Biggest life changing regret.

[Nellynelnel]

Mine is not having children. The wondering of what my life would have been like if I did.

Do you have any life changes regrets? If so would you like to share?

I have so many regrets that I’ve been consumed by them recently. I feel like I’ve messed up almost everything in my life.

Dont want to post details as don’t want it to be used in an article though.

@HedgehogOBrian That is a very good and valid point!!

Debt. Mortgage. Loan. Credit card. Any debt.

This has been so interesting and eye opening to read. Such a diffrent variety. Thank you all.

I don't regret anything. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. I maybe feel a little sad sometimes I didn't meet my amazing fiancé sooner but then that would potentially mean that we didn't have our wonderful children from our previous marriages which would be unthinkable. There's no one point I can wish to go back and change things from because it would change everything from that point. I'm just immensely grateful and happy to be where I am now. Every low and every high brought us to where we are now. Life is incredibly good and I feel absolutely blessed. I definitely didn't think I would ever say that during some of the lows.

Me too.

This was a sliding door moment. I had saved for years, was known to be level headed and sensible. I had a great steady job with progression possibilities and loved the area and community I lived with. If I had not pulled out of the house purchase because i suddenly felt crushing responsibility and I was repeatedly being told house prices are going to fall (for a larger than ave 25K 3.5 bedroom Victorian semi with a 50ft garden right by a transport hub, hospital and a great school - I have just googled the current value £252K).

This caused a huge set of knock on events:

I lost the rental I was living in as the LL got wind i was buying and they wanted a 'long term rental'
I had to take a job that was OK on paper but the driving force was that it provided accommodation.
The job had hostile work environment that I just couldn't breathe and living on site meant there was no down time or distance - and I blew my life up spectacularly to escape.

I lost my professional qualification because buried my head in the sand and didn't answer any contact from my employer so they fired me for gross misconduct.
My family were embarrassed and turned their back on me.
I ran away to a terrible relationship.

It took ten years to undo all the damage that one single decision kicked off.

Being ridiculously feckless with money, running up a tonne of debt then losing my house as a consequence. I now living in rented Housing Association accommodation. My house would have been paid off and mortgage free by now 😔

@3amAndImStillAwake

🤗I understand completely. I felt like my life was over, just spiralling misery.

It passes. My daughter is now 16 and I would die for her.

I feel this deeply and I’m sorry this happened to you. It’s like I wrote this myself. I’m a shadow of the woman I was because of abusive ex