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The ick = game over?

361 replies

Ella28_ · 17/06/2022 17:49

I'm dating this guy and sometimes he says completely innocent words or phrases that make my skin crawl and completely turn me off him and I'm genuinely thinking about ending it. So petty of me but I literally can't get past it. Defo gonna die alone at this rate 😂

Anyone else get the ick over the most minor things?

OP posts:
CaptainTroy · 17/06/2022 23:29

It’s over

EntertainingandFactual · 17/06/2022 23:31

I’ve let a very old friend go because of the ick.

Everything was ‘Amazing’, ‘super’, ‘special’
Thank you became ‘Oh my, huge thanks, such an epic treat’
Her friends were ‘my gorgeous girls’
Her DH was ‘my lovable rogue’
Her DC when they were babies were
‘our tiddlywinks’
She said ‘mahoosive love’ instead of goodbye…

I could go on. I couldn’t stand it any longer. She filled me with irrational rage.

EntertainingandFactual · 17/06/2022 23:32

I wonder how many divorces are triggered by perimenopause.

I would say loads!

mistermagpie · 17/06/2022 23:36

I'm sure perimenopause is at play with me. My otherwise lovely DH says 'yummy' if he likes something and will say 'let's open a bottle of bubbly' on a special occasion or whatever, and to be fair he has always said these incredibly ick-worthy things, but is so nice that I managed to ignore them. Now I'm in my 40s and all of a sudden I want to smash him over the head with a bottle of 'bubbly' whenever he says it!

Another one is that he says 'rather', as in 'it was rather good' about a tv programme or something. He's not posh, but he's from Glasgow so imagine it with the accent 'ratherrrrrrrrr'. It makes me cringe, but he's always spoken like that and it never bothered me until recently...

I should say he's a brilliant guy and lovely dad and husband, which is how he gets away with it!

CaptainTroy · 17/06/2022 23:37

As f***g annoying as my DH can be, after 15 years he has never once given me the ick. I’ve experienced it before and can say ( with some authority 😉) there is no going back….

SlatsandFlaps · 17/06/2022 23:40

Look at this OP 🤣 www.instagram.com/reel/CeO-NqwDyuY/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

AlwaysLatte · 17/06/2022 23:40

He just asked if I want to go for a "mooch" around the shops tomorrow
I wish my DH would say that. He only ever goes into a shop to get one particular thing he has previously researched. Striding in and out again like the BFG. If I suggested a 'mooch' he would be genuinely horrified if I couldn't provide a list of items and their exact whereabouts!

AlwaysLatte · 17/06/2022 23:42

I went for one date with a guy who kept sporadically gripping the top of my knee cap with his thumb and forefinger and making a "zzzzz" noise!
That would be all I needed!

Cmit08 · 17/06/2022 23:44

@CruelSummers sorry this made me laugh!!

AlwaysLatte · 17/06/2022 23:44

When I looked under the table and saw that he was wearing winkle-pickers 🤮.
Ugh. Pointy, heely or clicky shoes on a man are one of my top 5 turn offs!

mackthepony · 17/06/2022 23:46

He said, didn't you know that champagne was made with apples. I went home that night and never contacted or replied to him again.

^

🤣🤣🤣

crysania · 17/06/2022 23:49

If you have it so early on at the dating stage then it won't get any better with time. Being harsh I'd say it's over.

Yorkshirelass04 · 17/06/2022 23:51

When I looked at the curtains in his home office and saw he'd been sticking bogies on them to avoid having to get up from the desk for a tissue.

mackthepony · 17/06/2022 23:52

He had a terrible half moon shaped coin pouch which he would unzip and count pennies from, like some elderly miser.

^

I think this could be my brother!

SlatsandFlaps · 17/06/2022 23:57

I went on a date once with a man who moved his head every few words. So I'd be saying something like "So I spent two years at 'college name' HEAD MOVES and then eventually began working as X at Y company HEAD MOVES which I loved. I learnt invaluable skills and had a great time" HEAD MOVES It was incredibly embarrassing and I couldn't wait to get away!! What made it worse, was how it was always in time with what I was saying! It was never mid word and he even did it when HE was speaking! 🤨😵‍💫

Another one is a male friend who I care a lot about but I just cannot be around him when he eats. He chews at lightning speed! It's definitely not been a case of him being in a rush or anything, I've been friends with him 22 years, it's always the same speed! Totally distracts me from anything else.

MsTSwift · 17/06/2022 23:59

Cracking up at Kardashians description!

Bil used to do a baby voice with mil. Dh and I found it equally horrifying. Dh has never once triggered this.

Had it with men I dated though. One chap guffawed after every comment. Nice chap but it did my head in after one evening!

AdoraBell · 18/06/2022 00:02

Not petty at all. Any ick at all, walk away.

mrcattybiscuits · 18/06/2022 00:06

I have recently ended a relationship with a man who was lovely, kind, well educated, fun, hot (everything you could ever want basically) because I got the ick.

He wore something orange and it gave me the ick, I truly couldn't get over it!

dylexihelp · 18/06/2022 00:09

Yorkshirelass04 · 17/06/2022 23:51

When I looked at the curtains in his home office and saw he'd been sticking bogies on them to avoid having to get up from the desk for a tissue.

😱

KylieCharlene · 18/06/2022 00:09

I got the ick when dp started using the phrase ' X threw their toys out the pram' when he meant someone was having a strop or didn't agree with him.
I ditched one friend who induced the ick when she started calling her car 'the boogie wagon'.
Another friend used 'more-ish' whenever she talked about a food she loved- which meant she could no longer be a friend of mine.

StanleyBostitch · 18/06/2022 00:16

EntertainingandFactual · 17/06/2022 23:31

I’ve let a very old friend go because of the ick.

Everything was ‘Amazing’, ‘super’, ‘special’
Thank you became ‘Oh my, huge thanks, such an epic treat’
Her friends were ‘my gorgeous girls’
Her DH was ‘my lovable rogue’
Her DC when they were babies were
‘our tiddlywinks’
She said ‘mahoosive love’ instead of goodbye…

I could go on. I couldn’t stand it any longer. She filled me with irrational rage.

I've had to step back from a friend who sells stuff on party plans. She's always accompanied by 'the gorgeous (name of co-host)' while she flogs the stuff that she's 'passionate about' and thanks her 'scrumptious husbo' for letting her pursue her 'passion'.
Drives me nuts.

Bloodyel · 18/06/2022 00:51

I've had so many ick moments but honestly I do think I've been particularly unlucky to have experienced so much ick worthy stuff rather than me having a low tolerance for ick.
One guy I saw used to actually purr like a cat. Christ it was awful, the worst part was he was quite good looking so it was just like why.

Fourhorses · 18/06/2022 00:52

Such a good definition 🥳

PhoenixIsFlying · 18/06/2022 02:12

I had it from a boyfriend when he ate his shreddies.Watching and hearing him ferociously spoon the remaining milk into his mouth as if there was a hole in the bowl and it was going to disappear. Drove me mad and I would hum really loudly to drown out the sound.