Partner won't eat fruit or veg!!!!

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Hi ladies. Please help I'm at my wits end!
My partner WONT eat fruits or any type of vegetables. It's driving me insane. I feel like I'm dealing with one of the kids every day.

We have been together under 1 year and now it's really getting me down. He bokes even looking at veg. Both my kids eat a wide range of fruit and veg as do I. Then there's my partner who won't entertain them.
He told me he would make more of an effort and at least try different foods etc.
Tonight for example I put a couple spoons of sweetcorn (which was cooked in butter) on to his plate. He ate a bit and hid the rest under his lasagna and said he was finished. All the sweetcorn was under the leftovers.
It absolutely riles me as I feel like I'm dealing with a child.

It's really starting to make me feel differently about our relationship. It's actually putting me off him a bit if I'm entirely honest.

Any words of wisdom? Thanks

My 40yo BIL is like this and still has only meat, yorkshires and gravy for a roast dinner! He's eaten no fruit or veg since infancy and only has a small number of things he will eat. How all his teeth haven't fallen out with scurvy god alone knows!!
Its your DPs body, and his diet. BUT childish responses to veg/fruit on his plate would give me the ick big time. You say he'll eat lasagne which can have tomato onion etc but not separate veg? Would he consider getting help for a possible food phobia for health reasons?

Wow I haven't heard that spoken by anyone for a long time

Well, haven't read it

He sounds very immature. Him making faces would piss me right off. Yanbu at all!!

How do your kids react?

Does he cook? If so, what sort of things

Why is he helping himself to shit in your fridge. Tell him to knock it off.

Sounds like you've got the ick. There's no going back now...

Since you asked. His mum has clearly mummied him for all these years. He is unable to clean etc. washes dishes and I have to re wash them! He doesn't know how to do a load of laundry! His mum told me one time she had to hide the choc biscuits from him in the oven as he always sniffed them out and ate them all! Like wtf!!!
It's all just really getting to me now

I'd move on. I really wouldn't find this behaviour attractive at all. And do you really want a life time of trying to work out meals or eating separately? I'd not want this behaviour passed onto my children.

If the "healthy options" are muller corners and roasted cheese with onion, its not really a great comparison.

If you’re worried about setting a poor example for your kids why are you buying them milkybar yogurts while the adults have the healthier fruit yogurts?

You sound unhinged and I think it's him who should be running for hills!

These aren't 'healthy' options @DockOTheBay these were merely used as examples of his eating habits 🙄

oh god get rid!

With every update he sounds more and more unappealing. I love both cooking and going out to eat, and I’m a vegetarian, so I couldn’t put up with your BF. It wouldn’t even have lasted one year.

@OperaStation don't speak down to me about what I give my kids me these are TREATS for my kids and the muller corners are also available for my kids to eat.

@thelastshadowpuppet do one 🙄

I wouldn't let it stress me out op. I absolutely hate fish or anything seafood. I'd be pretty cheesed off tho if my partner kept forcing me to eat it and was then 'put off' me because I hated it- It actually would put me off him if he was so obsessed with what I did or didn't eat lol

Exactly. What a non issue. People on here are so bizarre - first I saw someone say they wouldn’t date someone with a PlayStation and now this. Odd behaviour.

I don't see the issue with choosing milkybar yogurts instead of muller corners then? They're just different flavours of sugary dessert. And I don't think you can complain that he's setting a bad example to the kids when those are the yogurts they have anyway.

With some of you replies you sound pretty awful to be with yourself. However I can understand how frustrating it must be. I am like your partner (I do eat a few fruits but little to no veg). I wish I could eat it, I try quite often but I just can’t. I believe a lot of it comes down to being forced to eat food as a child until I was gipping at the table (and then told off for gipping). I will eat stuff blended into sauces, knowing it’s there doesn’t bother me, it’s the textures I think that I can’t do. I wish I wasn’t like this, but I am. No amount of pressure will change that.
I cook veggies for my children, they had veg at the child minders and nursery when they were young. It hasn’t rubbed off on them.

Yeah he's a man baby. Don't date man babies, you'll spend your whole life doing all the menial tasks in the home and his share too. Plus the kids see that and think that that's the way things should be and go on to date simar people.

Relationships like this will just drain the shit out of you and breed resentment.

Why is he a baby for not eating something?

I'm laughing at this my cause my friend's husband was the same and it nearly drove her insane when her kids were 4 and 5 and coping him.

In the end, started doing "rate my plate" competitions with the kids as fun and got her husband to join in. Made voting charts & prizes for best suggestions etc.

I don't remember them all but the ones I do are as follows:-

• created a fondue set with lots of chopped raw fruit where the kids had to pick their favourites without chocolate & then could dip their favourites in the chocolate when they decided on the winners

• the above with raw veg and hummus

• carrots/potatoes - raw, mashed, boiled and roasted etc.

The kids loved it & she told it as helping mummy pick the best fruit and vegetables for the shopping list rather than ones they didn't like.

Husband wasn't overly impressed but did join in eventually as the kids more or less begged him too.

She is a primary school teacher. Not sure others would have the patience but it worked. (She's much more normal that this may make her sound!) more success with the kids than her husband but she didn't really care once the kids started eating it.

I did the chocolate fondue one when babysitting nieces and nephews, got a great reaction too.

I missed my key point, I get frustrated with myself so imagine it must be hard to live with but as above, pressure or moaning won’t change me.

Healthwise, he's a ticking time bomb.

And who'll be looking after him???

Seriously, run a mile.