Biggest life changing regret.

[Nellynelnel]

Mine is not having children. The wondering of what my life would have been like if I did.

Do you have any life changes regrets? If so would you like to share?

I was actually supporting you! Meaning don’t feel guilty because presumably you spent it on something you needed!

but given your defensiveness, it would indicate perhaps you are correct in your use of the word addiction.

and fact your mother is loaning you money would indicate she isn’t aware of the situation.

opening up to her might be the first step to tackling the addiction

good luck

It’s a very common symptom of ADHD. Obviously, it’s more than that, but it might be worth looking to see if you tick any other boxes? (you don’t have to be hyperactive, it’s mainly about managing attention appropriately, and impulsivity. Also, many people with ADHD are very sensitive to criticism as that’s also a symptom of over-attending. Just sayin’)

I took it as you trying to be supportive🙂

Thank you
i think response indicates your post may be correct
i hope the ouster has or gets support.

Getting married and moving to the UK. Not getting legal advice on family law in the UK

@cato40 Sorry to hear this. Are you missing your home country and now cannot leave due to children?

I sympathise. Hague convention is so rigid. It"s not right. I was lucky, my x tried to have me ordered back to the UK. Luckily he was unsuccessful but it cost me about 3000 for a solicitor to get a barrister for me. I was a basket case at that point.

Losing my nerve after relocating. Returning back to my original area after a year. Completely priced out of the area and very very unhappy in my job. Looking to relocate again but much more challenging second time round.

Giving my ex a second chance after he showed me how unpleasant and duplicitous he is. Two more years wasted on a selfish vile man who rejected our child and left me in a very difficult situation financially. I have raised my child alone and never had a loving supportive family relationship. It is very lonely and sometimes very difficult. I feel guilty for my child every day.

Yes, won't be able to move back to my country due to children. Got married in my country where family law is different and thought it would apply to our marriage but English law applies as we live in England and I will get a much worse outcome compared to divorcing in my country. It sucks

Don’t buy a flat with a family member without agreeing what happens when one if you wants to cash out. Blimey this has been such a painful lesson to learn.

@TreePoser
I'm in a similar situation. Can I ask how child arrangements works with you both in diffrent countries?

@Skynight9 this is a zombie thread. Maybe start your own thread.

@MrsTerryPratchett I've never seen an issue with commenting on "zombie threads". They are often still relevant and useful to others.

Not moving away from where I was raised, going to uni and pushing myself at work in my early twenties. I feel stuck and like I’ve hit a ceiling that I can’t easily get beyond.

Also, getting married at all sometimes.

@Longsight2019 You regret going to uni or not going to uni? Are any options available to you now? Career change? Relocation?

Having my sister involved in my social life, she had an affair with my best friends husband and two years later it’s still an impossible situation. It’s ruined our family and pretty much destroyed my friend. I’ve tried but it looks like there’s no way back for our sibling relationship and that really hurts. She’s become another person, or maybe I was just blind to who she was.

I’ve tried to put anger aside but now realised that it’s an insurmountable situation given the ongoing problems from them being together.

No massive regrets but a few small ones:
Not pursuing a masters after my degree.
Not travelling more in my 20s. I had a lot of spare cash and I had no ties. Would have been an ideal time for a round the world trip.
Never an alcoholic but definitely drank too much when I was younger, so wish I hadn't done that.
Not recognising red flags presented by an abusive ex. I left him 18 months later but it was a properly toxic relationship.
Not pursuing my dream career. However, my job now is pretty good.
Nothing major and if I hadn't lived the life I led, I wouldn't be in the reasonably good situation I'm now.

Going to college- it didn’t help me with a career

Not following my heart and and moving closer to my bf in college- I let my narcissistic mother control too much of my life

letting my past trauma and my mother have so much influence over my life

staying in my last relationship with my ex too long wasting 10 years of my life

Not getting therapy for my skin picking which has destroyed my face

I think it depends what the thread is about. Finding yourself responding to a relationship problem, or a child’s play group problem years after it was posted can be very annoying. Some are timeless though so life changing regrets are rarely going to be out of date.

I really regret wasting too much time on trying to be the perfect partner to men when I should have been concentrating more on myself and a career. I will partially blame the times though as it was when being single and childless was a much bigger stigma, I wish I hadn’t cared so much about ticking socially accepted boxes. If I could go back and tell my sixteen year old self some wise advice it would be to not be a people pleaser and not put up with any shit from anyone ever, no second chances.

not seeing my own value when I was young and settling

@YetMoreNewBeginnings I am so sorry. That puts any regrets I have (and there are a few) into sharp perspective. 💐

So sorry to hear this @YetMoreNewBeginnings

How old is your youngest now? All the very best to you all 💐

I regret cutting ties (unfriending etc) with my first love when he married someone else. We were always good friends and I did it because I thought it would help me get over him quicker, but I now realised it probably came across really hostile. Would love just to be able to have a chat for old time's sake, but would feel so cringe to reach out after all this time and I'm sure it would be taken the wrong way.