Should I take my husbands name ?!?!?!?!

[bananamuffin89]

Recently married, always fancied the idea of double barrelling our surnames. I definitely don't want to remove my surname all together, I know this could change in future years, but right now I'm not ready to just forget my name..

Has anyone else felt like this ?
My new husband obviously wants me to take his surname but I'm honestly not ready right now.

Thoughts please, especially when you've had children and thoughts on their surname 🙃

society, culture, history, the fact that I'm already called by his surname by all his friends and family, and that this is assumed and no one has asked 😊

Not changing it, just curious to hear other views.

I changed.
I have never regretted it.
Where I live everyone changes their name, even in their professional lives.

i found this annoying too lol
From now on when im writing cards I will write Newlyweds or whatever 😊

I kept my name. Kids had double barrel names which one of them changed when they were in their 20s.
I don't see the need to change your name. It's a pain having to change all bank stuff etc.

Kept my surname, children have Dad's name as easier to pronounce and spell.

Absolute non issue in my life.
Love having my "own" name.
See women changing names as a sign of ownership and misogyny.

Nope, you are you, you don´t have to take on someone else´s family name. When couples break up I see on mumsnet how the husband´s family start ignoring the ex wife and they hear comments as when will she drop the surname, she isn´t really family. But then I come from a country where women don´t take their husband´s surname.

OP, DC nd I do sometimes get called by just DHs surname. We always correct them.

It's kind of the norm for the women around me to use the married name in a personal capacity but to retain the maiden name for professional reasons.
Aside from professional continuity, it makes you less searchable on social media, which appeals to me.
So I'll be my own surname at work and on official documents and if people like the teacher or whoever want to call me Mrs. Hisname, that's fine with me as well.

I took my husbands name 18 years ago, I regret it. I was 37 when we married and I had big trouble getting used to another name, I'm not sure I've done it yet. I miss my name. I keep saying I'm adding it as another middle name, I really must get round to that.

Been married for over 30 years and I never changed my name….if people call me Mrs XXXX I politely say, my name is YYYYY…..do you not correct friends and family OP?

I have done it, I've added my old surname as a middle name. I extremely pleased with myself. I feel like all the right with the world again, lol

My DW kept her name, which I’m perfectly happy about as there was always something a bit stepford wifey about the name changing thing. I believe it’s a fairly recent innovation anyway, an attempt at upward social mobility.
Our kids have my name, though I’m perfectly happy for them to change them to whatever they like. I’ve often thought of doing so myself; my name, though fully phonetically spelled, and containing no phonemes that are not perfectly common to the English language, no fucker can spell nor pronounce it. Mr. Plamefront? Mr. Pulmefrent? Mr. Pimpfrenkel? Sigh.

No. It's your name. Belongs to you so you should keep it

is he asking himself the same question?
you're considering double barrelling to add his to yours; is he also considering double barrelling and adding yours to his?
either you both double barrel or you both keep your own surnames.
if you plan/hope to have children they should have your surname (with his as middle name if he wants) or both surnames, with or without hyphen.