Is this a hotel ?

[anon50]

I know this may sound weird, but from this image does this look like it's in a hotel.
I know it's a bit hard to tell but all opinions are very much welcome.

Yes definitely looks like a hotel to me - air con above the door and the fire-safety door.

@Amandasummers

Yes op, where has he said he is?

He just said it isn't a hotel . That's all.

@HirplesWithHaggis

People might have air con in their flat. They might have double locks, a peep hole and a chain. But they wouldn't usually have fire escape instructions.

And as said, the bathroom off to the side. It's a standard hotel set up. All that's missing is the Corby trouser press.

But don't in some flats have safety instructions? I also thought that might be a bathroom to the right.

I have never seen flats, even serviced apartments, with those instructions on the door. I have seen many, many hotel rooms with them, probably all of them, it's some sort of legal requirement.

I'm sorry. He's lying to you.

Definitely hotel

@HirplesWithHaggis

I have never seen flats, even serviced apartments, with those instructions on the door. I have seen many, many hotel rooms with them, probably all of them, it's some sort of legal requirement.

I'm sorry. He's lying to you.

I knew it too, I literally was shaking so bad when I saw that picture because I knew it, I just needed confirmation from people. There has only been one time it was in December when I knew he hadn't gone to work like he said he was doing for overtime

So he won't tell you exactly where he is and because he's been caught out is turning it around on you for 'stalking him'

He's a lying bastard who is gaslighting you.
Sorry op.

He's not as smart as he thought he was, is he?

@SpacePotato

So he won't tell you exactly where he is and because he's been caught out is turning it around on you for 'stalking him'

He's a lying bastard who is gaslighting you.
Sorry op.

Oh yeah I've been stalking him not letting him breathe he can't do anything blah blah but then I find out stuff like this, is there no wonder why there is no trust.

What's your next step then?

@HirplesWithHaggis

What's your next step then?

Our marriage is obviously over, but I just want honesty and to know the truth of everything of everything that has happened I just don't think I'm going to get it .

@HirplesWithHaggis

What's your next step then?

Can I post his Facebook on here or is that against privacy rules ??

I think you're right on that one. I hope he goes quietly.

No, don't post his FB!

@HirplesWithHaggis

I think you're right on that one. I hope he goes quietly.

How do I get over not knowing the truth though, it's ate me apart since last year, all the sneakiness and me finding out stuff. But I've never had the truth always lies and denials . So how do I get over it, I just want to know everything.

You’re well rid of him; that jacket/shirt he’s wearing is dodgy.

However, those two small framed pictures high on the wall aren’t really hotel-style.

💐. Op. I’m so sorry.
Remember you don’t need to confront him right away or at all. Do what you need to do to make sure you leave safely and with all the information you need.

And it’s definitely a hotel

@SoosanCarter

You’re well rid of him; that jacket/shirt he’s wearing is dodgy.

However, those two small framed pictures high on the wall aren’t really hotel-style.

That's what I was thinking could someone's flat, but stupid be literally spent over a hour looking for hotels like the picture, this is how crazy he has sent me.

I understand wanting to know. But the truth you do know is that he's a liar (and not even a very good one) and you can't believe a word he says. What did he say last time? And where is he supposed to be at this time on a Friday night/Saturday morning?

Yeah for sure that is a hotel. The door, lock, air con, presumably ensuite door.

Whatever your gut is saying OP, trust it.

If it is a hotel, it’s a cheap one. I remember your previous post. I’m sorry but you need to wake up, smell the coffee and get out.

Think you just have to accept you've got all the most important information. Which is that he's a lying scumbag and your marriage is over. You know in your heart he's cheated. You know you can't trust him. You know you need to make an exit plan. Those are all the most important things. Because he's a liar, even if he told you the truth you wouldn't know for sure that it was the truth. So you accept there's nothing he can say or do that will comfort you or make you feel better in any way. You want the truth and the details but it's one of those situations where you have to accept that you can't have what you want. It's rotten though

The door looks like a hotel, but the pictures on the wall don’t fit (to me, anyway).

Don't most hotels use the card system, where you and not a standard key and chain on the inside? I've never seen that in even the cheapest hotels for a very long time.

I'm not saying he's not a lying twat or that it's not dodgy but I'm wondering if it's more like a place of some kind of business because that thing on the inside of the door also looks more like a price list to me than fire instructions.

Massage place or something? With the chain on the door to stop someone walking in?

Where did he tell you he was going tonight?