The ick = game over?

[Ella28_]

I'm dating this guy and sometimes he says completely innocent words or phrases that make my skin crawl and completely turn me off him and I'm genuinely thinking about ending it. So petty of me but I literally can't get past it. Defo gonna die alone at this rate 😂

Anyone else get the ick over the most minor things?

I get the ick when I see a certain type of bloke swaggering down the street with their dog. Shirt off, can in one hand, lead in the other.
Completely the opposite but I had a boyfriend once who had 2 cats he adored more than life itself. At home he constantly talked to them in a baby voice, let them sleep with him IN his bed, bought them birthday and Christmas presents, had to visit the pet shop whenever we were in town and could spend hours looking at toys, outfits 🤮😬 and treats for them.
He was preoccupied with them, they were his first love.
He really did give me the ick.

Good grief. Outfits? For cats? Yup, that would give me the ick too.

And I can't stand guys running around without shirt unless it's the beach or the pool. I know it's not indecent, but I get angry in the sense if I can't do it they should not be allowed either. 😆

My exH after 20 years together started giving me the ick. The noise of him eating, the way he walked, his mouth breathing. I looked at his face when he was asleep and it looked sort of ‘slack.’ Aargh.

Strangely enough it coincided with him having an affair and he actually left me! Maybe it was that he just didn’t fancy me anymore, was gaslighting me and not being particularly nice so he just became some middle aged bloke I didn’t particularly like? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Once I found out about the affair, 8 months in, my feelings switched instantly to complete disgust and hatred, helped by the circumstances and the ick in tandem.

@CaptSkippy
The shirt off thing walking down the street or in town makes me feel a bit sick. Definitely gives me the ick.
It’s got nothing to do with body shape - more to do with the fact it’s usually goes hand in hand with a cocky swagger.

Totally different to shirt off when mowing the lawn or whatever… 😍

at least you can dump partners/ friends but it's horrendous when it's someone you cannot avoid seeing all the time! in my case my best friends partner . He is just a living breathing Ickfest!
He could mentor other ickers he's so highly skilled in it.
Example as-
He says I do like fish every time we go out for a meal Yes I know you've said it a hundred fucking times !!
ditto- i do like a shepherd's pie !!
I like cucumber but it doesn't like me!
Don't we m'dear ?-to my friend which really makes me feel nauseous.
I've been bitten!! every fucking time you sit out after a few minutes!!
sniffs and roles his head constantly as if he were a boxer.
I could go on and on but now I'm feeling angry and he's ruining my morning and he's not even here

sniffs and roles his head constantly as if he were a boxer

🤣🤢

Reasons my ex gave me the ICK-

1. when he farted (which gave me the ick anyway🤢!)- he used to tense his whole body up then do a little jump 😳
2. he used handkerchiefs
3. his jaw clicked when he ate
4. He called pudding “Pud Pud”
5. dinner was “din din”
6. he carried his change in a little coin purse- I remember watching him tip it onto the table at a restaurant to count out his change and I hated him for it 😆
7. he never tipped on the (rare!) occasion he took me out for a meal as he “couldn’t afford it”! ( if you can’t afford to tip your server- you can’t afford to eat out!) for the record- I would always leave a tip when he didn’t!
8. if he went to the shops and I asked him for chocolate etc- he’d ask for money for it first 🙄
9. He used to throw away MY shampoo/ lotions/ creams etc when they still had an inch or two of product left 😡
10. he used hand cream 😆
11. he used MY expensive face creams etc as his hand cream 🤬

I could go on- I grew to loathe his existence!! 🤣🤣

Saying 'I'm a pescatarian'

Saying 'I'll just have tap water' in restaurants.

Husband of nearly 20 years (ex! at last)
Eating was the worst, especially in public when I had to sit less than a metre away. He always seemed ravenous like her hadn't eaten all day, as he'd gobble his food down like a hungry wolf, and he sounded like a human washing machine. There would also be an intake, and a rush of air, as the food approached his mouth. As he became full he'd slow down, and then the 'concealed' belching would begin.

He'd also have irritating habits like biting his finger, rubbing his eyes vigorously and stroking his beard. He also had this whispery voice he'd switch on when trying to sound nice to others. He also raised his voice at the end of statements like it was a question, a lot!

He wasn't a nice person anyway, abusive twat actually, but the ick was strong in that time before I was able to leave him.

One of my exes would wake before me..I’d roll to be greeted by ‘wow’ but in a slow ‘wooow’ yeah…BYE!!

@NotaCoolMum

OMG, that made me laugh. How long did you put up with this? I'd have gone at the first sight of the little purse 😂

Benjispruce4 · Today 07:25
@EntertainingandFactual That makes me cringe and it’s why I can’t listen to Zoe Ball on radio 2. Everyone is a gorgeous boy or girl and ‘we love him’ just so fake I have to turn off. Now I actually like Zoe Ball but cannot bear all that shallow, insincere stuff. You cannot love all those people and you know not enough about them to call them gorgeous!!😡

Yes exactly this. Zoe Ball’s sickliness makes me physically cringe.

Thought it was just me who had to switch it off.

This made me laugh out loud 🤣 So sorry

Literally me right now 😂

It feels like there’s 2 versions of this - one seems to be hormone-driven and often passes, and the other is instantaneous and terminal.

What I find interesting on both threads (this and the tagged one from 2020), is that in the majority of cases they’re perfectly nice or attractive men who suddenly do something childlike or old man-ish or disgusting which results in the instant death of sexual attraction.

They no longer present as an equal adult partner, but as someone who needs looking after - our brains seem to switch from sexual to maternal/parental mode and that’s that.

Ah! That's brought back a memory I'd long ago buried. I had to dump a bf once because in restaurants he always had to mime his request for a glass of tap water by measuring the size of the glass with his hands and miming turning on a tap, when he made his request. Without fail.

🤣🤣🤣 I put up with it for about 4 YEARS after the ick started 😱😱😱 to be fair- I tried dumping him loads of times but he cried and I felt guilty- it was actually a huge relief when I found him cheating on me 🤣🤣🤣

No coming back from the ick.

The ick sticks....

It's when they wear jeans with a blazer and smart shoes that I find hard to move past. Even worse when it's someone who has/had a rough, tough, outdoors life eg millitary, so I've got the massive "Phroarrr!" for. Either wear a suit, or wear a fleece/puffa/outdoor activity type jacket and boots with your jeans. The half and half style gives me the ick.

My most recent experience of getting the ick was with a guy who say "thank you" and "sorry" to much.

Let's say someone does something simple like holds a door open for him, his response would be "thank you! thank you, that's very kind of you. Thanks. I really appreciate it! Thank you".

Same with apologies. Let's say he tried to call me, and I sent a quick message to let him know I was busy and I'd chat to him later, we'd talk later and he'd be saying "sorry about earlier! I'm really sorry. I didn't realise you were busy. Sorry if I interrupted you. I'm really sorry about that."

It was way too much. At first I thought he was very considerate but it became extremely irritating.

An ex-bf was a sweet bloke but he was like a puppy who had to follow my lead all the time. The ick moment was when we went on holiday and he just did whatever I wanted to do, and followed a few steps behind me in a shop. I want someone with a mind and opinions of their own, an equal, not someone who I'm leading everywhere. Oh, and he stopped seeing his friends because he wanted to spend all his time with me, despite me advising him not to.

@kardashianklone fark. I couldn't have tolerated that!

The following. Jesus Christ exp did this

Not mine but a friends husband says "blimmin" because you know bloody is just too rude.

I don't know what she sees in him!

Can I add any kind of mouth breathing