If your parter was bisexual would it bother you?

[RedRobyn2021]

I'm watching the love is blind on Netflix and one of the people participating has been with both men and women, but has decided he wants to be with a woman and has gone on the show

Anyway it got me thinking and would a man being bisexual put you off him?

I used to have a boyfriend who I knew had kissed other men when drunk a few times

He was AMAZING in bed, absolutely gorgeous and I fell in love with him quickly, it never even occurred to me to be bothered that he'd kissed men. Although he hadn't had sex with a man as far as he told me, so perhaps that different?

Interested to hear others thoughts

COMPLETELY off topic, but I've just binged the whole series and didn't pick up on this at all - who was it ?

I can't imagine anyone complaining if a gay man didn't want to be with a bisexual man thank you!!!! Agree

@MonkeyPuddle I hear you, same as me, I'm monogamous and wouldn't cheat on my partner, some people are, some people aren't, no matter their sexuality. My thought is that I wouldn't be enough in the long term, when or if the mundane took over, as it invariably does in long term relationships, I couldn't provide what my partner craves. I'm not saying they would look for it but they could feel resentment and it could lead to insecurity and overall weakening of the relationship

@flashpaper Why do you think gay men wouldn’t want to date bisexual men?

I would hope no-one is complaining on here about other people’s preferences. I would be as interested in a gay man’s reasons as I am a heterosexual womdn’s reasons. Question doesn’t equal complaint.

[quote Simonjt]@flashpaper Why do you think gay men wouldn’t want to date bisexual men?[/quote]
Because
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I don’t care what people’s turn offs are!!!

@DoreenBoland

I would hope no-one is complaining on here about other people’s preferences. I would be as interested in a gay man’s reasons as I am a heterosexual womdn’s reasons. Question doesn’t equal complaint.

I notice you didn't question this poster. Is there a reason for that or has your interest in this been answered?

I’m a lesbian and would rather avoid relationships with bisexual women, it’s not bi phobia or a fear they will cheat, I just find male attraction a big turn off, I can’t relate to it

@Sorehandsandfeet here’s to partners deserving of us 🥂

I wouldn’t like it at all

No it wouldn't bother me.

It would bother me if they said they were bi but wanted only to date women now (as in the OP) unless there was a really good reason why.

@ChickenStripper, you’re so right, I didn’t address this. I appreciate the honesty here, it makes total sense.

Being put off by people being into things we’re not is a huge part of the human experience.

Of course some people are more attracted to people we find relatable. That’s totally understandable.

I really do appreciate people engaging, especially as I’ve somewhat railroaded the thread!

@DoreenBoland - I suppose I could get over it but it just wouldn’t sit well with me.

It would be different to any other historical partner because they’re the same sex. I also wouldn’t want to be worrying about STDs either.

For what it’s worth I did know a few gay/bisexual men and a few were known not to use condoms etc. I actually years ago had a bisexual man who’d been married and was coming onto me whilst he was with his gay partner, who wasn’t happy! I of course declined to get involved. It was mostly because I was young, innocent and not easily shocked that he was interested.

"From personal experience of bisexual men, if they're willing to take dick, that is their preference"

Not all gay guys "take dick", never mind bisexual men!

[quote Simonjt]@flashpaper Why do you think gay men wouldn’t want to date bisexual men?[/quote]
I don’t understand this either? I mean I’m sure there are some who do have a problem with it but also some who don’t (just as on this thread there are women with different views). I don’t think you can really generalise about gay men’s preferences any more than straight women’s?!

Personally I don’t have a problem with it at all. It’s about fidelity and trust.

Lots of people don't believe that bisexuality exists especially in the case of men.

That's lots of homophobic cultural stuff about men with a same sex histories, people feel it makes them un manly, somehow more femine, tainted and a bit dirty

Oddly it doesn't work in reverse for bisexuality women usually

@lulabellz123

Also alot of women dont identify as bisexual but I'm sure straight women are also attracted to some extent to other women too. I think most straight women watch lesbian porn as it helps them get off...

@lulabellz123 - nah not me. A few years ago my best friend was a lesbian, still is. But she started off heterosexual so she’s technically bisexual I guess. But her partners for the past 20 years have been women. I used to hang around with her and a few of her lesbian friends were unfriendly to me, not openly though. Partly probably because my brother had dated her as a teenager. Anyway occasionally they’d talk about if I fancied them but mostly in jest. There was only one woman ever I thought I might like to kiss, nothing else and I never did do it. I mean yes in high school I suppose I wanted to be like or had I suppose sort of crushes on some girls but these were Spanish and Italian parentage girls so totally different to my white English roots!

But no as I stated before I’m generally genuinely not attracted to women in any sense.

@MonkeyPuddle

But these threads always come down to bisexual = untrustworthy.

Nah mate. Just cos I have more choose doesn’t mean I’m going to sample all the buffet.

@MonkeyPuddle - I think it’s a common misconception that bisexual people as a whole are untrustworthy. I don’t know how that’s come about, maybe it’s anecdotal etc.

I don’t generally think all bisexual people are untrustworthy and it also depends if they class themselves as bisexual.

I knew of some friends years ago where one was a lesbian and another straight friend decided to have a relationship. In our friendship group we found this fascinating because to us, some of the women, we wondered “why?! What’s so attractive about dating/having sex with another woman?” Yet a year or so later my other friend is whi was asking the latter questions had a 3some with a man and his girlfriend so my friend must’ve been curious herself.

Definitely a no from me but on MN, people tell you that you are a terrible person for saying that which I find ridiculous. Everyone has a preference to what they are attracted to. Mine is to be with a man who is attracted to women only.

I watched LIB S1 today too!

I would have a problem with it. I think I would wonder too much about the other side of his attractions and feel incapable of satisfying it. So I wouldn’t go there as it feels so complicated.

But on LIB it was the fact he didn’t say it upfront that was so terrible!

I am bisexual, as is DH (he actually ID'd as gay for a while before we met), so obvs I'm fine with it. I have actually only ever encountered the "it's just a personal preference of mine to find bisexual people untrustworthy and disgusting" brigade on MN. I think if I met someone in real life who said that I'd develop a quick personal preference to not be friends with them.