Support thread: for those contemplating/going through a break up

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Me. I need all the support I can get if I am to hold it togehter through this.

Others join in?

Tried the puclic place thing last week, and in the end I just walked away, after he just told me that, whatever i said, we should stay together, it's best for dd / baby on the way, and that's that.. He says that even if we're not together as such, we should live togather for the sake of the family.
But since we struggle to be civil to each other, i can't see this working.

I wish he'd take a few pointers from your ex! At least he was able to admit the situation in the end.

splishsplosh, he'll never get your dd. My ex tried that and my solicitor said unless there was clear evidence of the children being neglected in any way, he will never win custody. So please rest assured that he cannot get them, seek legal; advice if you are unsure.At the moment I am not working so I get legal aid but even if you are working call someone up or go to Citizens Advice.

Citronella - we have been married for 15 years, but together 21. Blimey, makes me sound very old!
I was away with dd this weekend, and dh looked after ds (5). On Sat when I rang to speak to ds, he told me that there was 'a lovely lady called Sarah in Daddy's car when he picked me up from school'.
I refused to take the bait right then, and carried on like nothing had been said, but later I had a txt saying that ds had mentioned telling me, and he was sorry I found out like that, he was going to talk to me about it when we got back. I have to say I did rather blow up about it all then, - not so much about her being in the picture at all, but that he had gone ahead and let her spend time with ds without my knowledge, and before we have officially told the dc what is happening.
Then he got all 'poor me' about it saying that he keeps trying to do things right and still ends up hurting me whatever he does. Felt like saying that if he thought that was the best way to do things then he is more stupid than I ever gave him credit for, but managed to button my lip.