Found videos of my boyfriend

[newstart2022]

Hi
I knew my partner was into porn - some of which seemed a bit strange, not stuff I expected a straight man to watch.
i can handle that but I found close to 50 probably more videos of him masturbating. A video of him taking his jeans off to show my underwear.
a video of him urinating in a glass and one off him jogging on the spot naked.photos of him bent over showing his behind.
honestly don’t know what to make of this.

You deserve better than him. He has a secret life based on kinks, likely shared with other people or another person. It's impacting on his work (taking sick days to do it for example) and on his relationship with you. It's become or becoming more important than other stuff in his life

And a secret life which seems to be all consuming. I'd have ditched him at the outset just for the porn use, but anyone so committed to his kinks that he uses fake sick days and holidays to do it is beyond unacceptable.

Don't feed the troll.

Anyway, whether his fetish invoices a dom or domme; sexual submissiveness in men is a massive turn off for me, and probably a lot of women.

You want to fancy and be aroused by your partner ..... who you now have in your head revealing women's knickers he has on, jogging on the spot naked with his bits flapping, on all fours with his arse in the air (or bent over or whatever it is), passing into the drinking glass (for what, drinking?) ....... how are you supposes to respect and fancy them (totally aside from the probable infidelity aspect)??

Someone else can have the "sissies", it wouldn't be me.

And they know its the vast minority who'd have them, that's why they lie.

*and by sissies, I mean men who are into "sissification", not men who don't meet traditional gender clichés.

There's also such an inherent misogyy within sissy fetishes too.

Not unlikely at all. It's not necessarily about the visual of the arse per se for the recipient, it's about the sub proving his obedience to the domme.

its opened my eyes to a lot of stuff I never knew existed.
all the porn he watched wasn’t what I thought it would be.
a lot with larger hairy women too.
it’s just been a lot to take in to be honest

I defer to your superior domme knowledge 😉😁

honestly don’t know what to make of this.

I am not sure if this post is all some sort of joke, but if not what I would make of what you found is “Time for a sharp exit.”

A few things I seen on his phone -
I want to lick your piss filled &&ssy
i want you to shove a d&&do deep in my ass

@ScrollingLeaves
i wish it was.
it’s been a lot to try and process.
i needed to talk it out if that makes sense.

Are you able to see who he’s sent the messages too? This is all really extreme😣 I’d be out the door tbh

@pedropony76
no I can’t see who. Have a reasonable guess though.

You could ask if your boot in his ass would do instead.

Is this the "friend" you were uncomfortable about?

Thats actually even worse than an only fans sex worker or online domme.

What is there to ask about? The OP has to decide if she can live with a man who uses porn and has weird, time- consuming kinks or not.

newstart2022 · Today 14:58

I wish it was.
it’s been a lot to try and process.
i needed to talk it out if that makes sense.

It must be absolutely awful for you and I am so sorry.

I realise to are trying to make sense of everything but I hope you won’t exhaust yourself trying to understand him. Think of yourself and get out.

He can get on with whatever on earth it is that he is up to, so don’t feel guilty either.

Isn't it funny how these ppl find each other, you should leave them to their crazy, nausea inducing little mess.

@LooseGoose22
no it’s no her.
wasn’t what I expected, not what I thought was his type.
large lady, quite masculine

@ScrollingLeaves
i have had my head in the sand for a long time about it.
needed to understand a bit more , this has all helped x

Is the other person not the sort you can take home to mummy, or as your plus one to naice events... is that why he's involving you in this cheating farce?

Sorry, cross posted.

I'm curious about the 'larger hairy women' porn, never heard of that. When saying hairy, does it just mean armpit hair and pubes, or is it bearded women?! I wouldn't really object to that unlike the betrayal and the submissive tasks being sent by someone he's cheating on you with. I agree with the other poster, most women are not into submissive men or men's 'sissification' fantasies which are really misogynistic. 'Oh no, I'm wearing women's underwear, how humiliating!' It's just a bit of cotton and elastic, dude, no-one cares.

Well now you know from his porn choices that she is ... if only behind closed doors/for sexual stimulation.

@penpalgal
it must be a fetish.
really large ladies - extremely hairy everywhere apart from the face.

@LooseGoose22
yeah its all fitting together. Unfortunately 😩