Percy asks "do I have any figures for how very rare it is?" Do you mean statistics Percy? Are you in the UK? Why didn't you look at the ONS statistics? "in England and Wales, the average age for males marrying males has fluctuated between 39.5 and 40.8, while the average age for females marrying females has fluctuated between 36.6 and 37.4"
Statistically, that would that men marrying 10 years or more younger than themselves is very rare.
"The average age at which people in England and Wales get married has been getting later since the 1970s, with the average age of men marrying women rising from 27.4 in 1972 to 38.1 by 2018, with the average age for females marrying males increasing from 24.7 to 35.8 in the same time period."
So not only do statistics indicate that it is very rare, it is increasingly rare.
Of course statistics are not kept on "attraction" so these figures relate only to marriage.
What I think you mean and are struggling to say Percy is "do you have any evidence"? This thread is full of evidence. It might be anecdotal, but all court evidence begins anecdotally. So therefore, in the unlikely event that you were to argue the point in court, the evidence from women that they are not attracted to men significantly or even a few years older than them would be overwhelming.
But you should be able to work this out for yourself Percy. This thread, and indeed the entire world, is full of women telling men that they don't like old goats. There is a very funny but serious set of posts on TikTok at the moment where a man in his late thirties is trying to gain business for his app which purports to help men try to date younger women. He posts about his disappointing experiences on Tinder and other dating apps, where hardly any women swiped right on him (have I got that the correct way round? To indicate approval). Anyway, he videoed it and people paused the video and looked at the ages of the women he was trying to match with. Some of them were only 17 and most were under 23. The thread is full of comments from young women saying things like they find older men trying to lie about their age disgusting and how at 19, they wouldn't consider anyone older than 23 max.
Now Percy, that is not to say that you or someone like you might not eventually find a woman younger than you willing to date you. It might happen. Statistically, you're unlikely to marry her but we don't have statistics on how long she will be willing to date you for (because that would breach data protection and privacy rules in the UK). There will be a small proportion of the total women out there who for whatever reasons they have, are willing to date older men. These chances will be much higher if you are genuinely good looking, wealthy and very decent company with no baggage and not been around the block too much. Even then though, most younger women will reject you.
What we are trying to do though Percy is to avoid annoying older men bothering the rest of us with their unrealistic ideas. We also want our friends to avoid that controlling, older man ruining their lives. Its just part of the social skills you pick up on living in a world with other people in it.
Its a shame that men are being exploited by these so-called dating experts and basically rendering themselves undatable by developing such harsh and cynical attitudes that present as red flags to women in the age group similar to themselves that the statistics support would involve themselves with them.
But remember Percy, evidence. Not "figures".
Could I also request that you practice your social skills from now on and cease from addressing me personally in your replies, because I don't want you to. That can be a bit of practice for you.