Boyfriend made me shower before bed.

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Not sure what to think of this one.
We spent the day out in the city and got in at 10pm or so. I was staying at his and when we got home he told me that I couldn't sleep in his bed unless I showered and washed my hair as he had clean sheets and we had been on the tube/ public transport etc and it was disgusting to go to bed without washing after being out in town all day.
I washed and styled my hair that morning only 12 hours before! I have long boob length hair that takes bloody ages to dry and style and once I've done this I don't usually go through the hassle of washing it again for another few days!
When I told him this he said I would therefore have to sleep in his spare room!
In the end he "let" me stay in his bed as long as I showered even if hair wasn't washed.
Is this controlling or reasonable if its his place, therefore being able to dictate?

Where did you stay where there are no showers? Unless you stayed in the bushes or in tents, I am intrigued by which hotels you went to where you had to draw buckets of water to wash yourself.

Good for you. I once demanded compensation when someone sneakily did that after I told him no shoes. I have also refused service men coming in who chose to disrespect my home by refusing to put on overshoes.

It’s my home!

The things people do here; spitting liberally in the streets, picking noses and wiping snort on public transport seats, holding the railings with snort covered fingers, stinking to high heavens with smelly crotches and under arm odour, feet on seats, peeing themselves on the tube and sitting on the seats.

Honestly, I’ve never seen so much nastiness than on London public transport.

Yep. Hygiene standards here are so incredibly low. It turns my stomach. No wonder we had such high covid rates. We're still in a fucking pandemic and people in my office are blowing their nose and then leaving the tissue on the desk, sneezing without covering their mouth. Someone brought in some food to share and one moron stuck the fork they had been using to eat into the food to cut it up further for others. It turned my stomach.

I just despair.

Where did you stay where there are no showers? Unless you stayed in the bushes or in tents, I am intrigued by which hotels you went to where you had to draw buckets of water to wash yourself
Are you serious? You dont think there is anywhere in the world that doesnt have hotels and nice clean showers? Fuck me what an incredibly sheltered and privileged life you lead.
I've travelled to lots of places where there are no showers. That particular example I was on a tiny island in Fiji. People still travel to places where there are no hotels you know. We stayed in huts on the island and it was idyllic.

Some places have no running water, never mind a Grand Hyatt or a Hilton Doubletree 🙄

What I find astonishing is the sheer number of things which appear to turn so many MNers' stomachs. What a sensitive lot!

Yes, and the fury...

Quite. What I always wonder is what people actually think is going to happen to them if they go to bed less than squeaky clean, put a work bag on the bed, or sit next to someone who's a bit smelly. I wonder how they'd have coped during the rest of human history before the current obsession with cleanliness.

Please tell me more about these places where the hotels have no running water. I’d really like to know. Don’t be shy. Tell us about the hotels or places where tourists (I’m assuming that what you were) have to use buckets of water to wash themselves.

Unless you went to rough it out in the bushes or used tents (or stayed at a poor local villager’s home) pray tell.

I already see you, I just want to confirm my suspicion.

Read my answer Why2why. I've already answered you.
You clearly find basic comprehension difficult. I didn't state that hotels have no running water

No, you're just gross.

British people have really low hygiene standards, as evidenced by the number of people who absolutely reek every time we have a heatwave.

People have mockingly said London isn't sweltering this week. Yes, it is. It's irrelevant that it's not 40 degrees, because once it gets into the high twenties, you're sweating and stinking and you really need to be washing regularly and taking steps to avoid reeking.

I think a lot of people here were just never taught how to deal with hygiene in hot weather because it's so infrequent. In hot countries, it's a given you shower at least daily and often twice a day. It's not uncommon to change clothes at least once, either, and 'indoor clothes' are the norm.

It's 33 degrees today in London. It was very hot yesterday too. I had a shower before bed and woke up sweating because it's bloody boiling. I'm going to a team social thing after lunch so have just had another shower, used minty shower gel and put Mitchum anti perspirant under arms and under boobs. This is the absolute bare minimum you should be doing on a day that's this hot. If you're not, believe me that people are talking about how much you smell.

Maybe give backpacking a try Why2why see some amazing places, and yes some places you stay have no showers. Would you just wither up and die? Sit rocking in a corner crying? There's a big world out there beyond your sanitised all inclusive hotel. You realise some people travel and don't just sit at a hotel pool for 2 weeks a year right?

I can see his point if he had nice clean sheets, I've been filthy coming home from a day in London before now and tbf I wouldn't want that on my clean, fresh sheets either.

You do realise people in these countries still wash?

I've been all over the world. Have been wild camping, slept in vans, slept on the beach. Still always managed to find a way to wash, even if it was soap and a flannel under a bucket shower or water only in a stream.

Stop making excuses for being unhygienic.

You do realise that you can read answers on a thread before just blindly throwing accusations around? Yes?
I never suggested no-one washed and I have never made excuses for bad hygeine. In fact I said the same as you, that I had stayed places where you had a bucket shower.
Such a waste of time answering people that can't read

You literally said in that comment that some places have no showers, the implication being you don't wash. But the gaslighting is funny...keep it coming.

Don't let reading the thread get in the way of your weird anti-british hygeine rant though pixie5121. Actually thinking about it it's very very rare that you come across someone that smells bad. The amount of people that don't wash daily must be staggeringly small. I live in a city, work, socialise, go to the gym, I can't even remember a time someone smelled bad. The stories of people wiping snot everywhere and pissing themselves on trains just seem really fanciful as well. Thankfully something I've never experienced

You literally said in that comment that some places have no showers, the implication being you don't wash
So you think you can't wash if you don't have a shower? Even though you said yourself there is always somewhere else to wash? And I myself said we washed using a bucket shower. OK 😁. Really don't think you know what gaslighting means. The irony.
Anyway I'll leave you to your 4th shower of the day now, I've got work to do 😊

Oh insults, eh? I’m still waiting for an answer to my question.

Interesting that you think people are being anti-British for pointing or the hygiene issues here.

I also think you need to travel more to see the world. It’s not really what the charities begging for money with a very determined fly hovering around black and brown faces in mud huts would have you think. Was that one of the hotels you stayed in where you had to wash yourself with buckets of water?

I can point you to two hotels/guesthouses in Darjeeling, where the 'showers' were a plastic dustbin of water and a big scoop. When I wanted to shower, I went to reception and asked for 'hot bucket'. The guy would then come up and fill the bin with a mixture of hot and cold water.

It's actually really refreshing to throw a big scoop of hot water over you.

I've just come back from a trip to Malawi. Did you want to me to go on?

Summary of this thread is that most British are filthy and are not willing to raise their hygiene standards.

Filthy = showering once a day, brushing teeth twice a day, wearing deodorant, washing hair regularly. Aaaaaiiiiiiiieeeeeeee I can’t take the griminess!!

What's your definition of filthy, and why do you think it's more valid than anyone else's definition of filthy?

Going to bed without showering after a day out in London is filthy. It doesn't matter whether it's 25 degrees or 10 degrees. Human body sweats, armpits sweat, nether parts sweat!

Glad you do all that. I guess you don't stink but many British do.