The ick = game over?

[Ella28_]

I'm dating this guy and sometimes he says completely innocent words or phrases that make my skin crawl and completely turn me off him and I'm genuinely thinking about ending it. So petty of me but I literally can't get past it. Defo gonna die alone at this rate 😂

Anyone else get the ick over the most minor things?

Are you peri menopause age by any chance ? That’s when my ick and resentment kicked in.

I feel for you …same problem here ! I actually cringe at some of the stuff he now comes out with!!

That is so interesting

It's the baby voice that is especially hard, even having discussed it and explained how it makes me feel, it still continues.Only with me, started the day after we married, decades ago!

www.mumsnet.com/talk/mumsnet_classics/3784524-To-think-you-cant-get-past-the-ick-im-a-relationship
Have a read through this thread @Ella28_ , it's so funny.

Oh absolutely OP! I got the ick with a guy I'd had a few dates with. We were at his and it was leading to that moment of shagging when he made the weirdest growling noise, like some animal saying "come to me..". I instantly got the ick and had to pretend I'd fallen asleep as I had driven there but had too much to drink to drive home! I left at the earliest opportunity.. I couldn't even really hug him goodbye!

Loving the pettiness of some of these icks! 😂 Glad I'm not alone on this!

He just asked if I want to go for a "mooch" around the shops tomorrow so that's solidified it. It's done 🏃‍♀️👋

OMG 😂

Yes.....'mooching around'...and then you can come home and have a little 'potter' before fulling your tummies with nice yumm-yumms.

I've never had a partner who's used these words. I can't see why people don't like the terms 'mooching'. I hate the word tummy. Honestly don't know why grown women would use it, and I don't even mind childish words that much.

@summersunherewecome Bless. He was so smitten that he wanted to absorb every moment, just to make extra sure he was kissing and had that extra memory.

Made me 'breakfast'

Put whole english muffins in the oven and 'warmed them through'. Not grilled or toasted, literally whole muffin, in the oven.
Cut them in half. No butter.

Pack of smoked salmon. Cut the fully intact pack into quarters. Literal slab thrown on each hot, damp muffin.

I can't even talk about the eggs.

I ate it like the absolute div that I am.
Saddest thing I've ever eaten. I couldn't carry on.

I went for one date with a guy who kept sporadically gripping the top of my knee cap with his thumb and forefinger and making a "zzzzz" noise! 🙄🤦‍♀️🙇‍♀️

The baby voice thing I totally relate to. This is not an ick thing I had in a relationship, but I saw a therapist for a couple of years who seemed fairly sane.

He changed premises which involved walking through part of his home (ok I read that bit back and it feels weird). I took my shoes off at the door because that''s just how I am in houses.

At the end of the session he walked me back to the door and did this weird high pitched voice and said "oh yes don't forget to put your bootees on!!, hehe"

Wtf man?

Obviously not the ick from a romantic relationship point of view but I remember that one life had me running screaming for the hills.

But...how did you know he had his eyes open...unless yours were too?!?! 🤷‍♀️🤣

Of course you don't leave a 21 year marriage because of something as trivial as icks. Marriage is a totally different scenario to dating.

This is such a great thread. It reminded me of my own ick experiences I want to add. These are all the same ex bf. Whenever he ate anything, his eyebrows would be raised to the very top of his head, as though he was permanently surprised by what was in his mouth. He also used to take unnecessarily large bites, tilting his head back and as though he could dislocate his jaw like a snake. He had a terrible half moon shaped coin pouch which he would unzip and count pennies from, like some elderly miser. He had an infuriating habit of saying 'it could be worse' about any given situation. We broke up, and he's a lovely man and we still speak and stayed friends, but I will never eat another meal opposite him again.

I got the ick with a boyfriend when I saw his golf swing. I only played golf about once every two years but it transformed the way I saw him physically after that!!!! So odd.

@Dunnoburt Was he trying to tickle you or trigger that involuntary knee response??

Sorry @CruelSummers but "saddest thing I've ever eaten" really made me laugh!

I get irrationally annoyed (not quite the ick) the way my husband cuts open a baked potato. Like, really angry. Ridiculous really but I can't help it!

I was just thinking the same. I have several friends my age who are peri-menopausal (like me). We seem to all go through cycles if not being able to LOOK at our DHs & DPs let alone listen to them. The Ick is taking over! 😅

Yes, I went on a date with a man who said "you make me chuckle" - that was it for me!

When I looked under the table and saw that he was wearing winkle-pickers 🤮.

@dylexihelp At the end of the session he walked me back to the door and did this weird high pitched voice and said "oh yes don't forget to put your bootees on!!, hehe

Hmmm....sounds like he let his guard down there.

@kardashianklone 🤣🤣 Just curious - what was his sex appeal to you when you first met him?

@NinaDefoe We seem to all go through cycles if not being able to LOOK at our DHs & DPs let alone listen to them.

I wonder how many divorces are triggered by perimenopause.

I have an ick predictor test...

If you think eewww when your partner is laying on the floor (so that you see their face from chin vantage point iyswim) then the relationship is doomed as they will come
Up with an ick mowmt. If you just see them and think ahhh 🥰, you'll be grand for a while

Exp insisted on texting me every night with 'showered, and in bed'

Ewwwww! Like you were his Mum? Gross.