Dating thread 228: ribbons round a maypole

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

Develop a thick skin.

Do not invest emotionally too soon.

It's all BS until it actually happens.

Trust your gut instinct.

People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.

Know your worth.

If it's not fun, stop.

Loo update is mandatory.

No dating the thread.

Treat others as you'd like to be treated

Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

I guess a 57 yr old man would think that! Lol

The accuracy!! I think I just zone out and feel myself mentally detaching.

@ButterflyOfShay yes. Absolutely! It's a blinking minefield this dating thing nowadays.
A chap can't do right for doing wrong. ( and before im flayed that comment was tongue in cheek)..
However I did like the "vagina retreating like a crisp packet in a fire" analogy..where do you women get these lines from ?!
I also suspect my best lines have the same effect sadly..

No, he doesn't know I know her - to be fair, I barely know her myself, I know the other people in the group far better. She's lovely though, and has been single a long time so almost feel like I should just take myself out of the running! I also don't like the concept of pick me dance, so I'm a bit stuck!

would have my vagina retreating like a crisp packet in a fire!! This is inspired 😅😅😅

Yep, it’s The 7 p’s

Goodness yes, I am most uncouth. I shall retreat in shame to my parlour, post haste! 🙈

Everyone has a past, so a bit unavoidable really, but After 3 dates you have to swap the “we” for “I”, I would have thought
Ive been to see some such show or I’ve visited Timbuktu

lol, that’s fucking hysterical …,

when I was a young man (OH YOUNG MAN ! ), I dated a young woman who had a loads of bears and cushions in her room, I swear I felt my balls trying to ascend back in my abdomen, in the way sumo wrestler’s supposedly can, quicker than you can say “Eunuch”.

They probably tried to turn into a vag, @HowlongWillThisTakeNow at the sight of all those cushions and bears!!

@Penguinwaddler I’d be feeling like, does he still think they’re together or something?? Eww.

@ButterflyOfShay my thoughts exactly!

@Penguinwaddler I would feel exactly the same as you. I don’t know what made him think that you wanted to hear the whole ‘Adventures With Alice.’ Saga, but it all sounds a bit weird

ButterflyOfShay
don’t worry I’m far more uncouth !

Penguinwaddler

exes are tricky
as they do exist let’s face it

my preferences seems to be the ones that hate their exes and had vile custody battles
feels safer !

I think id prefer that as I’m jealous and couldn’t cope with amicable ! That’s dysfunctional I agree

id just say ‘easy pal on the Alice chat ! It’s been three years now !’
but yeah I’d not like that either

Funny isn’t it 😂😂 makes me laugh anyway!

Eesha

hey nice to hear you have a chatty iron and a (my personal favourite ) a walking date
back in the horse 🐎

No updates this end
still calm with Balkan
he also confirmed off the apps said he couldn't
remember what Hinge was !

its interesting we have sorted some issues quietly without discussing them whatsoever!
so some stuff is gone
and some stuff we’ve quietly adapted

and some stuff doesn’t bother me anymore

dating at my age is so amazingly different to when i was younger

@Penguinwaddler I'd definitely be irritated with the ex talk. They need to be self aware to know that most people would then wonder why split up if it was all peachy. I do mention my ex at times but always say its amicable and they have a new partner etc. But talking a lot annoys me. I remember my ex reminding me that his ex wasn't just a girlfriend, she was his 'chosen life partner'. That was the death knell right there.

@Thisisworsethananticpated Yes, should be lovely. I need to morphe from the ogre I am currently into someone half decent looking by next week. And look good in my trainers. My hairdresser/threading lady/nail lady will be so pleased to see me as they must lose hundreds ££ when I'm single! Hoping there's a chemistry in real life but he's so nice that I think we will have a great time just walking as friends too.

Same ! The efforts it takes
the hair
the waxing
the yoga
The eyebrows
the skincare

I’m pleased for you , I’m still friends with a couple
of irons I met early this year
not deep long lasting but we stay in
periodic touch and it’s nice
I think some nice male company is never a bad thing

especially when you work with older patriarchal sexist alpha wankers like I do

Lol you have the funniest way with words @ButterflyOfShay 😂
@Penguinwaddler agree with the others, I thought you meant they'd gone to this gig recently! I do talk about my exh but it's usually relevant because it'll be regarding DC/scheduling or what a twat he's being regarding that.
When I've mentioned things I've done or places I've been, I think it's just assumed unless I state otherwise.
Course everyone has a past but like @ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers said you don't want to Adventures with Alice tales!

No updates. Zero matches on Hinge. One potential FWB on Bumble but I'm not sold and other than that no conversations :(

Yeah no one wants to sit there and hear about alice in fucking wonderland!! Jeez just go back there then pal if it was so amazing.
I am so tempted to get a set of acrylic nails done. There’s a new nail bar opened near my house and one my pals went and her nails are beautiful. I’ve never been to a nail bar before! 🥰 💅🏻 long, shiny and in adorable candy colours.
Thank you @Heartbeats0708 …(i think thanks anyway?! Heh!) 💖

Sometimes it’s just about getting to know someone snd their ways isn’t it. There is clearly something between you… id love to have that with someone. It’s just a question of bumping into em for me! Then it will he POW! chemistry extreme!! I’ve waited long enough 🙂

Yeah, me too, think I’d look great with long candy nails…

my niece has her nails done, don’t how she manages to do anything as they are so long but seems to, must be something you just get used to?