Dating Thread 227- Stepping Into Summer

[ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

🙈😅 @HowlongWillThisTakeNow …….

I hear you @Lovemusic33 sometimes someone comes along who does get under your skin.. see what happens you don’t know it’s done yet x

I had this maybe a year ago, was he Polish??

Good luck @Penguinwaddler ! What did he say? 🙂

Waiting for the reply... Will keep you posted 😅 I'm out tonight so can just get drunk if it's a no go, then seeing my therapist tomorrow so at least I can sob to her about my failed love life 😁

It's all good guys, he would like a relationship and a family one day.

Hi all,

Just catching up with the thread.

@Penguinwaddler good luck! I hope you get a reply. ❤️

@Rubyroseyposey sending you lots of luck and good vibes for your date. It's all sounding very positive ❤️

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow how's things going with Miss H? Have you managed to arrange any further meets yet? ❤️

Nothing happening here. I did have a bit of a chat with a potential but it just fizzled out. It was my birthday on Wednesday and I had a lovely evening with my folks. Got some new books as well so my bedroom now looks even more like a bookshop. 😂😀❤️

@Penguinwaddler 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

ButterflyOfShay

no ! Israeli
I’ve always had a yen

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

hapoy belated !!!!

Penguinwaddler

i salute your tenacity girl
I’m only a week in and I’m like ‘nah’
god It’s brutal

@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers
No, but thanks for asking

@Daydreamscometrue I think you're right - he started this morning with his Morning x but has now completely disappeared this evening...

Unfortunately I've come across that type far too often. A brief message but then radio silence. Makes you wonder what they gain.

Really well done, @ibelieveinmirrorballs ! I've no doubt that this feels difficult now, but it's such a positive, boundaried, and healthy way to handle the situation.

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow 😅😅😅

Any updates on Ms H?

Great news!!

He’d offered to grab me some bits from the shop… he lives literally around the corner 🙈 I said I didn’t need anything but he could pop in for a cuppa on the way past if he felt like it (it’s on his way). He’s a bit of a sweetheart. He sent me a clip earlier of his work, the stuff he’s working on for this weekend. He is sexy!

My update is that I saw Mr S for dinner tonight, then we had a cup of tea and watched TV. His beard caused an enormous, open cold sore on my chin, so I wouldn't let him kiss me. (He's already talking about shaving the beard???)

He clearly didn't want to go, but I kicked him out knowing that my daughter will wake me up early. It is starting to seem difficult to date when I have so little time.

We really get on well, but I have had conflicting feelings since the boner awkwardness. I'm not sure what is causing it - maybe just learning more about his imperfections (eczema, dandruff, poor aesthetic sense), exhaustion, or obsessing over the uncertainty.

But he seems like a genuinely kind and gentle person, he's super smart and perceptive, and I sincerely like him, so I will continue to see it through.

@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers happy birthday!

@Thisisworsethananticpated

Glitch, annoying

@Thisisworsethananticpated i admire your tenacity! Even a week seems good going

@Penguinwaddler good luck!

So what's happening here then..?
I received a like from someone and I have sent her a message asking her to chat. I also said that her profile pic was a bit blurry.. ( I like to see who I'm chatting too ).. but I'm sure she's genuine.
Why would someone send a like and not want to chat?

I can never understand this. I've had this many times. I can only assume it's because they take a closer look at the profile and decide they aren't interested after all.

Sounds like a lovely evening and he seems a really decent guy. Did he initiate anything sexual? Do you fancy him?

@gelatodipistacchio maybe you have the ick? Maybe you don’t have the chemistry there. Just because at first you felt you wanted him to be your b/f doesn’t mean to say you have to keep feeling that way. It’s all about getting to know someone isn’t it..

@gelatodipistacchio negotiations are underway, it’s more complicated than Brexit agreement, but I think we end-up with some form of back stop agreement where all cross border movements are put on hold until until September.

in other news, I fixed the puncture on my MTB ebike, so off out riding today

Oh the dreaded likes, I used Our Time, ( as I’m over 50), for a while last year, it used the “likes”, I would “like” someone, the would send a “like” back, then I would message then and there would be no response, so annoying and ( sorry ladies), some of the profiles on there were terrible