Dating thread 228: ribbons round a maypole

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

Develop a thick skin.

Do not invest emotionally too soon.

It's all BS until it actually happens.

Trust your gut instinct.

People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.

Know your worth.

If it's not fun, stop.

Loo update is mandatory.

No dating the thread.

Treat others as you'd like to be treated

Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

What a lovely result from a heartache… congratulations 😊

@hotnakedgelato ..it’s easy to be over analytical. Don’t worry
iron news… Mr C … I got a new iron. This one is very handsome but geographically further away… we will see.
so I keep talking to mr W and we have a date organised
mr C looks interesting… lots of kids though…but I prefer guys with kids because I find it easier to relate.
ive erased mr silver Fox … sorry to those of you who wanted to unmask him. I have no time and 2 irons is enough right now
i think Mr Smiles I will not meet in June. There’s just not enough interest . He’s lovely but I don’t feel attracted physically after 2 dates

Guys…seriously…Mr C has given me his WhatsApp…he’s waaaay out of my league. Too good looking …😳…I don’t know. He must have 100s of women going all crazy to chat him…I can’t see this happening honestly…

@Mila14 he must see something that he likes in you, coupled with the chats that you have been having. Does it seem like a genuine photo/account? Are you just being a little modest about your own attractiveness?

@Stepcount …I wish…he’s drop dead gorgeous. And looks very normal in his messages. He’s quiet today though… the 300k women must be at it I think 😂😂😂. Yes he looks legit…talk bout his many kids and he’s on 50% with kids. We’ll see …
im happy I’m already set for date 1 with Mr W. He looks pretty decent too. mr Smiles has sent me message but I think I will let this iron go. I answer his text but succinctly.

Ive met a lot of amazing looking guys from dating apps, however the personalities, well that's another story 😅 I think you're selling yourself short. That said, was it a verified profile?

Yes Rubyrosey…verified. However he’s new in the app so I expect an avalanche…😂😂. He’s texted briefly again and I have pushed a bit for a date…next week too…coffee or glass of wine.
I’m still looking around though. So far I only have 1 date next week
and you are right, he might be an idiot irl…difficult to say
i have given him the benefit of doubt because of his family situation. He’s been upfront about it

Ah that's good - I got catfished in my early days of OLD 😂 yes well the honesty there is certainly a good start - and the less good looking ones are also likely to be just as bad in my considerable experience 😅 Good luck with the date next week anyway, hope it all goes well.

@Rubyroseyposey …I only have date agreed with Mr W…and I am properly excited about it…Mr C is too new and I’m not sure 🤔

update…Mr C wants to chat on the phone. Maybe he has awful voice 😂😂😂 I blocked a guy when he left me a message and he had awful nasal voice. These things matter.Equally he might not like how I sound. In any case he’s ok to meet next week 🤨…let’s see how this pans out. Exciting. I like both irons but IRL is the deal breaker…

Mila14 - I totally agree that voice is so important. I deleted one guy because i googled him and watched an interview he had on TV and he had a really whiny voice with strange mannerisms.

Just got off a three, almost four, hour phone call with Mr Arty. He is so easy to talk to, no awkward pauses, I really enjoy talking to him. He's travelling down to see me on Saturday. Arriving mid morning so we can go for a walk on the beach and then have some lunch. I really hope we fancy each other, but am very aware that it could go into friend zone. I think he would be great fun to date though, so we'll see. Eeek!

Mila14
im I’m awe at your relentless energy here
no one can say your not trying
stamina you have !!!

WeWantTheFinestWines
ahhh , so nice to hear . It’s so rare people click like that . It’s lovely and go slow this weekend ? Don’t analyse for chemistry too fast , he sounds lovely 😊

im so stressed and sad about my son I’m not even really functioning . I’m not really fit to be around humans right now . But what can I do !? Keep putting one step in front of another

@WeWantTheFinestWines that's so lovely 🥰. It sounds really positive so far.

@Thisisworsethananticpated hang in there. As you say, one step in front of the other. You're doing well to juggle so many things.

@WeWantTheFinestWines lovely, positive update there. I always enjoy a long chat. I'm hoping he's a good one.

@Thisisworsethananticpated sorry you have a lot on your plate there, stay positive and strong, this will pass.

I have my date zero with Mr Blue this weekend so hoping there's an attraction. We still message but I'm getting vibes that this might be messier than I'd like. I mean he told his ex he was meeting me after they had a general discussion on dating. I've never had that discussion with my ex. Apparently she said she thought she would feel jealous but is happy he's thinking about moving on (i think shes with her affair partner). I think I'm looking for something less awkward if you know what I mean.

Eesha

oh yes . That’s weird
(a) why telling her ? but more critically
(b) why da FUCK is he telling you that ? What went through his mind there

ButterflyOfShay

happy birthday 🥳 xxxxx
have a beautiful day

@ButterflyOfShay Have a great birthday!

@WeWantTheFinestWines Lovely to read your update. These connections where you can talk for hours are rare to find on old. Hope you have that physical chemistry when you meet on Saturday. Looking forward to hearing all about it.

ButterflyOfShay Happy birthday gorgeous! Have a beautiful day 🥂🍾🎂🎈🥳

@ButterflyOfShay happy birthday!!!

I have date 2 today with Mr cherry (not sure what to call him), I’ve been to anxious and excited to sleep. I really like him but unsure if he feels the same way. I know it’s very early days but a part of me wants to just jump on him and see how he reacts, though I think he’s pretty shy and I don’t want to scare him off. At what point to you question if they fancy you? Should I ask him outright? There was no kissing in the first date.

One of my old irons that has been messaging me is being quite pushy and asking to come and stay at the weekend, he knows I’m possibly going on a date this week with someone else and I think he’s worried he will miss out, he lives too far away for me to have a relationship with him but he doesn’t seem to get this. I have told him to back off.

Feeling a bit stressed this morning, I really want today to go well, I really want to get off the apps after being on them for so long.

Happy birthday @ButterflyOfShay 💐 - will you be raising a glass or are you still on the wagon, my dry January friend?

@Thisisworsethananticpated im sorry things are tough for your son and therefore also for you right now. This goes to your very core, I know. With support in real life, you will both get through I’m sure. Dating will still be there when you’re ready for it. Hugs.

Happy Birthday @ButterflyOfShay 🎂 🎉

Good luck today @Lovemusic33. Don’t ‘jump’ him but by all means do what feels natural, sit close, touch arm, peck cheek on greeting etc.