Help. Dp just fought me

[Givemelemons]

Just posted a thread about breaking up with my partner. He agreed I could sleep in the bed whilst he slept downstairs until I move out with our baby. Came upstairs he refused to leave and told me to sleep downstairs. I have a bad back and this got my back up as why we broke up is because he says things then just doesnt follow through with it.

I said fine I will pack a small bag go to my parents for the night then come back in the morning. I went to turn the light on and he turned it off like some kid. After some back and forthing of this he grabbed my hand multiple times really hard so i went to turn our side light on. He then proceeded to grab my legs (switch is on the floor) and dug in really bad. It still hurts. He got the quilt and pillows and anything he could and whacked me with it and it burns. He took the light bulbs out of the socket so I cant use it. All the meanwhile his dad stood outside our door listening and done and said nothing other than keep it down.

Does this count as physical abuse? He has pushed me as well and his parents talked it down to be nothing and so has he. He was angry at the time and blamed me for it

Bump please im shaking and my leg aches

Are you still in the house with him or are you at your parents now? You need to be somewhere safe.

If you can do this safely, I would call the police and say that you need to leave the house due to domestic violence and you want them to help you leave. What a horrible man and what a horrible dad he has as well.

Yes, it's abuse. He assaulted you. Please call the police and ask for assistance.

Yes im still in the house. Im distraught and shaking. Im only 5 ft and he is 6ft 4

This was assault. He assaulted you. Are you somewhere safe? If not, can you get somewhere safe? Can you safely call the police?

What happens to my baby

Pack what you need, call a taxi, get in it, leave , collect the rest of your stuff tomorrow with a friend/parent and NEVER go back to him.

Phone the police, him and his Dad need removed

What shall i do about my baby? She is soundly asleep. My partner said if i take her im a pyshco and its not best for her as its so late

Your baby stays with you

Yes it does count as physical abuse. Take your baby and the bag you have packed and get out, call the police and stay on the phone until you’re out. Other posters will be here with more detailed advice.

Where is he now while you’re posting this?

Of course he’s going to tell you not to take the baby. He’s just attacked you. He’s not in any position to tell you what’s right or wrong.

His family will defend him. They minimised him pushing me. My family will think im over reacting as well always have these spats. Help please I have no one and am all alone with my 1yr old here asleep

Phone the police, him and his Dad need to be removed

Take your baby, she is best with you. You are not a psycho for taking and protecting your baby from a man who assaults you in the house of another man who will stand by and allow it to happen. Please, call the police and ask for help.

Where do i go? I just spoke to my dsis and she said I should leave my child here. Im not comfortable with it

Take the baby and go to your parents. It is not better for her to stay with a violent waste of space and his enabling parents.

Your parents will give you somewhere safe tonight. That’s all you need to think about now.

Take your baby and leave this abusive fuck now.

@Givemelemons

What shall i do about my baby? She is soundly asleep. My partner said if i take her im a pyshco and its not best for her as its so late

She'll be fine, but she needs to stay with you and you need to leave. Can you lock yourself in the nursery and call the Police if you don't feel its safe to try and leave?

That means having to pack a travel cot and her bottles and some clothes.... all my family are saying it would be cruel to take her

Don't leave your child. Your partner is very angry and you really mustn't leave your child with him. You need to call the police on 999.

My partner is ... would you believe it....asleep downstairs. Yes after all that he went but not until he frightened me and made a point of it first. He was being difficult for nothing. My car keys are in the room he is in....

If his parents are there then I’m assuming you live in their house? Pack a bag, call a cab, take your baby and go to your parents’ house. Once you’re safe and settled then you can worry about what to do next. At the moment the whole so to action is volatile and toxic and nothing good is going to come from staying and arguing about who should sleep on the sofa.