Dating thread 229: Traversing the world of dating

[SortingItOut]

The Rules:

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

Develop a thick skin.

Do not invest emotionally too soon.

It's all BS until it actually happens.

Trust your gut instinct.

People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.

Know your worth.

If it's not fun, stop.

Loo update is mandatory.

No dating the thread.

Treat others as you'd like to be treated

Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers agree with @Thisisworsethananticpated … you sound in a good place and it’s the best not to be stressing about anyone 💛

Weirdly I bumped into Mr Trades at lunch (old iron from a while back for those who remember here) we had a chat and he asked me out for a drink but I’m not going to bother. He’s not a bad guy we just didn’t hit it off and I wasn’t really interested. i want Mr Turk!!!!

Hope my friends going to see her blokey this weekend and ill see if anything comes of it 😅
Feel a bit flat today… guess its a comedown from all the excitement yesterday 😕

I need and feel entitled to younger guys… hehe
Men my age are so… jaded 😕

@ButterflyOfShay do you think your friend will be able to find out much about Mr Turk ? I guess at the very least you need to find out that he’s single… and into women! 🤞🏼💕

ButterflyOfShay I agree 🤣, I never get why men feel they are entitled to a younger woman because realistically we outlive men, we can continue to have sex well into our 60’s and beyond without issues. Most older guys I have dated have had ED issues. Younger men is the way forward 😂.

Hi @Stepcount 💕 noooo idea actually what she’s going to do!! Today I’m being all negative and thinking why am I bothering etc but then I see him him and I'm like oh lordie I fancy the crap out of you…..

Just going to have to wait it out, see if anything comes of my pal and her sewing seeds behind the scenes.. I just want a bit of excitement, like we all do I guess……!!

ButterflyOfShay
its not a bad thing
as either you will meet and hopefully click

or you find out he’s attached , gay , anything else

but the crush is moving a bit now

StAgur

I hope not ! I’m late 40s and have tended to get attached to guys also late 40s

im hoping the same would apply when I’m 60!?

get some nice flattering photos done and give it a go

id day the fact you want more casual might also help

HowlongWillThisTakeNow

mrs H is clearly very sexual right now …
and as you don’t see each one that often the focus seems to be on the physical side mainly

I think you need a talk at some stage especially as you injured your Willy last time

and there are other fish in the sea who might be more available and less , erm rampant

but maybe talk to her !?

Mila14
maybe it not meant to be ? With him
you’ve had a good time and some nice sex
so a good experience regardless

if you want a relationship rather than casual , you are going to have more stringent standards around fit and comparability ?

Thanks sweet 🤍 we shall see!

@Mila14 I’m starting to realise the one who’s not emotionally available is me. I think it’s not him…it’s me 😂😂😂😂

I had this realisation when I started to read Mr Unavailable and The Fallback Girl, I got it because I thought Mr K was emotionally unavailable and wanted to understand it better.....the book told me I was emotionally unavailable and I realised how true that was.
I've always gone for emotionally unavailable men because I am.
I was a Florence (fixer/rescuer) in my marriage.

I'm not 100% sure Mr K is emotionally unavailable,my counsellor thinks not but I think he is slightl.

Have you read the book?

I have a date tonight after a little break from it. Bit concerned I am going to look a sweaty mess, he offered to re arrange but I had to last week so didn't want to again 😅 but yes older men, when I was apps where anyone would message I got an awful lot from men 50+. I'm 31...And at the other end 19 year olds 🤣 idk I think OLD is just terrible in general I deleted everything a while back. So many just want to talk about sex and have the conversational range of teaspoons.

@Slothmomma …what kind of fun??? Spill the beans please 😊

@SortingItOut …bought the book after hearing about it here…I will check it out. I don’t know what type I am really.
@Thisisworsethananticpated …I’m really unsure about what to do. I love it MrC thinks I am super sexy and he’s so into my little old self. It’s empowering as he’s a very desirable gentleman…however…I really don’t know what I want. I do know what I don’t want though 🙄

Don’t worry and you have nothing to lose. Enjoy

This is true, thank you 😄

@Mila14 😆 well things progressed past kissing and we did dtd 😱😆 2 years I have fancied this man though so couldn't wait to get my hands on him. If we don't see each other again at least I have that 😆

@Slothmomma did you meet this guy out clubbing? Or am i remembering this wrong here 🙂

@Slothmomma ….wow…2 years… well well we’ll 😈😈😈

@ButterflyOfShay no, I went on a date with him 2 years ago. Timings were wrong so we didn't date any further but have stayed in touch on social media and with messages occasionally as we bump into each other locally every now and then. When he puts a pic up I swoon 😆

Thank you for your - limited - encouragement. I do want sex, and I don't want anyone a lot older. It sounds as though the chances are not good! 🥲

A lot of men seem to be 'transactional'!

@Slothmomma exciting!!! I love this!!! Good on you lady!!