Ah the old 'see me on the loo' conundrum. Used to hate the idea of my partner seeing me on the loo, but at the end of the day they see all my bits and pieces quite often and sometimes there's period sex or squirting or an unfortunate fart ... and as for childbirth well that's the ultimate 'cannot unsee' experience 🤪
Yea the living together or not thing is going to linger. Could do with a magic wand that got us two houses very near each other, where no one needs to compromise living arrangements but you can still pool resources to a certain extent.
Generally MrD's routine is healthy, he's teetotal (with the exception that he's an ageing raver and will still indulge but that's a whole other thread), is generous and financially comfortable, organises fun stuff, very expressive and loving, does his cold water swims, yoga, therapy, does the shopping, sorts the kids uniform, ironing, cooks, runs his own business etc. (do you need me to tell you that he's bi he's very 'queer eye'). The things I don't like are: no pension (but investments), can be shouty with his DC and doesn't even realise it, the infrequent indulgences, his reactions to his ex (he's very reactive rather than thinking about his response), his adhd, and then anxiety which builds when he's having a bad work week.
Basically I'd like to nest with him when it suits me and then go back to my house next door when I'm not feeling it. Probably like the rest of us ... I am wondering if the looming recession is going to force us all to make some difficult decisions. I'm already finding things way more of a pinch and have spent a lot of my savings this year, also because I haven't been able to work since an accident last year, but just getting back to it now.
Sorry I don't think I solved anything for anyone there 😁