Found videos of my boyfriend

[newstart2022]

Hi
I knew my partner was into porn - some of which seemed a bit strange, not stuff I expected a straight man to watch.
i can handle that but I found close to 50 probably more videos of him masturbating. A video of him taking his jeans off to show my underwear.
a video of him urinating in a glass and one off him jogging on the spot naked.photos of him bent over showing his behind.
honestly don’t know what to make of this.

really large ladies - extremely hairy everywhere apart from the face.

Fk, thought I'd seen it all.

But I've only ever noticed large, body building type women as a sub type in porn, not large, hairy women.

So he likes being a sub/sissy for large, handy women. OK, good luck and bye bye.

Except he probably won't actually get into a relationship with one, if hes a pretentious narc, so he'll just keep on cheating.

*hairy, not handy lol

Probably handy too, for an effective spanking.

@LooseGoose22 😂
he has narcissistic tendencies too. Real catch!

Joking aside, wonder if hes going for large hairy women because he cannot countenance that he's bisexual or gay ... so he goes for the closest thing (in his mind) in a female.

Large stature.

Lots of body hair.

And he wants them to use a dildo on him.

I actually think he's gay/bisexual (and a sub obviously) but can't allow himself to go there so this is a substitute.

No doubt many posters will be along to say how totally hetero men just love having dildos shoved up their arses and I'm wrong. There's always at least one.

Piss filled pu$$y ... lovely.

Perhaps related to the glass of piss video.

@LooseGoose22
this is exactly what I though too.
they don’t look very feminine, so hairy they use brushes in the videos.
honestly could have lived without seeing this crap

Piss filled pu$$y ???
Surely that's just going to cause an infection. I don't get the thrill here. I mean, I understand masochism and what he would get out of these tasks, even though I definitely wouldn't find it attractive, but Piss filled pu$$y ? I don't get it, where's the thrill here?

@penpalgal
i don’t get it either.
all coming from a guy who told me porn wasn’t his thing 😳

You don't have to get it, thankfully, you can just walk away.

It was related to oral sex in the message, wasn't it.

It's more sub stuff, about being pissed on or licking, drinking etc piss from the womans genitals by the sound of it.

Don't think it's actually meaning vagina.

so hairy they use brushes in the videos.

So he has a chubacca sub fetish.

Is he a star wars fan?

Most men go for Princess Leah 😂

OP I might have missed it (in which case apologies) but i was curious about two things

• how long have you been together with this man as your boyfriend? and, more importantly


• have you felt like there is genuine sexual chemistry and attraction between you, by which i mean do you feel physically attracted to him? Do any of his physical features suggest any kind of effeminate side (I know this is a simplistic thing to say, but i just wanted to know whether the very first time you had any inkling he might be like this / interested in this was when you found this old phone and saw what was on it?


• It just sounds like what he has been doing is really full on time consuming and intense for him - were there any other signs before what the phone revealed?

Sorry op, Im just hoping taking the piss out of him might help.

@LooseGoose22
dont apologise , it’s helping x

You must be so shocked and for me I could not continue in a relationship with someone who was into all this weird crap and would question that I never really knew him at all.

Chewbacca, I should say.

But since its a female (supposedly) it would actually be a female wookie.

Anyway he can be whatever he likes, as long as it's not a cheater, which he is, to some extent or other.

(With the caveat that many women would not want to be with a sub.

And that his choice of woman for his sub fetish suggests redirected homoexuality).

@bubblesbubbles11
a few years together
He is quite slim and slightly camp but not so much that I thought anything of it.

i was/am attracted to him, there is a lot of chemistry.

What are your circumstances for getting rid of this "interesting" fellow?

Do you have decent support from family, friends etc. to deal with a break up? They are hard no matter what.

@LooseGoose22
yeah I have a few people who understand, others just want me to get rid and don’t get why it’s hard

"i was/am attracted to him, there is a lot of chemistry."

I am heartbroken for you.

I hope the shock of what you have discovered will give you the incentive and momentum to leave him promptly (assuming that is what you want to do).

Personally I totally get the need to try to reason it out/find an explanation/understand it for yourself (it is maybe born out of the "surely-this-is-not-true" feeling when you are in shock).
However if you possibly can, get angry at the deception/lack of truth and the fact that you have given this time of your life to him where what he is doing is so fundamentally the opposite to what you thought he was that you cannot continue. In other words, to the extent you can, don't give him any more of your headspace/energy - its like he has tricked you. Not on!

@bubblesbubbles11
its just so much to take in and is a shock.
I need to leave , i can’t trust him at all.
My headspace is taken up by him all the time x

I actually think he should have gone for flirting with other people in your presence.

The sexting (at the v least) with Agatha Trunchbull about his sissy/sub fetish, and possible closeted gayness weren't even necessary, but....

@LooseGoose22oh he did that too.
and via social media