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Is this a hotel ?

245 replies

anon50 · 12/02/2022 01:29

I know this may sound weird, but from this image does this look like it's in a hotel.
I know it's a bit hard to tell but all opinions are very much welcome.

Is this a hotel ?
OP posts:
Grayday · 12/02/2022 13:39

Building surveyor here, it's a fire door with auto closer but doesn't look like fire exit instructions, looks like a menu/price list to me. Reminds me of a beauty clinic type place.

Meklk · 12/02/2022 13:40

No-chain on the door. Hotel would never do a chain thing.
For me it looks like a private rent for rooms/flats ( then fire exit plans must be visible-on the door)

crabappleof · 12/02/2022 13:48

@Grayday

Building surveyor here, it's a fire door with auto closer but doesn't look like fire exit instructions, looks like a menu/price list to me. Reminds me of a beauty clinic type place.
I thought it reminded me of something like this - I originally thought some sort of medical waiting room. The light doesn't really look like a hotel room light.
LIZS · 12/02/2022 14:01

I guess it could be a waiting room, dentist, therapy or cosmetic clinic for example, but those are not the type of pics usually on the wall. Often there are advertising or information posters.

IncompleteSenten · 12/02/2022 14:11

Read your other thread now.

Does it really matter where this photo was taken? He's an abusive, lying cheater who only married you to get to the UK.
If that is all you think you are worth please please ask for help.

Best case scenario here if you don't take action is he leaves you once he doesn't need you any more.
Worst case is he stays and continues treating you like shit

longwayoff · 12/02/2022 14:12

Lighting is horrendous. Surely a clinical type setting? Even a cheap hotel should look a but more comfortable than that. Knockdown price teeth whitening?

affairsofdragons · 12/02/2022 14:12

Meh

Just tell him to share his location on his phone immediately or you're done.

Aphantasia · 12/02/2022 14:13

@Tiann92 I’ve just read your other thread, I’m confused, did you forgive him and stay with him and you’ve just found that picture now? He’s honestly not worth staying with. He clearly doesn’t have an honest bone in his body and has absolutely no respect for you. And regardless of what he says he can’t love you if he’s behaving like this. You deserve SO much better. Please leave him, can you honestly imagine being happy going forward with no trust and knowing that he’s happy to gaslight you into despair and anxiety?

If you were my friend in real life I’d be telling you to leave, this will never heal and be better till you pick off the scab

AgentJohnson · 12/02/2022 14:26

You could check the meta data of the photo it might show the location if he hasn’t already switched it off. Urgh, why are you putting yourself through this?

Tiann92 · 12/02/2022 14:29

I just want to thank everyone for their views I didn't think that many people would comment.
Our marriage was always genuine on my part I believed he loved me but I can't say to same for the genuinity on his part and 4 years of my life has been wasted. The person that he was in Nigeria, that person didn't come to the U.K. last year this person I don't know who he is now and that's not the person I fell in love with.
Various more things have happened that I haven't posted about, but this picture he posted on his Facebook was after we had said the marriage was over. And to me it did look like a hotel I just needed other people's thoughts, he works 4 days a week and always does 2 days overtime so the only times I know he has been somewhere else was to hospital appointments or recently he went to look for another job and did some training, but that's not saying that when he did his overtime he didn't actually go elsewhere i.e to hotels.
Now i do realise the marriage is over which last year I was in denial that all that happened so it's just how do I move on? He won't leave immediately so I feel like I'm trapped, he is Due to have surgery any time now which is why I think he is delaying. He has been abusive to me and I took the decision he was doing that because he thought I was weak so I started to hit him back but in some of those moments he recorded me so he has started to threaten me with these videos , I have a few pictures of bruises ect he has done to me. He is 6ft2 and 19 stone so obviously I feel it a lot more when he hit me. But all this is honestly too much , I just want my life back I'm 30 this year. It's depressing.

Tiann92 · 12/02/2022 14:32

@LIZS

I guess it could be a waiting room, dentist, therapy or cosmetic clinic for example, but those are not the type of pics usually on the wall. Often there are advertising or information posters.
Could it be a fertility clinic ? He went there a few weeks back .
Tiann92 · 12/02/2022 14:33

This was that image on the door zoomed in.

Is this a hotel ?
Tiann92 · 12/02/2022 14:34

@longwayoff

Lighting is horrendous. Surely a clinical type setting? Even a cheap hotel should look a but more comfortable than that. Knockdown price teeth whitening?
If it was a clinic the lighting would be better though right ?
2021s · 12/02/2022 14:38

Looks more like a hospital to me

Tiann92 · 12/02/2022 14:39

These are the type of messages he sends when I ask for the truth

Is this a hotel ?
Is this a hotel ?
Merryoldgoat · 12/02/2022 14:40

IT DOESN’T MATTER WHERE IT IS!

Ffs OP! Why are you concentrating on wholly unimportant details? He’s an abusive cheat.

Pick yourself up and get rid of him TODAY.

Tiann92 · 12/02/2022 14:41

@LIZS

Does he have a visa or indefinite leave to remain yet? Sadly that is not a prison cell or detention centre.
His visa is a spousal visa.
Goldenbunny · 12/02/2022 14:41

When I lived I shared accomodation the signs was on all the bedroom doors. Was something to do with it being a shared house to comply with insurance they had to have signs. Could he be visiting someone in a shared house.

Tiann92 · 12/02/2022 14:43

@NEUserNamesNotTakenJeez

I personally think it's weird he's not trying to reassure you. Surely he'd say where it was and casually say what the deal is... My partner doesn't have fbk either but if he went on mine and seen anything he considered suspicious, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest to tell him the background info. It does look like hotel/B&B accommodation to me but I'm not familiar with flat set ups. It's frustrating not knowing why someone won't just be open about things in a relationship, they don't realise if everything was generally upfront then you wouldn't feel the need to push further 🙄 sorry you're in this position, try to look after yourself as best you can.
To him I shouldn't be on his Facebook as he's entitled to a "private life" that's why he acuse me of stalking .
Tiann92 · 12/02/2022 14:44

@Goldenbunny

When I lived I shared accomodation the signs was on all the bedroom doors. Was something to do with it being a shared house to comply with insurance they had to have signs. Could he be visiting someone in a shared house.
That's the thing I wouldn't even know because he's so secretive
IncompleteSenten · 12/02/2022 14:50

His visa is spousal?
Then divorce him.

Please tell me you don't have children by him.

IncompleteSenten · 12/02/2022 14:51

Go to immigration service and say you believe he deceived you into marriage. Maybe they can help speed things up.

kittensinthekitchen · 12/02/2022 14:52

So this photo was taken/posted after your relationship ended?

RG2468 · 12/02/2022 14:55

I don’t see why the detail matters when the bigger picture - he’s cheats on you - he beats you up, he’s dishonest , he’s gaslighting you. All these things matter. Oh OP I wish I could just open your eyes - fill you with love and confidence. Reassure you that when this man is out of your life you will be infinitely better. You’re only 30 so so so young so much life ahead of you. Please just leave him. You don’t need more evidence, you do not need more bruises, more lying, you need no more pain in your life.

bettytaghetti · 12/02/2022 14:59

@Tiann92 on your other thread many posters suggested contacting Women's Aid. Please, please do this and speak to someone who can properly advise you what steps to take. This POS has got you so confused that you cannot think straight. Do you have any rl friends you can turn to? Flowers