Step grandfather, inappropriately touched my daughter

[Workinghardeveryday]

Last night my dd16 went for tea with her dad and stepmum to stepmums parents.

She was weird when she came home and more moody than normal.

I asked her a few times if all okay etc, she said yes.

Later on I was saying good night to her and she seemed better, I asked her if she was okay as I was a bit worried about her. She told me when she was leaving step grandfather gave her a cuddle and squeezed and jiggled her bottom.

She has made me promise to not tell anyone. Obviously I want to tell exh about this but if I do I betray her trust and she will never confide in me again.

She rarely ever sees her dad and the rest of them. She said he’s never done anything like this before.

Feel really torn. He is a dirty perv and will get away with it!

Wwud?

For your DDs and your own sake, please call the police.
Otherwise your DD will be faced with her dad and stepmum making her feel guilty/not believing/minimizing etc and feeling HORRIBLY about herself.
You really need to show her that this was unacceptable, that her dad and stepmum's attitudes are very wrong. She needs to hear this from the police and other professionals as well, to know she has done nothing wrong and that people like the grandfather must be named, shamed and held accountable by law.
Please do the right thing for your DD. Leaving it as it is will only make things worse- likely break your relationship with her, and will give her no empowerment to believe in herself and defend herself in the future.

Such a horrible outcome here.

Your ex and his wife can fuck all the way off.

In what world are their reactions to this acceptable.

Not a single chance I’d ever allow my daughter to be exposed to that pervert again.

I know I am not only echoing myself but other posters - but you NEED to go to the police.

Bottom line is, if touching her inappropriately without consent isn't a crime then nothing will come of it, will it?

We all know he's committed a crime. Do not ever allow your daughter near him. Show her you will never allow anyone to get away with anything they do to hurt her. I hope you are both managing as best as you can. I am disgusted beyond words at her Dad's reaction. As previously posted, my own Dad minimised an almost identical situation but I know for a fact my DD Dad would likely go as far of breaking the law himself if anyone tried something like that!