Help. Dp just fought me

[Givemelemons]

Just posted a thread about breaking up with my partner. He agreed I could sleep in the bed whilst he slept downstairs until I move out with our baby. Came upstairs he refused to leave and told me to sleep downstairs. I have a bad back and this got my back up as why we broke up is because he says things then just doesnt follow through with it.

I said fine I will pack a small bag go to my parents for the night then come back in the morning. I went to turn the light on and he turned it off like some kid. After some back and forthing of this he grabbed my hand multiple times really hard so i went to turn our side light on. He then proceeded to grab my legs (switch is on the floor) and dug in really bad. It still hurts. He got the quilt and pillows and anything he could and whacked me with it and it burns. He took the light bulbs out of the socket so I cant use it. All the meanwhile his dad stood outside our door listening and done and said nothing other than keep it down.

Does this count as physical abuse? He has pushed me as well and his parents talked it down to be nothing and so has he. He was angry at the time and blamed me for it

@Givemelemons

That means having to pack a travel cot and her bottles and some clothes.... all my family are saying it would be cruel to take her

She can sleep in a bed for one night and wear what’ she’s sleeping in for an emergency like this.

Your family are seriously all saying to leave your child with someone who just attacked you?

You don’t need anything but your baby, everything else can be sorted after. Please call the police, leave with your baby whilst you are on the phone with the call handler and get to a safe public place with her. Travel cots and bottles can wait for now but you just need to get to safety.

Call the police. Take your baby and go. Ypur sister is wrong. You aren't a phsycho, you need to be safe.

I dont think anyone quite understands when i say i cant call the police. It will be my word against him and his family. It always has been thats why i have never bothered. My mum was in an abusive relationship with my dad so whenever i tell her things about him pushing me she just minimises it too

I feel like i really am crazy as he says and im making something out of nothing

He only gets like this when ive had enough. When its his way he is "happy" and everything is nice

Your baby stays safely with you, out of the house

Call the police. Dont go back to him

Call the police.

So what if it's your word against his? Why do you think they won't believe you?

You can call the police. It doesn't matter right now what his parents say

@SleepingStandingUp because his family come across very respectable and level headed.

My sister has said i cant drag my baby out now its way too late.

I cant do this anymore i feel like im going insane

Your word is important and it matters. It is hard, but you can be strong for your baby and get her and you out.

You absolutely can take the baby. Just because your mum has had bad experiences doesn't mean you give up.

My sister saids it too cold and late. I cant drag my child out. Maybe she is right. Should i just go to sleep and leave in the morning.

Your baby can sleep anywhere. It's the ultimate cruelty to leave a baby with a violent man.

You aren't insane

No woman who felt safe in her own home would get her and a sleeping baby into a taxi and leave at midnight. You are clearly not safe and I couldn’t imagine that your motivation would be questioned no matter how respectable his family appear. Call the police and get out with your baby.

@Givemelemons

My sister saids it too cold and late. I cant drag my child out. Maybe she is right. Should i just go to sleep and leave in the morning.

No! Call the police. Leave.

It’s not your sister’s decision. You were there when your boyfriend attacked you. You need go keep your child safe.

Everyone is saying he wouldnt hurt my dc which is true. I just dont feel comfortable leaving her alone here though....if she stays i stay

@Givemelemons

Everyone is saying he wouldnt hurt my dc which is true. I just dont feel comfortable leaving her alone here though....if she stays i stay

Who is “everyone”?

@PurpleDaisies my partner and my family.

Nobody on here is saying to leave your child with someone who attacked you.

DO NOT leave the baby.
It’s not that cold. That’s rubbish.
Please go to your parents.

I imagine "everyone" wouldn't have thought he'd hurt you either

You must take your baby with you. It isn’t cruel. She or he will wake up for a bit, then go back to sleep. Better that than to wake up in the morning and wonder where mum is. Also, will he let you back in to get the baby if you leave? Probably eventually but he may well play games to punish you for leaving. You’re her mum, he and his family are abusive so she needs to be with you. Your sister sounds like she just can’t be bothered.

Leg has stopped aching as much. I think my adrenaline has died down as i now feel shattered. I cant leave with my baby at this time of night but i will start packing now for the morning.

My partners family will not make it easy to leave. They always defend him and talk down the situation then persuade me to stay.

I just want out of this abusive cycle