Husband walked out tonight

[Username2101]

In the past few weeks my steady reliable husband has changed drastically. He went on a works party and basically came back a different person, he's become extremely focused about his weight. He's going out every weekend with "friends" he's never mentioned before, he's coming home later and later from work and making excuses to get out of the house.

I confronted him tonight and asked him very bluntly wtf is going on, I mean all this basically screams other woman. He started going on about him wanting to spend time with his friends and that he's the ONLY person in the whole wide world who has to ask for permission. (He doesn't)

I told him if he wanted his freedom so badly he can pack his bags, piss off and have it permanently. He walked out and went to stay with his friend, the friend who has regular parties with all the local 18 year old girls who think that a 45 year old man with a big house and a swimming pool is exciting.

Now I'm panicking, what on earth do I tell the children in the morning about where their daddy has gone, I have 2 months left of my degree and I'm at bloody placement until May. How am I meant to advise people about their lives when mine is a disaster.

Love good updates, anyone going through the same can hopefully take comfort from it.

Fabulous 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

There is life after divorce, for those going through it, I hope it brings comfort to know that you will triumph.

2022 was a strange year that’s for sure. I went from being in a secure happy marriage, to my seemingly perfect husband walking out and running off with a girl young enough to be his daughter.

I was one of those who would read threads like this and knew for sure it would never happen to me, until it did.

My heart honestly goes out to anyone going through this, the pain and confusion is unimaginable. Just remember, although it seems there is no light at the end of the tunnel things do get better.

Im not going to lie and say things are perfect now, I still have bad days and nights where I relive things in my mind, but this is becoming less and easier to handle. I go through periods of wishing I could have done things differently and maybe it wouldn’t have happened. But in the end it’s a choice THEY made despite the many other options open to them.

I know my ex regrets everything, especially since he didn’t get the happily ever after he imagined. But then neither did I, but I’m hopeful for the future.

Loving the update @Username2101 so glad thing are better for you all, keep going 💪

great update

Thank you for keeping us updated.

Really glad things are starting to look up for you!

Really pleased to read your update op. I am 5 years down the line from something almost identical and am in a relationship with someone else, divorced, have bought my ex out of the family home and have a new job.

He split with the younger OW after a year or so (and I think most of that was because he didn't want it to look like a mid life crisis), then had another relationship which also ended after a couple of years. He is single (as far as I know), renting and certainly doesn't look happy (he was terribly unhappy with me apparently...which was news to me and just so happened to coincide with stating an affair at work).

We co-parent well though, which is the most important thing and get on fine now. What happened will always affect me and has changed me as a person but I refuse to let it ruin my future x

So pleased to hear you're thriving, OP!

Brilliant update.

You will get the future you deserve. And so will he.....

:)

Thank you for the update, it's so good that things are steadily getting better for you. Your thread gives hope for women in similar situations, to see that there is light at the end of the tunnel! Please continue to update, all the best 😊

When the same happened to me last year searching for others who had similar stories to my own was what got me through.
Lovely update thanks for sharing

Great to hear things going much better for you, thats how it usually is. You could try some type of trauma therapy to get rid of comebacks (like heavening or EMDR).
For all its worth, I was once the other woman, I was crazy in love, young and immature. My relationship with him after he left his wife was pretty shit, then it improved a bit due to huge efforts on my part, but it will never be as good as being with someone mature and simply nice. And I learnt this the hard way that people who cheat are immature, they dont know how to communicate their needs, so theres no way someone like that can have a good relationship. It has nothing to do with you, nobody is perfect, but with good communication, many issues could be solved. Its all on him and good riddance for you! In my case, I really struggled and feel like I paid for my mistake. I actually wish he cheated on me and left, so that I could stay with the house, the kids and have him feeling guilty and accomodating me. But hes not leaving and if he does, it would be because I separate and he would take everything he can, including custody of our child with whom he never spent a full day with. His ex wife seems to have found a good relationship, I dont know the inside details, but the new partner puts pictures of them together on social media praising her, they are travelling, he seems nice with her children or at least he does things for one of them ( I know some things from my stepchild). She seems much better off than me...