Dating thread 228: ribbons round a maypole

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

Develop a thick skin.

Do not invest emotionally too soon.

It's all BS until it actually happens.

Trust your gut instinct.

People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.

Know your worth.

If it's not fun, stop.

Loo update is mandatory.

No dating the thread.

Treat others as you'd like to be treated

Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@ButterflyOfShay
This sounds so lovely snd natural

Thanks lovelies! Guess I’ll see if he means it and follows up on going to the nature place 🙂
I really can’t help feeling like there is something nice between us but he is a lovely person, everyone likes him, so don’t want to scare him off by having any hearts in my eyes 😂😂😍 really do have to watch myself to check I don’t fawn, as don’t want to give the game away 😉😄

ButterflyOfShay

awesome
im loving the second nature date
suggested in first date !

hope your hangover ok !?

I had four large gins and no dindins @Thisisworsethananticpated so going to go out and pick up some breakkie treats in a bit 🙂 forgotten what a hangover feels like 😅

I like the way it’s him suggesting things! Maybe he missed me over the pandemic 😂😂

pixie5121

dont let it destroy Your soul please
in fact if it it , pause profiles and do something nice instead

the algorhtymns are indeed strange

sometimes it’s nothing
one weekend I got a spate of early 20 something men (I’m 48!)

have A pause , have some real life fun , get yiur hair done , flirt with people in real life and revisit profiles when feeling chirpier

i won’t let myself OLD when in a bad way

Moopyhereagain

im not suprised you are a confused after a 3 date weekend and managing a DTD !

to coin my least favourite phrase from tinder ’what are you looking for ‘ ?
😂

ButterflyOfShay
he clearly 😍 you back

now go soak up that booze and float in a happy daze !!!

Good morning x

id Love to know how many people get these in today from their erstwhile irons !

Well @Thisisworsethananticpated I thought I was looking for a relationship. Then there was a bloke in my house brushing his teeth and having Opinions about my decking (not a euphemism) and it all sort of gave me the ick. So who knows. Maybe more wrong bloke rather than overall wrong idea.

@ButterflyOfShay Sounds like a great time was had😊
I can't believe we've got a real in life budding romance.

Hope the 2nd 'date' happens asap.

@Moopyhereagain Early on I didn't let anyone to my house and if I went to theirs I stayed a few hours and went home.
No one needs a man brushing his teeth in your house or giving an opinion on your decking (unless you asked).

Once they're in your house a few hours they think they own the place🙄

Moopyhereagain

😂😂😂
sorry that made me laugh

did he have a steaming morning dump also ?
sorry 🙈

This!! I'm don't really understand OLD, I am two years out of my 15 yr marriage (divorce is still pending) I don't want anything serious just some flirting and maybe a couple of dates. I've only joined one app, all be it 2 weeks ago, mainly to figure it out as it all seems so cringe! And although I seem to be matching with people, they don't message back ... or as {mention: pixie5121} says a couple of messages then silence. So what's that all about then? Would really appreciate some insight from you ladies!

I’ve certainly found that being in the 50 + age range has curtailed any female interest in me, since things with Ms H are in limbo right now, I gave into temptation over the BH weekend had look online again, hardly anyone interesting in my area ( big problem with being rural), send a couple of half hearted messages, no responses ( no surprise really), don’t think I’ll bother anymore, just not worth the effort now I’m older

@SortingItOut thanks my darling 😘😘 already planning my ‘safari’ nature reserve outfit 😅 I want to be all sexy and hot and natural like the lady in the crocodile dundee films when theyre out in the wilderness and she always looks amazing 😍

@Thisisworsethananticpated 😂😂😂….. sad thing is he probably bloody did eh 🙄

Don’t lose heart, my friend is 41 and never married no kids one of the best people I’ve ever met … and you would be too young for her!! She likes oldies!! 😄 it takes all sorts, you are a great guy don’t be hard on yourself!!

@ButterflyOfShay eeek so pleased it went well and that you enjoyed the date!

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow OLD can certainly make you feel jaded :( but please don't give up hope!

At the moment I'm feeling like Mr Hipster is quite passive which is nice as it can balance with more energy, but my ex was very passive and it brought me down in the end. I'm seeing Mr Hipster again this weekend so I'll be interested to see how things go or if he instigates holding hands/kissing.

My energy*

Thanks to everyone for your encouraging words! It didn't seem like maturity or anything, just like something that needed to happen! And he's so lovely that I knew he would be ok having the discussion.

Now I am simultaneously terrified and excited about tonight. If the sex works out, I think this is going to turn into a very serious relationship.

@ButterflyOfShay whoa, that is all very promising indeed! What a great night!

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow I feel that you are often very hard on yourself - though I won't deny that OLD is difficult even under the best circumstances

@Thisisworsethananticpated 😅😅😅

@TheIblisHasspoken this is totally normal. People are flakes. I know that I myself have been guilty of not messaging back quickly/ever just because I am super busy, get distracted, and/or can't face OLD at some point for whatever reason

HowlongWillThisTakeNow

sorry to hear abiut Mrs H
hsvd you had a proper discussion about this ?
eoukd it be worth doing so you can make a decision

you so need to stop being so down on yourself and abiut your age
really !
your early 50s
same age as J LO 😂

also never venture in old when in a low mood or feeling jaded
it’s just miserable

do it when in a good mood , tipsy or even better - horny !

Back to looking again , So I always said I wouldn't date anyone too far away and wouldn't message for long before meeting up, but I have 🤦‍♀️🤣 also found out he doesn't have car at the moment 🙄 but we seem to get along great, I'm thinking about driving 45 minutes just to see if this is going anywhere and if not can move on but if it does and he doesn't get a car I refuse to do all the driving, suppose I'm just wondering if I should give it a go 🤷‍♀️

@Thisisworsethananticpated no kicked him out early doors for precisely that reason 🤣 need to preserve a bit of mystery for at least a while!

Lollysticks12

i wouLd if you feel a 100% spark

life is imperfect