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Inappropriate behaviour from a guy I am seeing?

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Charliec12 · 17/05/2022 22:14

I have been seeing a guy for 6 months now we are taking things slow and not official. He gets anger issues and has depression and drinking does not help. Last weekend we were at his ex girlfriend’s house for a bbq (he is still good friends with her). Anyway the ex girlf split up with her new partner that evening and he moved out. The partner who moved out blames the guy I am seeing for it all as he is good friends with this girl still and the guy I am seeing goes round there a lot still. Anyway I found out the next day that to wind the partner up who had moved out that night the guy I am seeing had decided to send messages to the partner about what he was doing in bed to his ex girlf who is also the guy I am seeing’s ex girlf too. I got sent the screenshots sadly. This is out of order isn’t it from the guy I am seeing even though we are not official? He was very drunk and said he did it to wind the ex partner up who had just split up with the girl. The partner I am seeing has not apologised to me about it either

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DrBrennerFan · 18/05/2022 02:00

Drink issues anger issues run and keep running.

Carlycat · 18/05/2022 02:01

JFC, are you that desperate? Dump the twat

AnAfternoonWalk · 18/05/2022 03:37

CockingASnook · 18/05/2022 01:18

It’s not exactly Jane Austen, is it?

🎯

Coyoacan · 18/05/2022 04:00

This is the point in your post where I would have dumped him... "he gets anger issues."

Yeap. My dgd's father has anger issues and nearly killed my dd.

UserError012345 · 18/05/2022 05:31

This can't be real. Anger issues alone would send me running.

You know what to do. 🏃‍♀️

girlmom21 · 18/05/2022 05:44

He's a nasty twat, isn't he!?

Weatherwax13 · 18/05/2022 05:50

Run like the wind

GlamorousHeifer · 18/05/2022 06:00

I'm sure I watched a very similar story on Jeremy Kyle once....

PatientlyWaiting21 · 18/05/2022 06:02

great post, I’ve really missed Jeremy Kyle!

wotwududo · 18/05/2022 06:13

End it now. Not worth it.

CandyLeBonBon · 18/05/2022 06:25

This has more red flags than a narcissist's Jubilee street party. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

He wants to shag his ex. You're not official because he wants to shag his ex.

Walk away now. He wants to shag his ex.

The hills are that way >>>>>>>>>

RaspberryChouxBuns · 18/05/2022 06:27

You're wasting your time.

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Charliec12 · 18/05/2022 06:27

Nope he is 41 and so am I, it is very childish behaviour though I agree

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Charliec12 · 18/05/2022 06:30

Thanks I keep putting up with it thinking it will change but last weekend it hit a new low there

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Charliec12 · 18/05/2022 06:39

I don’t think he is as he sent them like really quick one after the other but still awful

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ChairCareOh · 18/05/2022 06:40

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Charliec12 · 18/05/2022 06:40

Thanks and yes lots there I can see too

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Unanananana · 18/05/2022 06:40

Charliec12 · 18/05/2022 06:30

Thanks I keep putting up with it thinking it will change but last weekend it hit a new low there

Why are you putting up with it? Does he have a huge cock?

Put. Him. In. The. Bin.

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Charliec12 · 18/05/2022 06:41

Thanks and yes a lot to put up with there for me way too much :(

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Charliec12 · 18/05/2022 06:43

His spelling was spot on it was his anger taking over I think to try and get in a fight with this guy

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CaperCaper · 18/05/2022 06:46

You deserve more than a life with all this drama. Move on.

Original poster
Charliec12 · 18/05/2022 06:46

Thanks I was trying to explain it as 2 of them involved Sat night 🤣

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Charliec12 · 18/05/2022 06:47

He is 41 so am I put I know this is no behaviour from someone of that age

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LoveSpringDaffs · 18/05/2022 06:48

Charliec12 · 18/05/2022 06:27

Nope he is 41 and so am I, it is very childish behaviour though I agree

What?????

ok, serious questions, have you been helped with MH issues in the past, do you have sn ongoing condition such as bi polar?

im worried about you

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Charliec12 · 18/05/2022 06:50

They have been good friends for years and he claims and she claims they are just best friends but her ex has not been able to deal with it. I am not sure why the guy I was seeing kept going round there when he knew her ex didn’t like it

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