New boyfriend forgot my birthday?

[hotnakedgelato]

I've been dating a man for almost 4 months. We have seemingly been crazy for each other (while not moving that quickly) and have a mutual understanding that we are moving into a serious LTR.

My birthday is in less than two weeks. He asked a few weeks ago what my birthday preference is and I said acknowledgement and to be taken out for dinner.

It's been crickets since then, until yesterday I finally pointed out that he hasn't asked if/when I am free. He said thanks for reminding him, he forgot

Interested in views on this

Lol, my GF is a committed meat-eater, more so than me really, we went to Toby Carvery once, she thought it great 😊

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow nice! My daughter is actually obsessed with Toby carvery. I can't deny that it's tasty, and a good value!

Thanks! It's really nice to be told I am not mad!!!

What the chuff is FDS.😂

Useful and interesting posts @Midlifemusings

I’ve never heard of this and it puts the whole thread in a different and murky light. I had sympathy for the OP to start with. Now I pity the poor bloke.

@AnneLovesGilbert i don't really think it's fair to assume that what @Midlifemusings is saying has anything to do with my views. I have been clear about what I believe, and this person is bringing in a bunch of nonsense that has nothing to do with me.

My boyfriend is very happy with me, for good reason.

And @AnneLovesGilbert I am intentionally not responding to that poster because literally everything they have said is wrong and it's not worth my time engaging with them.

My boyfriend is very happy with me, for good reason

It gets better 😂

yeah, Toby Carvery, never let it be said that I don’t know how to show a woman a good time 😂😂

My boyfriend is very happy with me, for good reason.
Bless... 🤣🤣🤣

@hotnakedgelato i say again, I have read every post you have made and the ones responding, and stand by what I said. Being kind, you're self sabotaging. Being blunt, you're being hard work, refuse to take on board criticism and have no inclination on improving yourself or reflecting on your own behaviour.

If your only interested in your own opinion, go speak to a mirror.

@baileys6904 please tell me exactly what I have done that's so objectionable.

Again, my boyfriend asked about my birthday preferences and I told him that I like to go out for a meal.

With less than two weeks to go, I pointed out (one time) that he had not attempted to schedule anything. He then scheduled something and I told him it sounds nice.

I felt a bit put out by his lack of attention/effort and raised a question here. After wading through a bunch of comments (many totally batshit) I stated that it seems like all is ok for now with my boyfriend.

What's my big offense? How am I self-sabotaging? How am I hard work for my boyfriend?

Ps my boyfriend literally texted, "thanks for reminding me" when I raised the question.

@hotnakedgelato Honestly OP you don't need to defend yourself. There is something about women having standards/not accepting the bare minimum or having confidence in themselves that seems to really rankle certain people on this site, I've seen time and time again, it's really disheartening and some of the replies have been downright nasty.

I think people have lost sight of the fact that he asked you what you'd like to do and then didn't do anything about that and presumably wouldn't have done unless you pointed it out given he has form for being unorganised. Anyone would be turned off by a man not keeping his word until prompted.

There is a 211 page handbook (pdf is online) that details what the Female Dating Strategy Movement is. If you are going to align yourself with it, I suggest you read the handbook to know what you are aligning with. Everything I have posted comes from the handbook of the movement you said you were a part of!

It's just that it's essential to plan ahead for a nice restaurant in London (where we live)

Birthday diva much?

Would you be happy if he suggested coming to your house and cooking you dinner? I'm guessing not.

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The OP asked for other Mumsnetters views,now she is all defensive because the majority of us think she is unreasonable.Unbelievable.

@Poppins88

Yeah... people here are wilfully ignoring everything about my actual situation and just calling me names.

Honestly, it proves the point that women who feel good about themselves and have any standards at all for how they will be treated are targeted to be taken down a peg. Disgraceful.

I'm done with this thread.

How am I hard work for my boyfriend?

Well, how can he have forgotten your birthday when it hasn't even happened yet?

Pmsl sweetie, I feel amazing about myself. I am in a 10 year relationship where I am treated like a queen. Then again I wouldn't behave as you have or spoke the way you have done.
Stop getting so damn defensive and actually try and see the points people have spent time out of their lives to make. People don't do that to be mean, but you clearly have no interest in folks opinion that differ from yours and will just pull the 'everyone's picking on me' card. But I'm not the one unhappy with my relationship

@baileys6904 i asked some very specific questions above. Are you going to answer them or just keep insulting me? If your goal is to help you're going to have to explain what precisely is unacceptable about my behaviour, because I sincerely don't see it.

Right and you know when your birthday is, so you can sort out your baby sitting. I honestly cannot work out why you are looking to get upset about something (or nothing to be more accurate).

@Aprilx HE DIDN'T ASK ME TO DO ANYTHING ON MY BIRTHDAY, OR ANY PARTICULAR TIME. THAT'S THE POINT