Oh god my husbands like this! I like to have the front door on the latch even when I’m in the house.
He’s not so bad now, but won’t understand why I like to feel safe. I used to have to leave the door off the latch when I went to bed, so he could get in easily when he came back from the pub. I would always ask him to take the key.
One night he came back from drinking with friends (well past midnight). Woke me up to let him in. I called down from the bedroom window, I said “don’t you have a key?” I honestly thought he’d taken a key , he than had a temper tantrum. Of course I don’t have a key, oh let me just go and sleep in the garden”
As he’d been drinking I just went down and let him in - but no apology the next day.
He’s gone away for a few days and I had to encourage him to take some keys. He didn’t want to take his own as they were too bulky. I had to suggest he just take off the house keys.
This is a man who has a vintage car which he keeps in a locked garage, with a camera - who then keeps the keys in our wall safe, in case they get stolen. But wants me to keep the front door unlocked because we live in a safe village.
It’s got much better over the last couple of years because I just refuse the leave the door unlocked.
Sorry to derail, but just wanted to let you know I feel for you.
Why does he do it? He’s lazy, and my inconvenience is of less importance than his.