Partner won't eat fruit or veg!!!!

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Hi ladies. Please help I'm at my wits end!
My partner WONT eat fruits or any type of vegetables. It's driving me insane. I feel like I'm dealing with one of the kids every day.

We have been together under 1 year and now it's really getting me down. He bokes even looking at veg. Both my kids eat a wide range of fruit and veg as do I. Then there's my partner who won't entertain them.
He told me he would make more of an effort and at least try different foods etc.
Tonight for example I put a couple spoons of sweetcorn (which was cooked in butter) on to his plate. He ate a bit and hid the rest under his lasagna and said he was finished. All the sweetcorn was under the leftovers.
It absolutely riles me as I feel like I'm dealing with a child.

It's really starting to make me feel differently about our relationship. It's actually putting me off him a bit if I'm entirely honest.

Any words of wisdom? Thanks

Nah, you roast in the oven, you toast in a grill

Grilling, but, again, how did you make a lasagne without fruit or vegetables in it? It’s surely not possible, is it?

It's so irritating when people haven't read the OP's update.

He does not know how to clean or wash up and she has to do that too!

No big deal really if he doesn't like fruit or veg.
Surely he knows they're good foods to eat but maybe he just can't stand them.
There's something in us we all don't like.
My DH likes the taste just can't stand the texture so he has a lot of smoothies.
I wouldn't consider leaving him because of it. Jeez

I know a few people like this and it is a recognised condition so you cannot change him.

So you can either accept the way he eats and not try and get him to eat things he doesn’t want and which makes him gag.

Or you can decide that this is too big of an issue for you that you can’t get past and you need to end the relationship.

Sorry but I couldn't deal with this. I understand if certain fruit and veg are problematic but ALL fruit and veg ? I love to go out to dinner especially on holiday abroad and having been married to a obsessively fussy eater it just sucked the joy out of every evening. Meal planning at home was an utter chore too.

If you aren't quite at the point of sending him back to his Mummy because you're busy putting his shit into binbags, I'd suggest that you put the children's foods underneath the carrots in the veg drawer with a nice big bag of chopped Kale on top.

Seriously though, get rid. No child needs to witness an apparent adult making fake vomiting noises and pulling faces over what they eat.

That would put me off.. That’s not an attractive trait for me. I like someone who looks after themselves by exercising and eating well (80% of the time, I don’t always eat well) so it’s a no from me!

I would have ditched him as soon as I found that out
Fine not to eat any, but I like to eat in nice places and wouldn't have someone sat making sick faces because I'm eating a carrot

If I'm honest, I don't see why it's a big deal. He's allowed not to like fruit and veg.
This wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Why does he have to be exactly like you?

I feel a bit sorry for him having to hide his uneaten veg under his food in case you have a go at him. In the nicest way possible, you are treating him as if he's a child.

Wow that’s about rude !

Abit sorry

Send him back to mummy. Not because of what he does or doesn't eat, but because he can't do basic chores. You know how your life is going to look if he's a permanent fixture. It won't be a partnership.

I am genuinely curious what veg refusing people eat for meals though?

I feel sorry for the people trying to eat their perfectly nice meal to have somebody making vomiting noises at them. Or the children finding that the 'adult' has stolen their food because things packaged for children appeals to him.

Not the one who likes pretending to be a baby.

Does anyone really like vegetables?! Surely most people eat them because we want to be healthy and, if we have kids like OP, to encourage them to be healthy too?

I would definitely find this sort of behaviour infantile and a poor example to set.

If DH or I want to binge, we choose not to do it at the family dinner table.

Doesn't sound like a good match!

Yes, lots of us from other cultures love vegetables.

We were taught to eat what was put in front of us growing up, so I'd find it really hard to be with an adult who couldn't do that. Eating fruit and veg is one of those things you do as an adult because you were taught as a kid that they were good for you. DH isn't a fan of fruit and veg but he eats it when it's on his plate because he's an adult, and because he wants to show a good example to the kids.

That too
I mean I would rather eat cake or pizza! I think a lot of people who say they don't like them mean "they're not my favourite thing so I will never chose to eat them" (I'm excluding eating issues etc)
My dad is "well I don't REALLY like..."
And I always say well I don't really want to eat salad but it is what it is!

I understand if certain fruit and veg are problematic but ALL fruit and veg?

This is what I never understood when people say they don’t like fruit & veg, a carrot is nothing like the taste or texture of a banana, a raspberry or a cucumber, how/why can they possibly all be lumped together? 🤔

And yeah I’d find all of this really unattractive, I once dated a man who only ate ready meals, it wasn’t the only reason I dumped him, but it was definitely on the list!

I had a boyfriend who was like this. He had ASD though. It did give me the ick though! We split up for a myriad of reasons but this contributed! I would ditch him if I were you. You don’t need another kid to be looking after.

Op, unless there’s a good reason such as sensory issues etc for his food aversions I wouldn’t waste my time on him. How could you travel with him, go out for dinner etc. He’d be an embarrassment.

I couldn't cope with this.

1. Poor example to the children.
2. Likely to lead to poor health and reduced life expectancy in partner.
3. Huge constraint on what food can be cooked for family meals.
4. If he's this bad about eating fruit and veg, I assume he isn't cooking them either.
5. Just not attractive for an adult to have such a restricted diet. Infantile if there is no medical condition to account for it.

Stay or leave. But dont control

Does anyone really like vegetables?!

I really enjoy vegetables as do millions and millions of others. They’re delicious.

Sniffed them out and ate them? Is he a man or a Labrador?

seriously, the fruit and veg is the least of your issues. Why are you still dating this overgrown toddler? I’m getting images of the little Britain “bitty” sketch 🤢