jobs. Men aren't shamed for focusing on work in their twenties. Men aren't constantly told the clock is ticking and they need to get a move on with starting a family when they're just trying to enjoy their twenties and early thirties. Being a woman is fucking horrible. Can't think of one single positive about it. Not one. If I could click my fingers and become a man right now, I'd love to.
Musttryharder2021 · 30/07/2022 02:09
Can we also stop saying (all) women are progressing their careers? A lot of people regardless of gender aren't in "careers" but jobs. I know it's not the point of the last few posts but it really grinds me that single life is equated to career building, what about just going to work and earning money?
LaSevillana · 30/07/2022 14:48
Weird hill to die on...who cares? The point is that women, just like men, need to make money and pay the bills. That's why I hate the term 'career woman' so much. It implies there's an alternative to supporting yourself and keeping yourself alive. Imagine rocking up to a date as a 29-year-old woman and telling the man you've never worked and have been working on finding a husband? That he'll have to pay for everything because you don't have any money of your own? How well would that go down? So we're expected to find this magical balance of working hard and focusing on work and making good money but also not focusing too much on work? Building a career while also investing in a long-term relationship? Enjoying our twenties and doing travel and partying before it's time to have kids? All of this by 30ish, while paying extortionate levels of rent and trying to figure out who we are?
When I think of the climate of outright misogyny and sexism I grew up in, I actually feel a little bit sick. Men aren't called 'career men' for trying to find decent jobs. Men aren't shamed for focusing on work in their twenties. Men aren't constantly told the clock is ticking and they need to get a move on with starting a family when they're just trying to enjoy their twenties and early thirties. Being a woman is fucking horrible. Can't think of one single positive about it. Not one. If I could click my fingers and become a man right now, I'd love to.
Musttryharder2021 · 30/07/2022 02:09
Can we also stop saying (all) women are progressing their careers? A lot of people regardless of gender aren't in "careers" but jobs. I know it's not the point of the last few posts but it really grinds me that single life is equated to career building, what about just going to work and earning money?
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Musttryharder2021 · 30/07/2022 02:09
Can we also stop saying (all) women are progressing their careers? A lot of people regardless of gender aren't in "careers" but jobs. I know it's not the point of the last few posts but it really grinds me that single life is equated to career building, what about just going to work and earning money?
Musttryharder2021 · 30/07/2022 02:09
Can we also stop saying (all) women are progressing their careers? A lot of people regardless of gender aren't in "careers" but jobs. I know it's not the point of the last few posts but it really grinds me that single life is equated to career building, what about just going to work and earning money?
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