I’m 50. How realistic is it that I’ll meet someone?

[MasFina]

Obviously, nobody knows the answer to the question. But I’m sad and fed up with trying to meet someone nice. I’ve done a lot of online dating over the past three years - a lot! - without much success and I’m starting to think it must be me. Most people meet someone, right?! It’s usually me that pulls the plug on a conversation or taking it further - there have been opportunities but generally me that’s not interested, mainly because I just don’t meet the men I like i.e competent, articulate men who have their lives together. Good dads, divorced, with a reasonable job basically. Maybe this type stays married

I feel I should give up - but surely, how hard can it be??

I live in a regional city, have some good friends (mainly female but a couple of male friends) but don’t really do ‘hobbies’ where I’d meet someone. Work is v female orientated. Single parent to one DD age 10.

Why is it so difficult to meet someone I like? I think I’m normal but it feels hopeless!

[quote LargeProsecco]@Musttryharder2021 - if I was about 2st lighter I might feel more confident about a more casual encounter. I'm just too self-conscious & if I'm honest - a little vulnerable. [/quote]
Don't be! Life is short and you don't want to another ten years to pass...Fabswingers offers casual sex on tap. Al shapes and sizes, something for everyone...and since the ratio of women to men is heavily skewed you'll be inundated (any woman is!). Just a suggestion of course...

After i left my sellers marriage I had a fling with someone 10 years younger on my post grad course. He was a senior fireman and fit and just lovely. We also had a disaster with my period. Honestly, I was so drunk and it was so mortifying and he was well, just so caring that it gave me all the confidence I needed to start again.

Not impossible. One of the happiest marriages I ever knew, were a couple who met at work in their early 50's. He had been briefly. very unhappily married then divorced. She had never had a man because she spent the prime of her life supporting her frail highly demanding parents; now dead.
They adored each other for 30 years.

I could never have sex casually, like FabSwingers, as I really need to feel something for someone - and deeply. This is probably why I’m so sexually inexperienced!! But, it’s the way I feel.

I was dumped at 50 for the usual younger woman. I went through years of OLD to no effect. I then took up an unusual hobby and met my now partner last year through it. We are extremely happy and very much a committed couple. We are 57. I had absolutely given up and was adjusting to the fact I would be single for the rest of my life and was living it to the full at the time he came around. It took nearly 7 years of building back my self esteem though from the fall out of the affair my ex had. I just kept going.

Single is bliss. I am in my fifties and have been single since ds was five months old. He is now 17. I really relish me time hobbies and friends. I am much healthier and happier for it.

I have been married three times before living briefly with my sons dad. So have definitely tried relationships. Not my cup of tea.I

So nice to hear some positive stories. 50 here too. So 🤞🤞🤞