My OH is bi, which he did “reveal” very early on in the dating process, as well as having been previously married. I also then shared some info I feel is relevant about myself… I guess these facts about ourselves are what some people would call “deal breakers”. To others they are non-news and everyday stuff.
I suppose in our case we put these things out there early doors so as not to have invested too much time should the other person take issue with these.
On the other hand you also need some degree of familiarity / trust to share with this person.
It’s a tough one.
Had that been the case though, neither of us would have been offended. Disappointed maybe. Hurt, probably.
But peoples preferences are rarely rational or something they can control. Usually a product of past experiences / upbringing whatever it may be.
I always just think whatever it is, and regardless if it’s a deal breaker for you personally, be kind. They are sharing something they’ve probably been knocked back for previously.
Spose it’s all just part of the dating game!
In our case, neither of our “deal breakers” were a problem at all, as it turned out.
He is without doubt the most kind, considerate and amazing partner I’ve ever had and I’m thankful every day we met.
It never enters my mind about the sexuality, but for his ex wife it was a big problem.
Everyone is different.
I will say he definitely educated me on the whole perception of sexuality, the etiquette of it all etc. and I’ve grown as a person so much due to this.
It will ultimately come down to is this person the right one for you?
And if they are, none of it really matters.