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My boyfriend was accused of sexual assault by his ex

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Ragdoll22 · 09/07/2022 15:51

Hi all, I appreciate some guidance on the actual process of all this.
My boyfriend has been accused of sexual assault by his ex, and she has formally reported this to the police. He has refused to attend an interview unless he has legal support sorted, so that will happen next week I guess.
Obviously he is raging, I have never seen him this angry. I understand why he is angry but it’s quite distressing.
Since he has refused to speak to the police he doesn’t know what exactly he is being accused of either. He insists that he did not assault her and that he has no idea what she might be inferring. I obviously believe him because she only reported this after we made it official that we are an item.
Does anyone know what might happen down the line apart from both of them giving statements? I would rather not get dragged into it but I am finding this hard to deal with. Thanks

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Sandra1984 · 12/07/2022 12:00

Ohahjustalittlebit · 12/07/2022 11:36

Conflicting information given on both threads. The first one they are together over a year and he is friends with his ex and now they are together only 4 months and he has been accused of sexually assaulting the ex he was friends with.

There's quite a few threads on MN that have me question them because they don't sound right (or genuine), this is one I was taking with a pinch of salt. The opening of the thread sounded genuine when I first read it but the OP responses and "the plot getting thicker" had me wondering...hmm

kateandme · 13/07/2022 05:42

Sandra1984 · 12/07/2022 12:00

There's quite a few threads on MN that have me question them because they don't sound right (or genuine), this is one I was taking with a pinch of salt. The opening of the thread sounded genuine when I first read it but the OP responses and "the plot getting thicker" had me wondering...hmm

Sad to say me too.same poster the stories follow same behaviours but could be two different men situations( with the same condition) and I found myself wondering if the other thread had gone quiet are we stoking new flames again with something new/attention.

wellhelloitsme · 13/07/2022 16:26

Are you OK OP?

CatalinaV · 13/07/2022 17:20

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wellhelloitsme · 13/07/2022 17:24

@CatalinaV

If you read the posts about her boyfriend in other threads people have shared (she changed her username) and you wouldn't be saying that. Or if you would still say that, you doing so wouldn't make any sense based on the rest of his behaviour.

I'm genuinely worried about her as he's clearly (from the other threads) an unsafe partner who manipulates her and she sounds vulnerable.

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/07/2022 17:28

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Then you're an idiot.

madasawethen · 13/07/2022 20:03

OP please let us know you're ok when you can.
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BluePinkRed · 17/07/2022 03:41

Hoping you're ok OP - thinking of you.

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