I am on a dating app - and I get one like a day. It has been years and years since I dated and I used to get so much more interest. Is it my age?
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Do men not want to date women in their late 30s?
onlinedatingsucks · 21/07/2022 14:23
onlinedatingsucks · 21/07/2022 14:32
They might be worries you are in the last chances of trying for a baby? Well, I am. With the right man.
RedWingBoots · 22/07/2022 15:37
@hotandspicy on this thread you are a freak.
onlinedatingsucks · 21/07/2022 14:23
I am on a dating app - and I get one like a day. It has been years and years since I dated and I used to get so much more interest. Is it my age?
SheeplessAndCounting · 22/07/2022 16:48
You're competing against other women. The men will have other options.
Why would someone's age be the criteria to "compete" on? I genuinely find this baffling, given that every single human gets older. They don't all become more intelligent or kind or funny or successful or interesting or wealthy or tall or whatever else. So it's the most bizarre possible criterion to focus on when choosing a partner.
OldFan · 22/07/2022 18:04
Why would someone's age be the criteria to "compete" on? I genuinely find this baffling, given that every single human gets older. They don't all become more intelligent or kind or funny or successful or interesting or wealthy or tall or whatever else. So it's the most bizarre possible criterion to focus on when choosing a partner.
@SheeplessAndCounting It's not the only criteria people are considering when looking for a potential mate/date. But for most people it is one of them- most of us would probably rule out a 90 year old guy for instance.
I'm 45 and wouldn't want a man much older than me as I want one with attractiveness and sexual functioning (I know people can have those things at any age, but the older men get the more the chance of looking wizened and impotence increases.)
OldFan · 22/07/2022 17:59
As we get older we get less conventionally attractive at some point than our younger selves.
Youth also has sexual/social currency unfortunately.
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Wouldloveanother · 22/07/2022 16:14
My single friend (early 30s) said all the good men are snapped up by mid 20s, and I think there’s some truth in that. I think the cannier girls find somebody in their 20s and hang on to them.
MsTSwift · 24/07/2022 07:51
Also how does it work then there we not enough 21 year olds for every man of all ages and most of that age bracket will not be deemed attractive enough anyway youth notwithstanding the remainder unlikely to be interested so what all the men on dating sites basically have a pool of about 10 women! Good luck with that!
OldFan · 22/07/2022 18:04
Why would someone's age be the criteria to "compete" on? I genuinely find this baffling, given that every single human gets older. They don't all become more intelligent or kind or funny or successful or interesting or wealthy or tall or whatever else. So it's the most bizarre possible criterion to focus on when choosing a partner.
@SheeplessAndCounting It's not the only criteria people are considering when looking for a potential mate/date. But for most people it is one of them- most of us would probably rule out a 90 year old guy for instance.
I'm 45 and wouldn't want a man much older than me as I want one with attractiveness and sexual functioning (I know people can have those things at any age, but the older men get the more the chance of looking wizened and impotence increases.)
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lucifur · 25/07/2022 04:11
@SheeplessAndCounting Because it doesn't and we know this from studying mate choice in humans. Plenty of younger women will go for an older but more powerful/richer man. The reverse simply isn't true the majority of the time.
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