Dating thread 230: Summer shenanigans!

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

We discussed a see how it goes thing. He said he was single. Still no word from him.

ibelieveinmirrorballs

has he now ? Pray share !!!

Hi lovely 👋💖💖

No sign of mr turk today. However I was up and out early and back late so wasn’t out at usual times. I’m becoming slightly addicted to wearing skimpy inappropriate clothes whilst out and about.. gives me a buzz.. need the excitement 😂. Then again it is weather appropriate this week as it’s been so warm. It’s amazing how what you wear can alter your confidence levels completely! 🥰
Must have been doing something right as another hotty I see out and about locally made the effort to chat to me today, out of nowhere!

Oooooh do love a lawyer. All intelligent and ready to fight your corner! 😍😍

I was gonna say booze.. but nope.. probably not a good idea 🙈😅😅

Flippin heck! Not so Nice now eh! More Mr Nasty 😉😏

I don’t want to overstate it as we really are talking very light sexting 😝 Little does he realise. I can’t get too invested in him until we shag because there’s every chance he really is going to be a bit too wholesome. Next date planned and he’s coming to mine so we shall see!

@ibelieveinmirrorballs … Mr Nice turning out to be a real hottie… I’m loving this !
it’s entirely possible you will have an awesome time 😊

Found you all 😁

Just found the new thread.

i have been keeping busy, trying not to think too much about Mr Cherry, my best mate (male) has been great, although I know he’s only being great as he would love to be in a relationship with me (long story). I haven’t heard anything from Mr Cherry since I saw him Thursday, this is pretty normal for him but I wouldn’t be surprised if I don’t hear from him again. I think I need to put myself back out there on the apps but I’m not sure I really want too, I do have one other iron but I don’t really fancy him, although he seems lovely, he loves too far away and seems to be quite busy at the moment. With summer holidays looming and my dc being home more it’s going to be hard to date.

Just seen Turk.. we had a conversation!! Then saw my friend who’s said shes going to tell him i like him!! Eeeek!

Hey @Lovemusic33 sorry that things aren’t too bright but mr cherry sounds a bit shit. Hugs for you!

At least it will be out there, he’ll know (Turk that is) then if he wants to make anything happen he’ll know it’s ok to make a move! I can’t do anymore than that. 💖

HANG ON A MINUTE LADY! What did you say? What was he like? Did you like him as much after speaking to him as before, or more? Inquiring minds and all that...

@ButterflyOfShay …OMG… how exciting!! Mr Turk now is a real possibility!! Best wishes Butterfly
@Lovemusic33 … I don’t understand. Is Mr Cherry a dad? Is it possible he’s busy or super occupied with stuff?? You saw him on Thursday this week. I keep thinking you may want to relax a bit and not lose the chance at continuing with Mr Cherry which you actually fancy a lot ??

I'm still trying to work out what sort of Camberwick Green place you live in that you randomly bump into passers by almost every single day!

Hello everyone, may I join you 😊

I've been dating for months now, have used Bumble and Match mainly but seem to be falling into this pattern of texting for a week or two, having a few dates, then it goes off the boil because I find out they've told some pointless lie.

I've certainly learnt what are deal breakers though and more of what I'm looking for in a person which I guess is a good thing. But this dating thing is soul destroying at times isn't it!

I want to use the Facebook dating app too but it's not showing up. Have tried everything suggested to get it showing up but no luck. Has anyone else had this problem?

I really think you should try to meet other people. This is what things were like with MrM - we would have a fabulous and intense time when we met, but the basic bottom line was that he wasn't that bothered to find out how I was for several days after meeting. He had had his dose of time with me and then cracked on with the rest of his life. Either this is what you're looking for - or it isn't. It's completely reasonable to want more than this. But if he isn't able to or doesn't want to check in more regularly, then no amount of wanting it will make a difference, and will probably just make you anxious and clingy, which makes it hard for the relationship (if there is one) to flourish.

It also didn't sound as though Thursday went well. In which case why would you be hyper-focusing on him, when it sounds like it might be a lot of effort for not much benefit? You're worth more than that.

@ibelieveinmirrorballs … wow…wise woman! I still feel a guy can be in love with you or smitten and have little time as other problems , job or family are there. Was he being exclusive with you @Lovemusic33 ??

Oh dear Lord I take my eye off the ball and SHE ONLY GOES AND CHATS TO MR TURK 🦋🦋🦋💜💜💜🤪🤪🤪 @ButterflyOfShay

Coming back fully addicted to the thread 🧵 now 🤣

Am reading everyone else's updates but it might take me a while to get all the names right

@Mila14 you're feeling hesitant about the posh bloke for good reason. I'd say stick him in the FB box but maybe get him to take you somewhere fancy before the shagging? He sounds quite tedious otherwise

@WeWantTheFinestWines hoping this next one has more potential than MrArty

@BelladiMamma … no can do… I don’t have vacancy for FB… so it will be good bye MrC. He’s nice enough just i could not find a single thing I’d like to do with him outside the bed… mind you… he might be feeling the same but he’s very keen to keep me close. He keeps texting ( now polite we’ll mannered and no hot advances) but I don’t text back
what’s happening at your end Bella? Still happy with your hot Mr? Nice to see you here 😘
@WeWantTheFinestWines … best wishes on your new Mr ! Spill the beans after you meet him

😆😆 I moved to a tiny town from london 4 years ago lovely so you see the same faces day in day out on the one little high street! I absolutely love it though, live small town life and making some good friends here too, pretty sure I’ll stay here forever 🥰

Omg I KNOW i cant actually believe myself!! So he was sat outside in the usual coffee shop at the usual time and I was walking in i stopped and said hello and we had a little conversation! He was smiling broadly as we chatted and was friendly! I didn't get any ‘get lost’ vibes at all. Excellent english, and good teeth!!! Definitely not lost any interest at all in fact a lot more gained! But I don’t know if I’d be his ‘type’ or if he’d fancy me so not going to get excited just yet.
Can’t believe how calm I felt chatting to him! He has a nice mellow vibe and I just find him extremely hot so so far so good! 😍😍

ibelieveinmirrorballs I think your right, things had been going well up until Thursday, although some of Thursday was fine it wasn’t brilliant and his behaviour and lack of effects on was just odd. I don’t want a full blown relationship, my life can be quite busy, but I would at least like someone who checks I got home ok. I think I will try and get a few more irons and keep my options open, if Mr Cherry does want a relationship then he will have to work a lot harder for it, at the moment it feels like he doesn’t want to put much effort in unless it suits him.

Mila14 he doesn’t have very stressful life, doesn’t have much family and his job is pretty easy. We were not exclusive (or we hadn’t talked about it) but he has not been online since we started seeing each other, I am still on the apps but hidden my profile.