Dating Thread 227- Stepping Into Summer

[ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@Moopyhereagain Messaging before meeting is such a minefield! Sorry it didn't turn out as you hoped. But hope the kiss was enjoyable at least!

I don't do dinner dates for the reasons you mention above. Maybe if it was date 3/4 onwards? Never managed to get that far though!

@gelatodipistacchio have faith as he does sound lovely and as the saying goes where the mind goes the man follows.. and I’m sure that would include the boner too 😍💘💘

Ewwwww @Moopyhereagain so he’s a creep then. Calling you a pricktease indeed?!? You knew as soon as you saw him you’d never fancy his prick so a ridiculous moot comment! Sad wanker.. hope youre ok!

@Penguinwaddler ooooh I would love a sexy dinner date!! Only if we’d met a few times though and I knew I definitely liked them, otherwise I wouldn’t. Then back to theirs for pudding! Hehe 🥰

Have you got iphone sweet.. I think you can turn the ads off there in settings/ privacy or use google chrome as the browser and save the bookmark through there xxx

Sorry that was to @WeWantTheFinestWines x

@gelatodipistacchio
maybe average in terms of fitness. He's reasonably slim and took up cycling during covid, so isn't sedentary.
sounds like me, but my friggin bike has got another puncture!
l lost my “boner” when I got made redundant about 10 years ago, it came back after a while , I’m sure his will.

Thanks for being my IT support Shay! I don't do Apple and use Chrome already. I just don't like the site and I want the app to work again. Still managing to make bland and inane comments on here though, so all is well in the world!😊

@ButterflyOfShay gingers crossed!

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow to be honest, I lost my boner equivalent over the past several years with my abusive relationship and divorce and thought that I would never desire sex again! So it's not just men who suffer from this type of thing - though you obviously have a more visible symptom of this mental block with an actual boner (or lack thereof).

@ButterflyOfShay fingers crossed!

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow to be honest, I lost my boner equivalent over the past several years with my abusive relationship and divorce and thought that I would never desire sex again! So it's not just men who suffer from this type of thing - though you obviously have a more visible symptom of this mental block with an actual boner (or lack thereof).

@gelatodipistacchio
yeah, stress/ worry / depression all kill male libido, tends to stop the production of PDE5 inhibitors, so no blood flow to the appropriate places, that’s why viagra is popular as its a PDE5 inhibitor, take a blue pill and 30 minutes later the blood is where you want it !
most men will have misplaced their boner at some point in their lives, but you can normally find it again

@Penguinwaddler I do love the idea of dinner dates, as long as you’ve got to know your date well, so the conversation flows a bit more. I made a mistake in going for a dinner date with my last iron Mr History too soon, and let’s just say it was a bit of a disappointment.

@Daydreamscometrue haha I'm glad someone else feels the same! I suggested drinks and he suggested dinner AND drinks 😅
@ButterflyOfShay omg back to theirs for pudding 😂great idea though!
@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers ooh no, how come it was a disappointment? 😕

Tbh I'm finding coffee dates the best so far. Dinner is too awkward, drinks I get too drunk and make a bit of a prat of myself.

@Penguinwaddler he wasn’t a great conversationist. This was our second date. The first date went okay. But then, on the second date, he didn’t speak for ages because he was ‘tired after work.’

@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers oh no :( the dinner date with Mr Hipster (as I will now call him..) is meant to be a second date. Feels like a lot more pressure especially when you're facing each other! Gotta love those awkward silences..

God, Hinge is very dry at the moment. I’ve liked some possibles, but all my ‘most compatible’ matches seem to be people that want a plus one for their friends wedding 🙄

@Penguinwaddler completely agree with that. Wishing you lots of luck for your date and I look forward to hearing how it goes 🥰

this will make you laugh…. There’s a guy I’ve just come across. He has a grand total of two photos of himself, (that look exactly the same) and has just put the word ‘yes’ to every question. 🙄

Ooh I’d never to a dinner date ! Far too long….

it’s walk and maybe a coffee for me , especially now the weathers good

to be honest with my last iron we went to sex dates which I didn’t mind as (a) didn’t cost and (b) was good sex

But that’s ended in tears

have a walk tomorrow with a 13 years younger than me man ! if he doesn’t cancel , babysitter etc etc

@Penguinwaddler my first date with my current iron/partner who I met in autumn was a dinner date!

Must have been lucky as it went well, no awkward silences. We then went on for drinks.

My 1st date with Ms H was a lunch date, but that seems to have fizzled out now, so free free to ignore

@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers thank you, I look forward to updating you! Thing is he is v quiet over messages which is fine as we don't know each other well yet but my ex was SO quiet and I assumed he'd perk up a bit once he relaxed into things, but he never did and I realised how much I love chatty communication 😅 still, early days and no one is the same.
Also oh dear at that Hinge profile! I deactivated Hinge for now, hoping Bumble will be better...

@Thisisworsethananticpated sorry it ended in tears :( it can be so disappointing.

@Stayingstrongish that's exciting! I'm glad it's going well!

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow I guess there's no rhyme or reason to it, is there. I am struggling to get past the first date mark at the moment so at least I've actually got a second date for once 😅

Penguinwaddler

ive only had two second dates !
when I started this thread I was amazed back than anyone even got to having a fling or relationship with someone they met online
mand the guy I went loopy about , didn’t even fancy him in the first date (but liked him)

I’m now 10 months in and I’ve definitely learnt a bit around how to filter people -suss people

what I clearly havnt mastered is not getting fixated and obsessed
hence why I LOVE this thread
as I’m clearly not alone in that 😁

HowlongWillThisTakeNow

whats happening with MRs H
any future meetings planned ?