The ick = game over?

[Ella28_]

I'm dating this guy and sometimes he says completely innocent words or phrases that make my skin crawl and completely turn me off him and I'm genuinely thinking about ending it. So petty of me but I literally can't get past it. Defo gonna die alone at this rate 😂

Anyone else get the ick over the most minor things?

I used to go out with someone who was tall (about 6 ft 4). This is fine except he was weirdly proud of it and shoehorned how tall he was in conversations about completely different things. I think he’d had too many older relatives make a fuss about how very tall he was.

i think I also went out with him …

Yep. My X used to write thank you as thank - you. Aside from the fact he was a controlling arse I didn't fancy enough to sleep with without being pissed, it gave me the ick.

I have given up dating, I get the ick so easily. Some recent ones:

Said he liked “flora and fauna”

Pretended to use the track and trace app when we went for dinner in covid times. I knew he didn’t have the app and the waiter asked him to show him to confirm. He then waffled that his app had suddenly disappeared.

Brought an old ribena bottle filled with orange squash on a walking first date

Checked his appearance in a hand mirror a lot!

Brought an old ribena bottle filled with orange squash on a walking first date

On a side note from the main topic, it really irrationally annoys me when men drink fruit squash instead of water. Every single boyfriend I've ever had has drunk what I call 'kids' drinks' - Oasis or Ribena or Fanta or whatever.

It's borderline ick territory for me, depending on their other qualities.

Flora and fauna- probably a euphemism for dogging in a heathland carpark after dark

I went out with someone who wouldn't drink tea or coffee. All he drank was chocolate milk. He lasted a week.

I have felt the same about my friend’s DHs but for a different reason.
Whenever DH annoys me I try and get some perspective - I thank God that I am not married to Lee or Trev or Bob… They may have way more money than us but I truly couldn’t stand more than half an hour in their company.

Oh god.

See, my DH is a Real Man, who only drinks black coffee that he found in the microwave from when he heated it up the day before and forgot about it.

Just binned off a date as he revealed he wouldn’t help his very sick mother with feeding and bathing when he visits her. Because it makes him upset. Bye 👋

I don’t blame you.

I look at my friends’ SOs and wonder how they can spend more than an hour in their company let alone have sex with them (although not sure any of them have much of a sex life).

Ick is definitely game, set and match OVER. Reading this thread makes me so relieved to have dodged so many bullets on the matrimonial front.

I tend to think of the ick as something you get from someone doing or saying something innocuous. Being put off someone because they are unkind or mean (or smelly) isn’t the icky because it is completely rational.

I used to go out with someone who cleared his throat in an irritating way first thing in the morning. That gave me the ick. I’m sure that this was not a big deal to his next girlfriend.

Have to confess I find the word 'ick' irrationally annoying, up there with those 'Love Island' phrases that seem to be gaining wider acceptance like 'head turned' or 'mugging off'.

dillon - it is what it is. Anyway I’m done. 😀

TheMushroom a guy turned up at mine with his few bits and pieces for the day (wallet, phone, etc) in a black bin bag that he carried in his hand.

FFS

This is hilarious and most definitely ick

No no no no no no.

Please tell me you didn’t go out with him carrying that!

Not petty at all.

I’m no way petty

I'm struggling with this a great deal in my marriage (together 12 years altogether)
In hindsight, as awful as this makes me sound I wonder if DH should have been more of a fling than a long term relationship. Failed contraception and having our child early on, led to us sticking together (both religious) and i wrestle all the time with this as he has some good qualities however, ick wise:

• Snores like a broken lawnmower
• Has allergies so has a constantly runny nose, sniffs up constantly, makes that hocking noise in the back of the throat to clear phlegm

-mouth breathes and eats like a goat with ill fitting dentures

• very untidy and slapdash
• very heavy handed, has broken various things in the house over the years which drives me insane
• drinks to excess
• acts oblivious to what is needed to run a home and needs constant reminders which make me feel like his mother.

Objectively, he is handsome, in good shape, can be kind, works hard at his job and has a successful career. Our dc adores him as he is the 'fun' one.
Writing this down though it doesn't look good.
The ick list above has systematically chipped away at any sexual attraction for him which makes me sad as I'm only in my 30s :( and don't want to miss out on this part of life forever. But separating would have its own problems. Very difficult.

This thread has made me cry laughing.

Only had it twice, separate people

1 Ruffled my hair when i said something he found funny, this was in a restaurant on a first date

2 When a taxi was taking us back to his, he said to the taxi driver "now that youve seen my car dont be charging me extra" - he had a really average, oldish BMW

The same guy who had the bin bag (which he’d rolled over at the top to make a bit smaller) showed me his new haircut, pointing out the back where he said the hairdresser had “textured” it .

Another idiot I went out with used to use baby voice and referred to his ‘Willy’ smelling, which is why he was ‘off for a shower’.

F*ing hell.

Exh - used to spend ages I. The en suite with the door open squeezing spots on his back in the mirror then immediately request sex....

Just googled the ick. I'm going through this now because of a stupid baby voice

Wore polo shirt collars sticking up.
Called M&S Marky Sparkies.