New boyfriend forgot my birthday?

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I've been dating a man for almost 4 months. We have seemingly been crazy for each other (while not moving that quickly) and have a mutual understanding that we are moving into a serious LTR.

My birthday is in less than two weeks. He asked a few weeks ago what my birthday preference is and I said acknowledgement and to be taken out for dinner.

It's been crickets since then, until yesterday I finally pointed out that he hasn't asked if/when I am free. He said thanks for reminding him, he forgot

Interested in views on this

Bet you are so glad you posted aren’t you Op! Some of the replies are brutal. Take no notice, log off here and take it as it comes. It’s still very early days yet.

Least you won’t have to worry about your next birthday with him as I doubt he will be around. Your attitude stinks and your full of self entitlement. Poor bloke.

@Irridescantshimmmer 😅😅😅

@Hrpuffnstuff1 I don't think your post had the impact you hoped.

Right, I am going to proceed happily and not say anything more to him for now. He's shit at planning but quickly remediated the issue. All is fine for the moment.

God OP I would be running for the hills if I were him. Mrs Red Flag!

Wasn't meant to have an impact, I was telling the truth, no tantrums ever (4 weeks or 40yrs) over anything as insignificant as a birthday.
A big red flag of entitlement.

I honestly don't know why you are getting such a hard time here - I think you've handled it very well in that you've been clear about what you want and reminded him so that you get what you want. No passive aggressive behaviour at all. I hope you enjoy your birthday dinner

I can see your issue. You want Burger King and not McDonalds?

I think the sensible thing to do would be to have given him a nudge and said "are we still doing something for my birthday, otherwise I can do something else on the saturday night", not just go ahead and make other plans without him, and they tell him tough shit I'm doing something else now. Relationships are a two way thing, and it sounds like you're sabotaging.

God, you've only been with him a matter of weeks... 🤦‍♀️

Good grief. You sound like hard work.

Your posts are as snidey as fuck, op. You sound like a real peach. Isn't he lucky? 😂

You're over thinking it and being a bit of a baby. Yeah sure id want to do something but it's still 2 weeks away and your relationship is so new! This isn't a big deal.

He didn't forget your birthday. It's not for another fortnight

I think that he is very poor at planning generally

You're being unfair. If it was 2 days before your birthday that would be different. If he's not used to factoring childcare into arrangements he probably- like a lot of people - just makes arrangements nearer the time

I've never known people irl make such a fuss over birthdays unless they're a big one

This post is increasingly reminding me of an old Ronnie Corbet joke 😆

Gosh think OP needs to make the most of this relationship while it lasts.No equality of the sexes here,it’s all about her wants and needs.Surely this man is not going to put up with much of this behaviour?

Lol, right. I'm not even allowed to want my boyfriend to show consideration for me on my birthday.

This post isn't about what I do for him. It's about this one aspect of our relationship.

@Redglitter rtft

Why?!

What age are you, 13? I'd expect it from a teenager to expect their boyfriend to be all hearts and flowers, but not an adult.

I have thanks & stand by what I posted 🙄

Mate, it's been 3 months. Calm the fuck down man 😂
Your posts are so snarky, why are you so stroppy? It's meant to be all fun and excitement this early in, not whatever the hell this is.