Would you choose the man or the dog

[Banjjoo3]

I’m having a difficult situation at home. My Fiancé HATES dogs, any dog. He hates the mess they make, the smell everything about them. I am the opposite, I love dogs. We live a country lifestyle, on a farm, with horses, chickens etc. my fiancé is away a lot for work so last year finally agreed that I could get a puppy 🐾. Now this puppy has been particularly difficult…in fact he’s nuts! He’s chewed up flooring, kitchen units, any left footed shoe, he runs full speed into the pond then rolls in fox shit just for fun, he chases the calves, barks at the horses, and is generally a menace (which I love him for). He’s been trained so will do all the usual obedience stuff, comes to work with me, gets a lot of exercise, all the usual stuff.

Yesterday, after he decided to shit in one of the cupboards my fiancé mentioned that he just can’t live with him anymore, that he hates having a dog and it’s making him really down, he doesn’t want to be at home because he hates him so much, I’m sure you get the picture.

The thing is, I would never give up on my responsibilities, I love the dog and he’s great company when he’s away so much, and a comfort as we have no close neighbours. So what would you pick, the man or the dog?!?

I would understand where the man is coming from actually and train my dog better.

Your dog is worrying your animals, if he escapes and starts doing that to a farmers animals they can legally shoot him.

You need to pay out and get your dog trained properly because it sounds like you aren’t doing a very good job.

Earringsandlipstick Yes I am a bit mad when it comes to doggies Im afraid! Thing is her fiance was not keen on dogs to start with .So fundamentally ill matched with a Dog lover . Even if she gets rid of the dog ,will she not be resentful of her partner as time goes on? Dogs can and should be trained obv .I would not want a dog pooping in my cupboard either! By this age he should be house trained. Sorry for "Binning off " phrase .On here a lot and pick up the jargon!

Hour dog shits in cupboards and chases and scares other animals. This isn't 'what a cheeky scamp' behaviour. This is disgusting and it's dangerous behaviour. The puppy sounds stressed too. Your dog needs serious training on how to behave around other animals. You're not a responsible owner if you allow your dog to chase your other animals and frighten them.

I'm a dog lover but your dog sounds like a nightmare. It'd very unreasonable for it to be shitting In the cupboard. You've had loads of time to house train the dog and it sounds like your dear fiance has been more than reasonable. The dog would have to go for me too.

Really not acceptable to chase animals.

*This is a no-brainer. You live on a slice of paradise with horses, chickens, fun and freedom.

Then when his lordship returns he sprinkles misery and moaning.

Bin him and get another horse*

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I think you should choose the dog but only because your DP should find someone else who he is compatible with.

I have a puppy - five months - and I don't see how he could get to a year and be so much of an arsehole as you describe?! I know breeds are different but yours sounds awful and while some dog stuff is nature, the bits of his behaviour you describe are nurture surely?

Your DP sounds completely reasonable, and your dog sounds awful.

The dog is a chihuahua x pug, so we’re not talking about a big dog here. He has got a lot better than he was and the chewing has pretty much stopped (bar the odd shoe) 9 days out of 10 he does not use the house to go to the toilet, but yesterday he did and in the past his toilet training was real hard work.

He will come out riding with me and trot beside the horse happily with no problem, but if the horses are in the stables he will stand outside the stable door and bark at them. The calves have just been born and he does bark at them. I was trying to be lighthearted in my description of him, he has caused no harm to any human or animal, although maybe a little distress with his barking. I absolutely agree he needs more training and will of course get it, he is a little shit!

Can your dog live more like a farm dog if your OH struggles with him in the house? Ie access to utility room or properly weatherproof cosy kennel, but mostly living an outdoor life? It sounds like a dog with that much energy may prefer that anyway?

@2DogsOnMySofa

*This is a no-brainer. You live on a slice of paradise with horses, chickens, fun and freedom.

Then when his lordship returns he sprinkles misery and moaning.

Bin him and get another horse*

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Doesn’t sound like paradise for the livestock being worried by the dog.

Ah, sorry just seen the breed. Outdoor dog probably won't work then

Puppies don't stay puppies forever. My Lab was a little shit as a pup, but he so much calmer now.

I don't think this should be an either/or. You will have to compromise.
Complete the training and accept not everyone loves dogs.

(Is the pup a labrador?)

The calves have just been born and he does bark at them. I was trying to be lighthearted in my description of him, he has caused no harm to any human or animal, although maybe a little distress with his barking.

Possibly more than a little distress?

Odd choice of dog for a farm - I was expecting a Labrador or Collie!

Ooh I didnt see your update.

The dog is a chihuahua x pug

I'm astounded that this is the type of dog you chose to live on a farm.

We have a beautiful dog kennel here, plenty of room for numerous large dogs not just a little one, but he’s not the toughest of dogs when it comes to the cold. He comes to work with me and will sleep on my feet or be touching were possible, so I really don’t see outside living would be good for him, he loves people.

Unless you get the dog under control quickly, your relationship is over either way. Give up the current dog and you’ll resent your fiancé, he’s also not going to want another dog because of how bad this one has been. If you don’t resent him now, you will when your life is dog free. Or you keep the dog and the fiancé walks away anyway.

Unless you get this dog under control, your dog is also likely to be shot. It cannot chase and bark at calves. If they are your calves then you’re setting yourself up for a herd that could kill you. You say he’s in training, is the trainer working on these aspects? If not, find another trainer. The puppy is getting plenty of exercise and is with you at work all day, is the puppy actually getting enough sleep? Even working dogs, the puppies need a lot of sleep.

You’re not just doing a disservice to your fiancé but also the dog here by simply dismissing this behaviour as him being a menace.

I love small dogs and he comes in the lorry with me a lot when I’m away competing. I also do not like mess and whilst I love all dogs, me personally, a small dog suits me better - although clearly this one needs a lot more work! But he’s by no means dangerous, everyone loves his big personality…bar my fiancé!

A chihuahua pug on a farm that trots with the horses?! You've chosen a really odd breed for a farm and haven't trained it well - not sure you're that responsible dog owner op :( Poor DP, poor dog

Dog ❤❤ he sounds amazing

@caprimoon

Dog, if you chose the man you'd never forgive him anyway.

Yeah. Even when you turned a hundred youd still hate him for it.

Oh dear, I thought you were going to say he was a border collie or lab. You made a huge mistake with that breed. My friend who is an experienced dog owner took on a similar cross and at age 4, with loads of training it has just become a little more manageable. I like dogs but couldn’t live with it. I would rehome the dog.

Dog!

"I love small dogs, a small dog suits me better."

That should not be how choosing a dog works!

I happen to love my pup and our lifestyle suits HIM. My DP would have preferred another breed but they would have been utterly miserable living where we live.
So selfish.