The ick = game over?

[Ella28_]

I'm dating this guy and sometimes he says completely innocent words or phrases that make my skin crawl and completely turn me off him and I'm genuinely thinking about ending it. So petty of me but I literally can't get past it. Defo gonna die alone at this rate 😂

Anyone else get the ick over the most minor things?

Being constantly I'll. exp could just mention a blocked nose and my anger started rising

I once dated a guy (Londoner) who called Elephant and Castle the 'Hephalump and Castle' complete with baby voice. I wanted to shoot him in the fucking face.

But the prevailing ick I've had across multiple partners is being asked to apply suncream on them and or being asked to help get their wetsuit on. That kills it for me

Major Ick moment when he came to my house to stay the night, I watched him get out of his car, and he reached into the boot and bought out the box with all the naughty bedroom stuff in it …. I just thought “ nah mate, it’s done”

@FlibbertyGibbitt yup, that's ick inducing.

On the sex theme, it gives me the ick when a man is pleasuring me and mirroring the sounds I'm making 😳Especially when they make that little "Mmmm" noise sound like a question. Fuck off!

Another sex one is when I stay at their's for the first time and they have their own lube. The thought that it's either for other women or for when they mastubate makes me 🤮 Even worse if they have a sex toy collection.

This too with my ex. His (usually fake or exaggerated) minor ailments dominated everything.

He ramped it up to more serious illnesses in the end as he loved the sympathy and that was the real death knell (I started a thread about that once).

Im sorry for all your ick-experiences but this thread is brilliant 😂

Mine was a guy I met on the night bus (immediate red flag, but I was young, alright)…

1. would include my name in conversation ALL the time, even with strangers. Like, at a bar “L will have a gin and tonic” to the bar person, or if we were at a restaurant “Oh that’s for L” when food arrived
2. Using words in the wrong way - he once told me he had a “fantasy” about his gran, which wasn’t actually a fantasy once he’d explained it, but when he said this we were in a pretty quiet cafe and literally everyone could hear.
3. Wore fingerless leather gloves.
4. Thinking he knew me better than he did. Met him once and he’s bought me a turtle shaped incense holder and was like “oh it just reminded me of you”. WHY???

i only saw him for a couple of weeks, so literally every time I saw him I hated him a little bit more.

@glamnenhatty I find that post strangely comforting. It drove me to such rage. At one point I bought him a load of supplements and iron but I don't think he took them.
He would say 'I've got something about me' and it made me rage

Mine wouldn't go to the doctor either, and he had a 'thing' about how he didn't/wouldn't take painkillers!

@prDeltoid I'm laughing so much at no.2 😂

Did he just mean he had a dream about her? What did he think fantasy meant?

@yellowsmileyface he wanted to organise a weekend away for her, with a couple of activities she’d like - antiquing etc - which is obviously a nice thing to do for someone but not something I’d call a fantasy 😂 just something you’d “like to do for someone”

So “I’d like to do something for my gran” instead of “I have a fantasy about my gran”, really loud in a public place

Crying laughing here! But it seriously makes me doubt whether I'll risk embarking on a relationship again because the ick seems to be so prevalent!

Once I got the ick because he referred to x city as up north when it’s literally directly east from us. So silly but it annoyed me to the point of no return lol

@Benjispruce4 I don't like that either.

I needed this today 😂😂

Mine:

1. on top of an ex bouncing away happily when he asked to swap positions so he could "pump" me

2. another guy, excessive moaning during sex. Like "oooohhhhhhhhhh" "oohhhhhhhhh" again and again not even just when he was about to cum

3. a guy with a micro penis. I mean micro. About 3 inches long and looked like a pencil . Never seen one before and i was really taken aback.

4. talked about farts. I hate that. "Smelly" farts. Said he made his 2 year old daughter "shit herself" with laughing .

5. had a money "shrine" but permanently skint

1. There is something quite camp about a man who does that. @prDeltoid

When he saw my naked arse for the first time and said 'yum'. Took me 10 years to leave him but I got there eventually.

I am dead reading all of your icks 😂

Once was on a date with a guy and got the ick because he didn't have Apple Pay. He also kept saying "dinners" instead of "dinner". Nope. Bye.

It's the fingerless leather gloves for me 🤮

This would have been a non-negotiable no from me if he’d had them on the first time I met him but this was one of the last dates we went on 🤮 also he was like “oh I found them on the bus”!!! Seriously, what it was about this guy and picking up stuff on the bus I don’t know, but so gross and even though it was about 15 years ago it still makes me want to hurl now.

@Hannah8514 You got the ick because he didn't have Apple Pay??? Isn't that the majority of the population? Does everyone have Apple Pay?

I'm remembering more about the guy I mentioned earlier. He was an inch or so shorter than me, and I usually go for taller men, but I thought I'd give it a try as he seemed really nice (at first). Well unfortunately he also had quite a small penis but he had quite an excessive foreskin when it was flaccid. Really ick! He also had a habit of kneeling on the bed during sex, for example when we had foreplay he'd kneel between my legs and I really didn't like it. Made him seem even smaller than he was.

I never said it was reasonable or made sense. Most icks are ridiculously unreasonable and petty 😂

Same ex bf got pneumonia once and we never heard the end of it. But it was the way he had to say 'VIRAL pneumonia' every single time, as if he had to give it an elevated status, that repulsed me. He also managed to shoehorn it into every conversation. Some one could be talking about a film they'd seen at the cinema and he would say something like 'oh that was the first film I watched after I'd recovered from VIRAL pneumonia'.

My ICK got even worse ( sex box man ) when 4 months after I ended it , he turned up on my birthday with a card , was just “passing by “ lived 10 miles away , having had a hair cut wearing best clothes …. Sigh

had letters too quoting “ in our intimate moments … “ binned them too

once you’ve got it there’s no going back !

Shame I'm married to mine, but the way he says possiblies instead of possibly.

You can overcome certain icks, I used to shudder everytime he got his change pot out when we were out. A film cannister filled with coins. Now I pinch it as its useful for when I go to the charity shop.