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The cost of dating- I spent £50 last night!

285 replies

Okclaro · 29/05/2022 11:24

It takes me a while to feel comfortable going back to someone’s or having them to me but this can’t keep up 😬

That was dinner, two drinks and a taxi home.

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Dweetfidilove · 04/06/2022 14:29

I always see the words hooker, prostitute and the like thrown at women who don't go 50/50, but the women I always hear feeling the need/pressure to have sex by date 2/3 are the ones insisting on 50/50.

pixie5121 · 04/06/2022 15:02

prohodilka · 04/06/2022 13:21

There are many ways to be purposely poor. The financially literate, such as me, can choose to do it an a way he'll never have to rely on anybody's help or on the public purse.

One can be purposely poor just to reject anything that means consumerism and needless spending. One can have this thought from a young age but only have perfected it in adulthood (and in old age not need it as they'll have the state pension then).

Women who don't like this can go date other people. They're not needed or wanted.

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I'm not sure you understand what 'poor' means. Perhaps you should invest in a dictionary.

Choosing to live in a minimalistic, non consumerist lifestyle doesn't make you poor. If you choose this lifestyle and claim to be poor, it makes you like the person described in Pulp's Common People.

pixie5121 · 04/06/2022 15:05

Thisisworsethananticpated · 04/06/2022 14:27

Women like this aren't just fucking themselves over, they're fucking us ALL over

so
you are angry with shit men
and
all the women that date shit men

thats a big % of people to be pissed with there
HUGE

So?

Why is that relevant?

I choose to surround myself with sensible, decent, kind people, either to date or to have as friends. What does it matter what I think of most people?

It's called having standards. Some could probably do with trying it.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 04/06/2022 15:15

It’s relevant because you come across as quite angry sometimes in your posts
and for people (men and women) anger can be quite scary or dare I say triggering

you tend to use very strong emotive language , and yet I also read that you want to connect with people
as we all do let’s face it

I’m not saying this to argue with you (you scare me a little bit !) but as an observation

take it or leave it
I mean no offence

pixie5121 · 04/06/2022 15:26

Thisisworsethananticpated · 04/06/2022 15:15

It’s relevant because you come across as quite angry sometimes in your posts
and for people (men and women) anger can be quite scary or dare I say triggering

you tend to use very strong emotive language , and yet I also read that you want to connect with people
as we all do let’s face it

I’m not saying this to argue with you (you scare me a little bit !) but as an observation

take it or leave it
I mean no offence

I'm not a fan of tone policing.

Anger is sometimes warranted. Especially when it comes to how many men treat women.

Tone policing just silences women and stops them talking about anything 'offensive' or 'controversial'. And guess who that benefits?

DontBlameMe79 · 04/06/2022 15:27

Dweetfidilove · 04/06/2022 14:29

I always see the words hooker, prostitute and the like thrown at women who don't go 50/50, but the women I always hear feeling the need/pressure to have sex by date 2/3 are the ones insisting on 50/50.

Yes I agree. There’s something about self confidence and self worth that seems to work backwards on this one. As in if you have plenty of both you can accept someone paying for your pasta primavera without feeling indebted, seeing the bigger picture. But if you’re a bit short changed in the confidence department then overcompensating kicks in, the hands go on the hips and “I don’t need no man to pay for my dinner” blurts out. They should invent a self worth pill or something.

Mirrorball2022 · 04/06/2022 15:31

We went on night out dates but also long walks to big NT Parks, coffee and a chat, museums cinema etc

Fifteentoes · 04/06/2022 16:43

Agree with posters who say he should be paying. Your expenses are greater than his - clothes, hair makeup etc all cost more for us. Maybe a few months in there could be some sharing but I’d be wary even of that.

Indeed - as a man, I'm always thankful for the fact that I don't need to wear clothes on dates, and happy to pay a bit more in lieu.

Strangely though, despite my generosity, I can't ever seem to get further than the first date.

KettrickenSmiled · 04/06/2022 17:01

I'm not a fan of tone policing.

Anger is sometimes warranted. Especially when it comes to how many men treat women.

Tone policing just silences women and stops them talking about anything 'offensive' or 'controversial'. And guess who that benefits?

For someone so against tone policing, you seem to spend an awful lot of time doing it yourself. Usually against women ... but you seem to reckon it's ok for you to silence women with your scolding demeanor & personal attacks.

pixie5121 · 04/06/2022 17:15

KettrickenSmiled · 04/06/2022 17:01

I'm not a fan of tone policing.

Anger is sometimes warranted. Especially when it comes to how many men treat women.

Tone policing just silences women and stops them talking about anything 'offensive' or 'controversial'. And guess who that benefits?

For someone so against tone policing, you seem to spend an awful lot of time doing it yourself. Usually against women ... but you seem to reckon it's ok for you to silence women with your scolding demeanor & personal attacks.

Feel free to ignore my posts. I certainly try to ignore the utter nonsense you spout.

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