Ex didn't bring our son home

[VeganAvoToast]

I've name changed. I guess I'm posting to see if anyone else has been through this? What happened? I'm in pieces. My son is 7. Ex sent me a screenshot of confirmation of mid term admission to another primary school which he says he is taking our son to see tomorrow. Our son who already sturggles with emtional regualtion and long standing tics. I've called the police but as he has parental responsibility there is nothing they can do.

Agree with the above. Contact would be stopped until I had a court order in place.

Glad you’re both back home safely and your son doesn’t seem too distressed.

Good luck for your appointment on Wednesday.

Oh OP I came to check this thread to see if your boy is okay and I'm so glad he's back home where he belongs. Hope both of you get a good night's sleep.

As for father of the year choosing to move away and then being an arse about driving to see his son he chose to move away from, good on you for keeping that solicitors appointment!

So glad to hear you got your boy back x

Glad he’s home good luck with the solicitor on Wednesday

So glad he's home with you.
All the best with next steps.

So glad he's home. What a mess. Still take legal advice, this needs to be logged in case he does anything else stupid in the future.

So glad your son is home!

I’ve been following along but had no advice to give, I’m so glad your boys home safe❤️

O I feel for you. I was in this situation and it continied for several years. This was with several different court orders!
Even with a court order it's seen as a civil issue and tbh the police aren't interested unless there are safeguarding conserns. Again, even with a court order breaking the court order is seen as contempt of court. But realistically even when you go back to court and prove this is happening, nothing gets done. The courts will look for a resolution rather than a punishment for the one breaking the order.
If he's the kind of man who respects the law and will keep to an order, than that's the way to go. If he's not then I would think long and hard about how you can make contact easier and less stressful, maybe you're have to give a bit (eg do some of the driving ) and think of other ways to detach yourself from such a shitty person.
My situation only stopped when there were significant safeguarding conserns. It's about power and control, unfortunately you may well find when one issue is resolved there be another and another. Good luck

@VeganAvoToast how did your meeting go today

Get a lawyer ASAP. The fact he's taken your child to a different country under a different court jurisdiction is going to help you here. Not brushing a 7 year olds teeth isn't neglect though as long as he's providing the toothpaste and brush. Neither is not reading a bedtime story. These are all just differing parenting techniques that's sadly you have to live with when you're separated with a child. I say this as someone who knows it all to well. You have to let those things drop as it will just make you more stressed to worry about it constantly

How did you get one, hope everything going well

Hi, I had to rebook solicitors for tomorrow due to a work meeting today. Will post once I have had the appointment.

Thank you so much for following up

Get a court application in asap (c100).

@KneadingKitty

Agree with the above. Contact would be stopped until I had a court order in place.

Alienating the child will not work in op's favour

@VeganAvoToast

Hi, I had to rebook solicitors for tomorrow due to a work meeting today. Will post once I have had the appointment.

Thank you so much for following up

Any update?

Waiting for legal representation/court proceedings wouldn't it be classed as alienation. Especially under these circumstances. OP has good reason to be worried that ds will not be returned.

@VeganAvoToast how are things?