Husband has decreed that...

[Bogiesaremyonlyfriend]

... he is far too important to carry a house key any more. This means apparently, that I am now responsible for ensuring he is not locked out the house ever. If I have the audacity to not be in when he requires to be let in, I have to ensure a key is left in a safe location and that he is informed of this. Also, if he leaves for work, often at 5/6 am, the house will remain unlocked until I drag my lazy ass out of bed to either lock the door or get up for the day.... or we get burgled! Honestly, I wish this was an april fool's....

Reported Spammy McSpamface

Therapy is wonderful. It's what you deserve.

FWIW, I was on the bus a couple of years ago and a woman next to me took a call from her fuckwit who was locked out. She was giving him logic, such as I'm on my way to work though, I will be back at 6pm, I can't, I have x,y and z to do in preparation for afternoon meeting..... He bullied her until she abandoned her day and did a u-turn to go back to the house. Poor woman. The entitlement of some men beggars belief. And he wasn't sounding grateful. I could hear every word of his bullying, so could the whole bus. He was angry that she hadn't leapt to accommodate him quicker. Angry that she'd tried to imply that her day had some value. I couldn't help but shake my head as she stood up to get off at the next stop.

I sincerely hope you've now left or are leaving. Good luck OP!

Oh, sorry for posting on a zombie thread but I read through it and the OP has her eyes wide open. Her fuckwit sounds so like my x. right down to the liking motorbikes. I hope you're OK @Bogiesaremyonlyfriend hope you are living on your own and enjoying eating chocolate covered cashew nuts whenever the hell you want to.

You should have called the police and had him charged with assault. Have someone take HIM away. (Then sell the house between the outlaws and move to destination unknown.)

I agree @BraveryBot9to5
Hope you have managed to get him out @Bogiesaremyonlyfriend

Morning OP
I have a few suggestions
1, stop thinking your weak, he is a manipulator
2, get yourself a solicitor and sort your shit out
3, look in the mirror and repeat, I'm bloody marvelous, I'm strong, I'm a mother. You have survived a martial war intended on grinding you down, yet you are still here.
4, keep safe as when he finds out the chains have rusted he will panic.
I wish you good luck and happiness for your next and real life yet to come. Now growl like the lioness that you are, secretly of cause! wait till your unsightly growth has been permanently removed.

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@Bogiesaremyonlyfriend I’ve just read all your posts and wanted to wish you well. I really hope he hasn’t hurt you again.

OP I wish you well in separating from him, in getting legal advice and in taking control of your own finances so he can’t take out anymore loans etc!! Be careful the amount of personal info you’re giving out is identifying, maybe delete thread when you’re done as don’t need anymore hassle from him - or him finding out your plans in advance.

At least, thankfully, he’s your ‘ex’, time for the same honorific to be given to this knobhead.

Just reading this now. Hope you have your new home and are living happy and free x

Presumably he takes other keys e.g for his car, his office ,his elderly mother's house.
He sounds an absolute loon. I would get a key safe and then leave him to it. I would find it difficult to feel that I was in a team type situation with this person.

I hope you are very discrete with your laptop, etc..: I suspect that he can feel you slipping from his grasp. He probably knows you don’t give a shit anymore and is upping the ante with ridiculous controlling behaviour. Make sure you change your passwords on everything. He will be suspicious.

At last!! We have all been floundering for 6 long, hard weeks, not knowing what to do! Praise be to @Robinni for this gem!

Hint - it isnt about a key....

No need to be bitchy, I hadn’t read the entire thread nor realised it was 6wks worth when made initial comment.

Did so retrospectively and wished OP well with her separation.

What is your problem?

I hope you are ok @Bogiesaremyonlyfriend

I read your initial thread and was really hoping you had got out. We're all rooting for you x

@Bogiesaremyonlyfriend Please come back and let us know how you are. Did you manage to leave?

Wow I cant believe what I am reading?

I genuinely would never put up with this I am sorry he is such a knob!

Proud of you for wanting to leave and get away x

RTFT. @Bogiesaremyonlyfriend you are a warrior QUEEN.

Hope you are doing ok. Let us know 🙏🏻

In the past I would have pandered to his every whim to prove what a perfect and wonderful person I am, worthy of his love.

You are worthy of the love of someone a great deal better than this individual!

least it will be easier to throw him out when the time comes...

Well... maybe it should be sooner rather than later.

I really hope you have managed to escape and have begun a new life with your DC.
Hopefully you will all realise that he was a textbook example of "what not to look, for in a man"

Hi OP, I remember reading your posts at the time and felt so sad for you, you're definitely not a loser. Please let us know how you're doing and that you're safe, your last posts were very worrying x