Partner won't eat fruit or veg!!!!

[user12312]

Hi ladies. Please help I'm at my wits end!
My partner WONT eat fruits or any type of vegetables. It's driving me insane. I feel like I'm dealing with one of the kids every day.

We have been together under 1 year and now it's really getting me down. He bokes even looking at veg. Both my kids eat a wide range of fruit and veg as do I. Then there's my partner who won't entertain them.
He told me he would make more of an effort and at least try different foods etc.
Tonight for example I put a couple spoons of sweetcorn (which was cooked in butter) on to his plate. He ate a bit and hid the rest under his lasagna and said he was finished. All the sweetcorn was under the leftovers.
It absolutely riles me as I feel like I'm dealing with a child.

It's really starting to make me feel differently about our relationship. It's actually putting me off him a bit if I'm entirely honest.

Any words of wisdom? Thanks

@user12312 half a brain cell ? No need for rudeness

Carry on with your man child then - good luck !

Does he actually want to eat fruit and veg but can't?

My BIL ate no fruit or veg but after a health scare decided he needed to change for himself and to to set a better example for his DDs. He had hypnotherapy which seems to have been a success. It wasn't instant but he's gradually felt able to try new fruits and veg starting with sweeter ones

So is it more his attitude towards not liking vegetables and fruit, rather than his just not liking them that’s the issue for you?

Does he actually make faces, or make silly noises like a child, rather than say ‘no thank you’ in a mature manner? I know you said he ‘bokes’- do you means he performs/fakes being sick over the food you make?

Just trying to get a picture.

He’s an adult. It’s up to him what he eats. He may regret it later, or he may not. Just let him get on with it.

It’s not his responsibility to set an example for your children.

You're incompatible.

Yuck
I’m also wondering why he feels it’s ok to pick through your fridge taking the kids favourites.
Is he by any chance a cocklodger?

He sounds like a massive girls blouse.

Think I'd be out.

I'd leave my partner if they monitored what I ate. It's up to him if he wants to eat fruit or veg. Imagine if he decides to portion control or calorie count what you eat because he wanted you to be a different weight for "health" reasons. He's an adult. You're not his mother. Leave if it bothers you.

Just seen that he eats the children’s food, that’s clearly for them. That’s selfish.

Yeah absolutely. He makes screwed up faces and goes like boke as if being sick but not actually being sick.
It's very immature and off putting and it's annoying me more each day. To the point where it's putting me off him :(

Does he live with you ?

What a turn off. Is he not constipated?

Just let him get on with it and tell the kids not to be silly like your friend.

No of course it's not his responsibility to set an example with my kids but with him being around myself and the kids at mealtimes etc of course his actions regarding food may influence them. No need for the sarcastic comment @TeaStory so please don't patronise me!

I can't deal with this immature behaviour OP. I will say get rid.

Provide meals? Why? No! Don’t provide any meals at all! Also find a partner with a longer life expectancy

Definitely ditch him ASAP.

I ditched a BF for the same reason.

OP, I think that the food is the lens through which you are first seeing his immaturity and self-centredness.

I imagine there might be other examples if you look closer.

Oh God, just seen your updates, he eats milkybar yoghurts and pulls faces when you put veg in front of him. Ugh no, I would be out. When did we end up with men who want to be babied and mothered? It's so fucking unattractive

If you don't want to be with him then don't. You might find him less annoying if you stop trying to make him do something he clearly doesn't want to do. He's a grown up and allowed to eat what he wants.

I have a feeling that this goes much deeper than him not eating f+v, which is not a big deal in the grand scheme of things anyway. Many people are unable to eat them due to bowel or stomach issues and other illnesses, so they supplement to make it up.

So spill......

I couldn’t put up with this. My greatest pleasure in life is eating out, so I couldn’t be with someone who was so infantile in his food choices.

You've got the ick, OP. It's time to end it.

It's been less than a year, he doesn't live with you, enjoy the relationship if you're happy, just don't invite him round for a meal when your DC are there then they won't see the bad example.

What? I wasn’t being sarcastic…?