Partner won't eat fruit or veg!!!!

[user12312]

Hi ladies. Please help I'm at my wits end!
My partner WONT eat fruits or any type of vegetables. It's driving me insane. I feel like I'm dealing with one of the kids every day.

We have been together under 1 year and now it's really getting me down. He bokes even looking at veg. Both my kids eat a wide range of fruit and veg as do I. Then there's my partner who won't entertain them.
He told me he would make more of an effort and at least try different foods etc.
Tonight for example I put a couple spoons of sweetcorn (which was cooked in butter) on to his plate. He ate a bit and hid the rest under his lasagna and said he was finished. All the sweetcorn was under the leftovers.
It absolutely riles me as I feel like I'm dealing with a child.

It's really starting to make me feel differently about our relationship. It's actually putting me off him a bit if I'm entirely honest.

Any words of wisdom? Thanks

Get rid.

Is he living with you?

I would not be happy sharing a life with someone like that.

If it riles you now, what will it be like when living together?

Why do you care ? It's his nutrition ? Give him beans on toast !

Surely as an adult he knows that fruit and veg is good for you ? If he chooses not to do so , that's his problem ?

Doesnt the lasagne have tomatoes and onions in? maybe provide meals with 'disguised veg' like you do with kids. DH is the same.

Stop wasting your time and end it now. You are never going to be able to deal with this, and your irritation is only going to grow. It's over.

I don't see the problem. He is an adult, he can choose not to eat fruit and veg. He is not making life difficult for anyone by not eating those things. If he had ASD and sensory issues no one would complain. Maybe he has.... Leave him alone and try not to be so controlling of his dietary habits. Give him whatever you are eating minus the veg and fruit, more for you!

Is he 8?

No @emmetgirl he is 35! 😆

Why the fuck does it matter what he eats? He's an adult and free to catch scurvy if he wishes. You only feel like you've got another child because you are insisting on policing his food as though you are the grown up and he is an infant.

Yes, it's irritating if you are cooking. But I'd either let him eat the meat/potatoes and no veg - or stop making meals for him and let him sort himself out.

erm, let him eat what he wants to

Its controlling to try and make him eat stuff he doesnt want to

You’re seriously feeling differently about your relationship because he isn’t willing to eat fruit and veg……?

It's really unhealthy and sets a bad example to the children, it makes meal planning and eating out more difficult.

Why are you letting it bother you? Why give him sweetcorn if he doesn’t like it? That’s what I’d do with a child not an adult!

You're not his mother.

All the people saying let him get on with it, I don’t think the OP wants him setting this kind of poor example to her kids so it needs addressing.

It's a problem because I feel like iam babying him. Another example. He will skip past the muller corners in the fridge and opt for the kids milkybar yogurts!
Myself and the kids have roasted cheese and onion, he will have only the roasted cheese. He won't even eat onions etc.
It's not a control thing it's just plain weird in my opinion for a man of his age.

I thought you'd managed to find my exH for a moment, although he's 39 by now. That is if he's still alive with the terrible diet he has.

He also wouldnt eat fruit or veg, cold foods, sea food, preferred overly processed sauces to fresh ones urgh I could go on.

Cut your losses, it will start to really piss you off more and more over time and I'm sure this is just the tip of the iceberg with annoying immature habits.

Throw this one back...

I couldn't deal with this, and I'm normally pretty relaxed. Feels a bit harsh to say LTV but honestly it would completely put me off someone.

The hiding it under the lasagne makes it 10x worse and totally like dealing with a child.

If you really, really like him you could encourage therapy to deal with his food issues.

Exactly!!! Finally someone with half a brain cell 🤗

I would find it difficult to find meals that the whole family could eat if he doesn't eat fruit or veg. There's no way I'd be making him something different. I'd be pissed off too

It would put me off. It's very infantile behaviour

I don't eat any fruit and veg once in a blue moon, I don't like it, it's not something I can really help and wish I did like it but what can one do? I don't get why it borhers people so much what other people do and do not eat.

Yes @FlissyPaps you are absolutely spot on. It's strange and weird and I have openly told him my feelings on this. It's very of putting