AIBU to think £200 month takes the piss

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Partner wants to move in, he has offered to pay £200 month. He earns roughly £500 a week and has sold his house with his ex. I'm a single mom and would lose my tax credits £480 month. Obviously I would be able to work more to compensate as he would help with childcare. Just seems very imbalanced, what would you do?

I would expect him to spilt the bills down 50/50. No way would I let him move in paying £200 a month what s joke!

I'd not let him move in.do you rent? How many dc do you have? How long have you been together? Did has ask to move in or did you ask him?

How much does it cost to live at your house? Bills, rent etc?
I don’t think he should necessarily pay half of all expenses (particularly be careful if you have a mortgage!) but I’m not sure what he thinks £200 will actually pay for?? I paid more than that in housekeeping living at home before I moved out!

Tell him no.

Why does he want to move in, do you want him to?

Tell him no! Surely half the rent and utilities is fair?

Do you want him to move in?
But yes - £200 is a piss take

No. Don’t lose money having him move in. Why would you?!
If he’s tight now, it’ll only get worse.

It's not a good sign that he is so willing to take advantage of you financially. Tread carefully OP. Is he usually a kind and generous person?

Don't let him move in.

Tell him to get his own place, or stay in his own place and he can wash his own socks

Hmmmm he sounds dodgy from the get go if he's not even offering half!

I wouldn't do it. Do you want him to move in? How long have you been together?

Yes it’s taking the piss, has he given a reason why he’s suggesting such a paltry amount? Surely he would split the bills with you at least to the tune of the amount you’d be losing in UC?

Where in the UK could an adult live, bed and board for £200 a month ?!! Friends partner gives £600 as half of bills (no mortgage or rent). Don’t know if that’s fair but just an example.

He is very kind and generous normally, I'm in shared ownership at the moment so Don expect him to pay any costs towards the rent, I own my share. Yes I do want him to move in but this is niggling at me

This often a problem when you are a single parent in benefits. He really won’t be able to compensate you for your £480 loss and pay half the bills.

and will he really help with childcare? After a few months when being constantly busy and the drudgery sets in?

in your position, I wouldn’t be moving him in at all.

Absolute piss take.

He wants you to lose £280 a month, cover the increase in costs (more electric/gas, higher council tax) but it's ok because you can work more to fill the gap, while he sits on his arse in your home, with your kids.

Fuck that for a game of soldiers.

My oldest still lives with me and he gives me £200, my youngest is 6

Ah, sorry I just reread and realised you receive WTC. In which case I would highly advise you not to do this as his income would mean your claim is cancelled and if you split you’ll have to go on UC instead as a new claim.

You have to seriously question the motives and true feelings of a supposed partner who is more than willing to throw you under the bus to get himself ahead financially... and probably thinks he's doing you a favour by gracing your home with his presence! £200? Ask him to look online, estate agents, gumtree... he won't find a squalid room in a run down house-share for that!

As a minimum, he needs to pay £480 per month as that's what you're losing for tax credits.

But, your outgoings will increase too, more food, more water, more electricity, more gas. I think £30 per week is reasonable for this, so £600 per month. That's still less than renting and all the bills on his own, and you're not worse off by having him move in.

He sounds like a danger to you and your children. Do not do it.

Ask him where he gets his figure of £200 from. What does he imagine it covers.

he is a chancer op
he needs to pay at least double that

£200 won't even cover the extra food cost for a grown man.
Say no op.