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45 year old DH liking 24 year old girl Instagram pictures

176 replies

Anonkatemummyof2 · 21/02/2022 04:08

The title says it all really, me and DH don’t really use Instagram a lot ‘well that’s what I thought’ I was scrolling through his followings last night when I came across a pretty young girl, so out of curiosity I had a look at her profile and pretty much all of her pictures DH has liked them? I thought it was just a random following at first until I found out this girl works at DH workplace ‘A work ID badge around her neck” gave it away, I looked at her followings and she is following DH and has also liked a few of his pictures. Should I be concerned or am I overacting? Him being 45 and liking a 24 year olds picture has made me feel a little bit sick. I can’t do any further digging as I don’t have access to any of his socials. I should add that most of her pictures are quite revealing. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I know it’s ridiculous but I’m writing this at 4:05 as I can’t sleep, it’s been on my mind ever sinceConfused

OP posts:
Scottishskifun · 21/02/2022 04:20

Your over reacting unless he is also sending inappropriate messages to her.

I like multiple pictures a day male and female doesn't mean anything.

Original poster
Anonkatemummyof2 · 21/02/2022 04:21

I have spoken to a friend about the whole situation who has tried to reassure me by saying what does a 23 year old want with my nearly 50 year old DH lol

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Anonkatemummyof2 · 21/02/2022 04:21

@Anonkatemummyof2

I have spoken to a friend about the whole situation who has tried to reassure me by saying what does a 23 year old want with my nearly 50 year old DH lol
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Scottishskifun · 21/02/2022 04:22

Would add depends on level of quite revealing unless he is only liking the ones of her in her underwear or is it she just has some cleavage on shoe and is wearing latest fashions

leviosa123 · 21/02/2022 04:27

I wouldn't like it personally

user1481840227 · 21/02/2022 04:49

@Scottishskifun

Your over reacting unless he is also sending inappropriate messages to her.

I like multiple pictures a day male and female doesn't mean anything.

It totally does mean something.

Most decent mature 45 year olds would have the common sense and maturity to know that if they like every revealing picture that a 24 year old puts up that she will think he fancies her and they wouldn't want to look like creeps so they wouldn't do it.

I sometimes see men doing this and think they are sad bastards!

OP I know instagram wasn't a thing 20 years ago but if it had and you were 24 and a 45 year old was liking all of your pics then you know what you would have thought!!

user1481840227 · 21/02/2022 04:54

She might just like some back to be polite but without a doubt she thinks he fancies her.

It's embarrassing.

Also I would assume that he sometimes talks to her in because in a way it's even creepier if he doesn't ....if he just liked all her pics and then never said a word to her when he saw her around!

WTF475878237NC · 21/02/2022 05:25

I wouldn't like this and my husband and our friends would think this was embarrassing. Presumably he isn't liking revealing photos of 24 year old men?

GiantHaystacks2021 · 21/02/2022 05:34

Nope.
I wouldn't be happy about this at all, especially as you say the pictures are quite revealing.

I'd be keeping an eye on things.

cs98127634 · 21/02/2022 05:53

I'm 25 and have older colleagues who do this. It just comes across as creepy. I might like the some back if I thought it might impact my career if he felt snubbed.

Migrainesbythedozen · 21/02/2022 06:11

@Anonkatemummyof2

I have spoken to a friend about the whole situation who has tried to reassure me by saying what does a 23 year old want with my nearly 50 year old DH lol
Your friend really has no idea, OP. Girls are always falling for older, more experienced men. Life is filled with young women/girls with older men. Affairs, crushes, etc. Riddled with it.

I would not be comfortable with this at all and I would absolutely confront him.

BOOTS52 · 21/02/2022 06:14

It is just pervy and creepy. As another poster said if a man was doing that if we post photos when we were younger (didn't have social media then) we would just think dirty b. He needs to grow up and stop sitting like a young woman's photo that he works with which is even worse. Talk to him and just tell him it comes across creepy and he needs to cop on. Or sit there one evening and start liking young males with their shirts off and see how he likes it. Thank god we did not have all this to deal with when we were younger. had to go to a phone box to ring a boyfriend, easier times in the late 80's/90's. He will be having a mid life crisis soon so talk to him and see what he says.

illyawasthebest · 21/02/2022 06:16

Why were you looking at who he was following? Has something made you worry?

Seema1234 · 21/02/2022 06:21

Would you 'like' photos of a 24 year old male colleague? Probably not. Of course it's creepy and weird, but he's making himself look foolish.

Chocaholic9 · 21/02/2022 06:39

Yes, it's creepy.

Ladybugzrock · 21/02/2022 06:44

I’d agree with the above posters, this would cross a uncomfortable line for me.

Is this a boundary for you? If on reflection you decide it is, you need to firm those boundaries up with him and talk to him.

Aquamarine1029 · 21/02/2022 06:56

Your husband is making a tit out of himself. I'd be disgusted with him.

Anothergreatday · 21/02/2022 06:56

@Scottishskifun

Your over reacting unless he is also sending inappropriate messages to her.

I like multiple pictures a day male and female doesn't mean anything.

Absolute not overeacting The way many young womens pictures are presenting on indtagram are little short of soft porn You have Instagram literally full of women with their asses showing legs spread looking back over shoulders seductively or in the barest minimum of clothing whereas when a woman likes a males picture ( even a celebrity) he’s unlikely to have his ass out or legs spread . It’s likely just some short off muscle pic And why the hell is he liking her pics . Is he also liking and commenting on pics of 24 yr old males who are dressed revealingly . I doubt it It’s seedy and gross . Personally I let him at it and leave , see how she likes his droopy Willy ib a few years ……
Shoxfordian · 21/02/2022 07:01

It’s really creepy
I wouldn’t be at all impressed if my dh did that

Anothergreatday · 21/02/2022 07:02

Btw obviously I’m not saying her photos were as extreme as that but the point is it’s a platform that a lot of men ‘use’ .
The fact he’s chosen revealing pictures of 24 yr old woman would certainly have me wondering ‘ why those pictures in particular ‘

NashvilleQueen · 21/02/2022 07:09

A lot depends on the nature of the photos I think. Someone refers to them as revealing but I'm not sure the OP said that. She's got a work lanyard on in one apparently so I'm guessing that's not an underwear shot.

There are many potential options some of which are:

He regularly likes photos of people he follows regardless of whether they're posted by men or women. No issues for me.

He likes only her photos because he has a thing for her. That's a worry.

He only likes photos posted by young girls. He's a bit sleazy.

I'd do a bit more monitoring. If he is doing it 'innocently' then others may notice and he might make a bit of a fool of himself at work.

NashvilleQueen · 21/02/2022 07:10

Sorry you did say they were revealing. So that's a bit more creepy.

AnyFucker · 21/02/2022 07:11

How embarrassing

tootiredtospeak · 21/02/2022 07:14

I would have a word tell himits a bit leery and could get him in trouble in his workplace if it was to make her feel uncomfortable. Also say it hurts you feelings if it was an actress or someone never to be seen its different. Still a bit icky but not real life. In real life that's not ok.

GeneLovesJezebel · 21/02/2022 07:18

Some young females seem to like split up marriages, so you’re right to be concerned. I’d be keeping an eye on it without letting him know.
I put a stop to this when my DH commented on a picture, I asked him if he would say it to her face. He realised his mistake at that point and came off SM.

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